Who should get the chidren in a divorce???

We don't have divorce here in our country but only legal separation and nullity of marriage. If and when there are children born within during the marriage, if the children are below 7 years old, they will be with the mother and the father will give the children financial support and the father will be given visitation rights. If the children are over 7 years old, the court will decide when the children will stay either with the mother or the father, it could be 3 days with the father and 4 days with the mother, but in most cases, the children will stay with whom who has the financial capability to support the children. The father is required to support the financial needs of the children.

I think the parent with a stable life should get the children in a divorce. If the parent who has a poor life gets the children, they will suffer there.

In my opinion and also in accordance to the family law we have here in our country. If the child is below 7 yrs old he or she should stay with her/his mom. That is the law, and the father should also give a monthly support for their kids. Which is also the same in what you said. However if the child is above 7 yrs old., that is the time he or she could choose which one he or she would stay.

I am really not aware about how things go after divorce, we dont have it here in our country. But there's a lot of broken families here and separated even if it is not legal. Since I could have been a product of such family (thank God my parents' relationship was fixed), I have to say that if their child is already in the right age, give him/her the freedom to choose. If the child wants to go w/ his/her father or mother. The thought of a broken family is already hard to accept for the kid, so forcing the child to go w/ either party that he dont want would not help at all. On the other hand, I think that in reality, the one who is capable to provide for the kid gets him/her.

Divorce where kids are involved is always difficult. Most times the child is much too young for him/her to make a decision in where he/she wants to live. In cases where the child is old enough to know that he/she'd rather live with Mom or Dad, I think that the child's opinion IS taken into some consideration. Once upon a time though when a couple divorced, the woman would have to be considered the lowest of the low for the child/ren to actually be place in the father's care upon divorce. But times are changing and more and more father's are actually getting custody of the child/ren in divorces. I think it basically has a lot to do with who actually gets the family home in the divorce also. The kids know that as home and it has been their home up and until the divorce happened. And the parent (be it father or mother) that is awarded visitation weekends with the child/ren usually pays child support to the parent who was awarded custody. That is only fair, because it takes both parents salaries to raise kids now-a-days. It would really be no different if the couple were actually still married. You can't completely take that salary out of the household and out of the child/ren's life and never look back.