would you do something just because your partner wants to?
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
February 20, 2011 9:03am CST
let's say your partner proposes you to try a new position or stuff like that but you don't agree with it....would you do it just because your partner wants to? or would you say no to him?
5 responses
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
22 Feb 11
A great deal of my own pleasure comes from being able to please my partner... however, that does not mean that I will do anything and everything just because he asks. For the most part, I don't have a lot of limits but, if there is something that makes me uncomfortable, I will be honest about it. I think it's important, when couples have mismatched desires or fantasies, that they talk about them outside of the bedroom. The "heat of the moment" is not the time for a "but why don't you want to try it?" conversation. Far too much pressure :( I think it's also important to explain the reasons for not wanting to do something... is it because it's a complete turn-off? Is it because someone just isn't sure how to do it? Is there a moral objection to a particular activity? Or maybe, someone is afraid to try what the partner is asking. The more both people understand each other, the better they can deal with these things. They can help, guide or even teach each other or they can both agree to skip certain things... whatever works for the couple :)
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
22 Feb 11
yes you're right. the first time he did it to me he didn't know the fact that I don't like giving....he asked me to do it in a way that really turned me off and got me really angry. I explained him that i don't like it and that i won;t do it and we kept fighting over that. it;s better for me at least now that we are over...he turned out to be too selfish...I mean don;t you think I'm right? in a relationship you do things because you both like it...and not just because one of you wants to and the other has to do it even if he doesn;t like it...
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@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Feb 11
and what bothered me more was the fact that he said I was the selfish one because I didn;t want to do it to him. you're right maybe if he said it in a different way things would be different. anyway I definitely don;t want to get back together with him.yesterday he called me asking if I don;t want us to get back together...
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 Feb 11
hey don't worry I'm sure you'll find someone. but would you do anything she wants?
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
22 Feb 11
I know my limits of where I will and will not go, and of things that I might be willing to try or to compromise on. If my partner can respect those boundaries, he can pack his bags and stand at the curb with the rest of the sh*t I take out for the garbage man on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. :p
@memoryporte (41)
• United States
20 Feb 11
If I really don't want to then I'm not going to. But there can be compromises if it isn't that big of a deal.
