How forgiving are you on yourself?

I am maybe in the last one category. I forgive myself easily and move on, trying not to do the same mistake in future.

Forgiving myself is something that I have had to work hard at. I still struggle sometimes; but not nearly as much as I used to. Forgiveness is letting go of what has happened-past tense-If it happened even just moments ago, it is still the past; and, as long as we continue to hold on to it, it has a hold on us. This doesn't mean that one has to allow someone who has done harm or caused serious hurt/harm, back into one's life-especially if you know the person is not sorry for what they've done. But, by forgiving-we are letting go of the harm done and hurt caused, and actually allowing for healing to take place within ourselves. There are people who I won't let back into my life because of harm done and hurt caused-but I would not hesitate for even a second if they ever needed help and I was able to give it. Fogriveness does not mean you have to have contact with those who hurt and may continue to hurt you. http://edenstillwater.wordpress.com/

Yes Bounce58 it is amazing!! Well on me, it depends on the topic.For example if it is a love situation that involves other people (friends, family or just people) and that I know I did wrong and didn´t have the chance to ammend I don´t forgive me for a long time... some years... and I double my workout... I got serious and try to work harder on my soul to be a better person. If it is just anything else... I laugh at myself, I think it´s enough what the world points at me... and I try to leave it to God´s judge... mmm ... Blesssings!... Dainy

Not so much forgiving of myself...lol..I am very hard on myself. I think that we are all are. We hold things against ourselves that others have long forgotten. I let mistakes bother me so that they are not made again. They are mistakes worth holding though...the little ones I can let go.

I have to think about it over and over and over again. And I think I never really forget about it, I just hide it in a safe place in my head and in my heart. But sometimes if it's just about small things, I just let it pass and deal w/ it.

i believe that you must be able to forgive yourself quickly and easily.i for one can move on quickly from that scenario that you just gave.try not to take things to badly.life is too short to make it dramatic and depressing.let's just make a difference in our life by doing ourselves a favor and living life to the fullest - without hurting others and nor allowing others to hurt us as well.

I still feel bad about the mistakes I made 30 years ago! If I err and i hurt someone and I ask for forgiveness immediately and I am forgiven, I do forgive myself. But if I do something wrong to myself, I never forgive myself. It is the result of being a perfectionist.

for small things i dont bother myself much.....like if i miss my yoga or if i eat some junk food or anything like that...but if it made me happy i don't punish myself...but for serious things i try not to do them....if i feel really guilty for anything i try not to do such things...and if i did them knowingly..then i don't regret...so i rarely punish myself ...as i always feel what i did was right

I am very forgiving. I cant help it. I easily forget those people who hurt me. Like my ex, I decided its better to forgive him so I can easily move on. What he did to me was very hurtful but I think forgiving him would be the best thing to do.

I usually go above and beyond in the name of forgiveness. I am usually willing to forgive easily and allow others a second chance. I treat forgiveness differently in myself. i can be so much tougher on myself in forgiveness than if someone has wronged me. I guess it is just easier to take the blame yourself and let forgiveness pass you by because it is you that needs this forgiveness of yourself.

I am pretty tough on myself but find it as a great asset for me as I am one who enjoys challenging myself daily. I do allow mistakes to linger but then it comes to a point that the lingering is my way of finding resolution as to not cause future repeated errors.

There are certain mistakes that can easily be forgiven and there are mistakes that is just hard to forgive even if you have committed it yourself. When i do something that is serious, i just feel so ashamed and couldn't even look at myself in the mirror without cursing myself. I couldn't move on for a couple of days or sometimes months but then time forgives as i forget hahahaa!

When I commit mistakes I talk to myself, like I ask myself why did this and that and then I weigh things out. But of course there are times that I can't help but blame myself and feel guilty but I just move forward and learn the lessons. For me One should know how to forgive himself because that is being mentally and emotionally healthy.Now if others cannot forgive then let them be you don't have a control over them. They have their own set of standards and values and as long as you know your mistakes and you tries to correct it then just don't mind them.

Hi bounce! Yes we must forgive ourselves and must not dwell to our mistakes. What has done cannot be undone already and what we can do is move on and make ourselves better. There are times it still bothers me but I just accept the consequences because I have done it and maybe that's already the punishment that I take. It's just self-pity if I don't forgive myself and won't be able to progress forward. And for example I have missed something like a workout or something with diet then I just try to cope up but doesn't double the work. That will make me frustrated trying to double it. Have a nice day!

That would depend on what I did and to whom. If it involves others, then it would never be something small, it's up to others to forgive me or not. I don't usually punish myself. If it's something small, I probably try to atone myself with doing good deeds to others. It would make me feel better.

I think this mostly depends on what I did to cause my displeasure of my actions. Sometimes I'm a little too hard on myself because I feel as though I should have done better or done something to alter the outcome. Other times my mistakes don't phase me because they don't have a negative outcome. When I am hard on myself I tell myself all the things I could have done better so that the outcome was different. I also become paranoid that others will notice that I made a mistake even if it only affects me. Usually my mistakes don't stay and bother me. I think the times I really let my mistakes bother me are when I do it at work or in one of my classes. If I do something at work and I see a huge difference in a negative way I feel as though my boss is going to see the mistake and make it as a strike, if that makes sense? At school, if I fail a test I blame myself for not studying enough and I have learned from my mistakes, I have started to study in different ways. I try to study in a way that is different for each test. I don't think people should be too hard on themselves when they make a mistake because then it just makes the next time a little harder.

I sometimes do those small misdeeds to myself, like eating too much chocolate , drinking sodas almost everyday. When i do that, i try to mitigate and correct it at once. Like when i eat chocolate, i drinks lots of water and i walk around the mall in a brisk manner at dismissal. I don't allow myself to overindulge in my small misdeeds , i would correct them right away.

I don't forgive myself that easy. Whenever I did something wrong I just have time for myself and think things through. I don't want to regret anything in the future because it feels heavy.

Hi bounce! Yes we must forgive ourselves and must not dwell to our mistakes. What has done cannot be undone already and what we can do is move on and make ourselves better. There are times it still bothers me but I just accept the consequences because I have done it and maybe that's already the punishment that I take. It's just self-pity if I don't forgive myself and won't be able to progress forward. And for example I have missed something like a workout or something with diet then I just try to cope up but doesn't double the work. That will make me frustrated trying to double it. Have a nice day!