Continuing an intimate relationship.

My Dad didn't like the man I loved. Of course, my Dad NEVER liked any of the men I liked. When I finally met the man of my dreams, I was not shocked to hear that my Dad didn't like him!!! As my best friend pointed out to me...my Dad wouldn't approve of him even if he could walk on water & his name was Jesus simply because it was his baby girl being taken away from him. I did a LOT of thinking & determined that my Dad's dislike was an irrational Father thingy & I would NEVER meet a man good enough for him & if I did I wouldn't love him. So, what did I do??? I married the man that I loved & didn't invite my family to the wedding!!! My Mom understood why I did it on my own. She knew I couldn't tell her or she would have told Dad & he would have shown his azz on my most "special" day. Dad got over it & even accepted my husband into our family. I didn't want to disrespect my Dad, but he wouldn't listen to reason. I had waited 50 years to truly fall in love & I wasn't going to let it go & be miserable the rest of my life just because my Dad was having fatherly jealousies!!!! I think each case should stand on its on merit. NO 2 situations are alike!!!!

I think this is a common situation for lovers, sometimes our family has set their criteria and if these arent met they disproved our gf/bf. But just prove to them that you love this person and that s/he will become a part of you and will influence/inspire you in life. They will surely approve of your relationship in time once they see that you are becoming a better person because of your partner. Afterall our family just wants us to be happy.

I think it is up to us who where are going to have a relationship with.....not anyone else. After all, we cannot help who we love. The family, would need to trust my decision and just let it go. I know there is a lot of bad(etc) people out there that you would try to convince the other person tat they are no good, a thief etc and etc, but ultimately, it is up to the people in he relationship-no one else.

i have the same problem as yours. but i think there are no 100% right things. we know they are good for us but we have our own life to live. even if it come out to be wrong in the end. we can correct it. nothing is truely late for us. they didn't like my ex-boyfriend because they were not satisfied with his family and background. they don't like my present boyfriend because he don't have a degree. they even arrange some date for me with some guy. but what irony is they agreed with their family and background but thought they don't look good. i think they always have reason to disagree with the guy i date with. it's my life, they can't feel for me. i am in love with my boyfriend what i need is not their decision but their congratulations and support when i get hurt! that is what really i need. i hope you can find your true love!

Well, when my mom was alive, she got along with the women I brought to meet her. I think for many of us, we look for qualities in the women we choose that our mothers possess and as a result, mom ends up approving. Of course if mom does not approve i would not bring her over much if i decide to continue the relationship. But my mom is not the one in the relationship and the final choice will be mine. If my siblings did not approve, well then, they will not have to deal with her. If the woman you choose is a good woman and takes care of you and makes you happy, your family will come around sooner or later.

I thik what you said is a very extreme situation.In my opinion,my famillies ususlly will not disapprove that I relate with my friends.If I in your position,I will think carefully why my families disapprove of the two of we together,and will the other of the relationship give me some hurting?I belive that my families can't disapprove me no reasons,the reasons may be not recieved by me firstly.But though the reasons is really exist,I should think carefully again.and I need try to persuade myself at first,then I persuade my families like persuade myself.and if I find that the hurting is I don't know at first,I will think carefully whether the intimate relationship is worth to continue.So what your saying is a complex question.And there is no a easy answer.you can't easily hurt your families or friend.always remember a following saying:Hurting is easier than repairing.

Well... I have been in three intimate relation before and all of three were denied by family. But all those time before going to relation I thought about my own thought whether my thought were clear about it or not and I asked the same to my partner too.. If some body is well enough to take their decision then it's their decision to get in such relationship.. Thanks...

I've experienced this. Because of her religion, we weren't allowed by her parents to be with each other. We hid it but we got caught.

I don't know, I fail in an intimate relationship already, and I might as well to start a brand new relationship. I just totally lost and I felt like a loser when I broke up my ex girlfriend. Now, I just felt a bit better as time moves on. I am willing to settle down and forever. I am not a player anymore.

It depends the individual.Some dude or girls are independent well enought and stay faraway from parents hence they are able to have any kind of relationship , some even having open relationship with multiple partners.Because they are busy with work and such and prefer not tie to any relationship. Some are closer to family and hence family critism and approval is important.

I agree that there is many forms of relationships. Whilst there being so many forms of relationships not all can make you happy. No matter what in life anything could arise, it is how we deal with them that shows what type of a person we are, and shows others for what they are. I was in a relationship with someone a few years ago, we had a baby together. Things were going well for us but the relationship ended due to my ex girlfriends family. They did not like me even though they did not know me and they also wanted nothing to do with our son, who is there grandchild. They stated they never wanted to see me or my son and that we are never welcome to the home. They also ordered my ex to stay away from me and my son, they wanted my son adopted out and not being with me. I would never turn my back on my son, neither would his mum. His mum later moved out of her parents but by that time our relationship was over. But we get on well as friends and she spends time with my son often. What i hate more than anything is the fact that my ex's parents don't acknowledge they have this grandchild, they have nothing to do with him, they don't like him or me. They don't know me but don't like me, they took that attitude with my son also, they just don't want to know him, even though he is an innocent child. He is 3years old now and they still don't bother with him, i am just glad that for my son's sake his mum moved out of her parents and she now spends some time with my son, if she had of stayed at home with her parents then they would never have allowed her to see him. This is what i call eviil parents, what they have done to their daughter and grandchild is nothing short of disgusting. Just goes to show that even relaives can cause many many problems.

One can still continue to have an intimate relationship even if the family disapproves of such. I believe this is just their initial reaction. In my opinion, the couple should first know the issue or the thing that the family disagrees about. Once this is known, the couple should do their job of proving to the family that their thinking about the certain issue is wrong. Eventually, it would be best to have a peaceful and loving relationship in both sides of the party.

I think i have no worry what you say.first,the girl i choose must be my parents 'glad style.Because i think i am in my parents debt.My parents have do so much to me.I can't find a girl they don't like.secondly,my parents are very understanding and reasonale.They will respect who i choose to be together.If they really don't like the girl,i'll leave girl.