advice please son self harmed

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Hi mylotters,firstly sorry this is so long but i need to explain the situation and i could really do with some advice my son has just turned 16 he has aspergers syndrome and is high functioning but he also has ocd,tourettes and adhd. he goes to a supported school but has come on so well that they are putting him in for some gcse,anyway his behavior became very violent,mouthy and not listening about 6 months ago we have 5 kids 3 have disabilities,and his behaviour was affecting us all and caused my huby and i alot of stress and arguements as the more we tried listening and helping our son the worse he became or so it seemed,in the end we were shouting at our son daily through fustration ,now 3 last week he told me that for the last 5 months since he goes to college once a week through is school,that a 19 year old lad there has been bullying him calling him a retard etc and taking his dinner money to which we had been punishing him for as school were saying he had to lend dinner money for college which we had to pay back but we had given him money,and were not aware the lad at college was hitting him and taking his money which he has now told us.anyway this is all being sorted with school and college but 3 days ago my son come down stairs with cuts to the side of his ankle,saying he did it on bushes at school but it started bleeding after he had just showered,now alarm bells were ringing as i no my son and due to his aspergers if hes had a knock or bruise he always shows us straight away and goes on and on needing reasurance,so i said to him i hope you didnt do that yourself and explained why and that it dangerous,he denied it i cleaned it up he went up to bed.about a hour later he sent me a text and said he was sorry he did do it with a sharpner blade and that his head was hurting so much he needed to release the pain,i was devastated we talked and he said it all started with the lad at college,girl probs and the issues at home topped it off,i now feel so guilty for all the shouting we did and loss pocket money we used as punishments for his behaviour and i cant sleep and feel so stressed any advice would be great,and thanks for taking time to read this.