No money, no respect!!!!

@ksmita (513)
India
February 21, 2011 1:02am CST
Hi. As i am jobless now, iam not able to contribute any finacial help for my mother's illness. my mother's medical bill crosses almost 30000/- rs per month, along with this we have to pay 30000/- rs as EMI of the house that we purchased 4 years back. my elder sister and father are bearing all the expenses. i was able to do litte bit when i was working, but recently i left the job. i feel there is change in the behavior of my family member towards me. as i don't contribute anything, my opinion is not required in anything. this attitude is very disturbing. I feel if you earn good, family members respect you more or your value in the family is more. if you don't earn enough, you are considered looser. do you agree?
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6 responses
• India
21 Feb 11
hi ksmita, i undstnd your feelings but you should not be thinking like that they are tense and they might not gettin time to listen to you that doesnt mean that they are avoiding you.so would suggest you dont waste time and find yourself a new job ASAP. wish you best of luck.
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@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
I think that this is the case for most people. However, on my part, I am on the receiving end. I do not have a job and they look at me as lazy or something like it. It really is an unpleasant feeling. But now, I just let them be on what they want to think about me. I have my own contributions but not on the financial side of things. Sometimes it is not all about the money. I just hope that they realize it. Yes, money does a lot of things but not everything. It hurts to be judge as someone who is worthless but I know more of my worth I just see no point on telling them that. I'll just do my part and let them be the judge. They may not like it but I know that I have something to give. I will have my redemption. I hope the same thing for you as well and to others like us.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
1 Mar 11
Hi. ksmita. I know what you are talking about! This is how my family treats me too. They may not want to admit it, but they do. I think that it is not fair that your family looks down on you. They should not judge you based on what you can and cannot do for your mom. This is a tough time for you financially too. They should appreciate the fact that you care for your mom. It does seem like family members tend to respect you when you have it going on. But that is not right at all. They should still respect you even if you are always broke. Their actions against you is totally unfair. Hopefully, they are just going through a stressful phase for now, and not anything that is long termed. Take care.
@marguicha (223053)
• Chile
28 Feb 11
It depends on the family and the circumstances why you are now jobless. I don´t think that a family member will be treated differently if he has a job or not. Probably they are worried about your mother´s illness. Why doný you ask them what´s the matter?
• India
21 Feb 11
yes. I agree with you. Money solves many problems. first we work for money and then it works for us. In todays scenario it is must. people and family respects who earns. major relations rotate around money.
@fjclolazy (859)
• China
22 Feb 11
Hi,my friend, I'm so sorry to hear your story.U lost your job means u may get another better job later,don't be sad. How about your mon now?Does she feel better? I think if we have no money.Others would not respect you.Family is the same!That's why I want to earn more money.Not just for my faimly and also for myself!