How to handle my daughter???

Just try to give her some time alone first. When everything's cool, try to simply talk to her, that not winning is a natural thing. There will be times that she will lose, but it doesnt really mean that she isnt good at all. Tell her to charge it to experience and that there will be more chances and more competitions in the future.

She is just broken hearted, i just wished you talked to her before the contest and explain to her that she try her best but do not expect to win, my daughter was into contests before, it was some dancing contest and she is good at it but i told her never expect to win, but i also told her to do her best and enjoy the contest. And well she did not win the contest but she was not heart broken for she knew she gave her best and at times we win, at times we loose.. she is one tough kid, and she is just 6 years old... maybe its time you give her space for a while and then give her a talk, mom and daughter bonding goodluck and that experience will make your child stronger. God bless!

Hi. fchalida. I have never went through this before. I am very sorry that you daughter was not chosen as the winner for the coloring contest. Assure her that she is still a winner in your eyes. The thought that she went out there and gave it her best shot, shows her a winner beyond reason.

just confort her. I do think it is a good way for her: understanding pay does not always get back.

well, your daughter has a high expectation and too confident about herself. That's also and experience of my classmate in college, he expected to become cumlaude when we graduate, but sad to say he failed just because of points. What we gonna do with this matter is to explain to them that not anytime you win a battle. We need sometimes to commit failure in order for us to grow and become stronger. It's not a lose, its just a part of the stair to step on before we reach our goals.

let her feel that for you she is the winner. you could have reward her for being a contestant. tell her that out of hundreds of students from her school...she is one of the best.

I'm sorry that you and your daughter had to go through this. She might need a little space right now and will talk to you and confide in you when she's ready and has had a little time to think it out herself. As a parent, all you can really do is encourage her. She did her best and that's what's really important, not whether she wins or not. There are going to be plenty of times in her life when she's not going to win and she needs to learn that that's a possibility. But, at the same time, that shouldn't stop her from competing and having fun. If you show her that having fun is the most important thing then she can color and enjoy it without taking it to heart and not minding if she doesn't win. ^_^ Good luck and I hope things get better with your daughter.

when small children are up to something,they mean it with all their hearts but we need to let them know that as much as we want to succeed in all that we do there must be some failure in our first or second attempts so the best thing to tell your daughter is to encourage her to keep on trying for through failure we get the apathy and urge to try once more and work on our weaknesses

Spend some time just you and her and tell her how important she is too you and that you love everything that she does. and in your eyes she is a winner becasuse she is your winner. Your daughter the best daughter in the whole wide world.