Talking without thinking

oh ...i have done that many times and always find it comes back later to bite me in the butt ....there is actually a name for it and it is called "foot in mouth disease" ....in my case I think its a chronic disease ....does anyone out there have a cure have a good day

not that I+d be aware of. I'm a type of person who thinks twice before blurting out something I lknow will make no sense or anything. I'd say try to think before you say anything, it helps. maybe at first it's kind of weird, but you'll get used to it. :]

Personally I think at one time or another, many of us have done this, and the outcome may not always be like we had hoped. If we could only go back and think about what we have said and resay it all in a different way the outcome could be so much different as well. That is why saying something to someone usually before you have time to think about it, even though it might seem right at the time could be detrimental to all later on. So the Best thing is let it go and try and apologize and show her or him who you really are, and hope in time they decide to come around.

Sometimes I do that but only with my best friend. With other people I was afraid of offending them and make the conversation become ambiguous. But I have some friends who can speak without thinking and do it well. They can respond quickly what other people say and of course not out of the conversation area.

Well, there is no solutions with that problem. The best things you should do must be to learn who really you are. Then you realize that your more things which is not suitable to say

I haven't done that actually. But there were times that I misunderstood what was being talked about and ended up arguing with the person. But in both our situations, the best advice is always to listen first before voicing out your thoughts.

I'm not much on talking without thinking, part of being an introvert.

I think we all do this from time to time. I tend to do it when my wife asks me a question when I am involved in doing something. It can be quite funny as the way I reply to her often doesn't make any sense at all! _Derek

Hello Eil_noz, I know unfourtunatelly of what you are talking about. I used to talk like you did. And I also loose a very intelligent friend. Well, we underwent on rebates... both... and this all hurted me... that I just let him go away. This is very sad... and is also tired. You spent time and effort. So, just love you a little bit more. And try to avoid this kind of nonsense energy wasting situations. Blessings!... Dainy

This sometimes could happened to anyone even to those who are very careful with their words and to those who we consider as people of few words. This is always my scenario with my husband especially when I am emotionally overwhelmed with anger. I keep talking of the things that I haven't thought of the consequence first and before I realize , the whole thing became berserk already. How to avoid it? Well, there is one lesson I have learned though. Do not speak when you are angry.Do not speak when you have nothing good to say especially when you are not sure if you're friends or the people around you can take what you'd say. Suppress the urge to speak up when you know that the issue will only generate heated argument or it is too sensitive enough. This is often the problem of tactless people. If you have words for others that criticize , keep it to yourself. Better that way, unless, you need to say it.

It really is not difficult to talk without thinking. All you have to do is open your mouth and the words will fall right out. The only problem is that once you have uttered these words, you can't take them back.

How should I say, this habit is not easy to change, in fact, you say the wrong thing your friends would not blame you, just be yourself on the line.

Even i had do this 2 r 3 times in my life.. 1 time i get success and 2 times i got failure... anyway planned one is good but we can face many situations and learn many things while speaking without thinking... After failure due to that i had learnt many things in my life... i am going in success part of my career..

one should think that if you have nothing bad on your mind, i.e. if you try to be honest, truthful and tolerant nothing should go wrong. Unfortunately 'accidents happen'. So you cannot really avoid being misunderstood or even disliked. You simply cannot suit everyone, especially when there are people around who have nothing but bad intentions anyway. But at least if you keep to the above you won't have to regret something that you said Cheers

Hi. eil_ noz. I am sure that you are not the only person that has suffered from this mistake. And you won't be the last one either. To make this easier for you, simply think before you speak. I have to apply this golden rule to my daily life. If you follow my advice, then you won't have to worry about being misunderstood. Take care.

It does happen that sometimes I have said something without thinking about what I was saying and/or to whom I was saying it too. Usually, it wasn't anything really very mean or anything, but I'm sure that, at times, they were a little confused. I do try to explain at times, when i feel that an explanation is needed. I'm sure that a lot of people have been in this type of situation.

Before the talk, we better think about it first. In order not to offend people who talk to us. If we always think positively, definitely our words, can we watch.

I have the same problem too. Sometimes I just feel like I cant control myself. I speak before I actually think about it. But I think my friends have already gotten used to it and they would understand. I dont really think you have to change about it. If you are being hated by a friend, thats not really your problem. As a friend, s/he should accept it but not hating you. P.S dont feel bad about it;)

Hi dear, We need to think a while before start talking. For a casual talk it is alright. But when we talking to a group, especially if there is fresh faces around, we need to keep our identity clean and while talking we should be cautious about what we are talking. If we concentrate 2-3 basic things about the topic, it is easy to handle. Suppose you are talking about a show, just think for a while what is the important thinga bout the show, and if you talking to someone, present it with a order use better words and present with an approprite body language also. If these basic things come together you can catch the attention of the audience may be 1-2 or 10-15 or more. Sometime it may be silly. But if you try and make it as a practice, later on it will help you to become a professional person in communcation and all other feileds. Rebards, Thank-s

I guess you need to have a lot of self-awareness to overcome this. Though I don't experience this because I'm not really more on talking but more on listening but I have noticed that many people are doing it. Sometimes we want to act cool in front of other people and not becoming aware that we are already getting offensive with them. I guess you might be too centered with yourself that is why you often end up being hated. I believe that it's not easy to change this but if you are really willing to change then you must do any possible way. Self-discipline is one of the keys here. Without self-discipline we will not be able to teach ourselves the right way. Be sensitive as well to other people. Yes be yourself but too much of yourself is not good either.