For some reason...
By Toni
@toniganzon (72281)
Philippines
February 22, 2011 5:56am CST
For the past few days i have been feeling a little bit insecure about my relationship. When my love ignores me i get a bit paranoid and i get crazy ideas that probably he's not in love with me anymore. I have never been like this in the past. Is it because i am getting old? I really hate being paranoid and insecure and i need to hear those three letter words from him these days, but it seems that i'm getting them less and less. I am not the person who would say it often but i do say it when i'm really sincere and so in love.
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9 responses
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Hi, stop worrying. It would get you nowhere and would surely wont help your relationship w/ him. Stop thinking about things that arent really existing, you'll just give yourself a hard time. Maybe he's just busy and isnt really aware that he is acting that way. A little communication w/ him would surely help lighten the situation, tell him how you feel. :)
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I already told him how i feel and that i'm a bit insecure and uncertain about his love but then he's still continuously neglecting me up until today :(.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I was sweet for a couple of days and in fact he mentioned that i'm really sweet and considerate. So I don't know what's going on now actually. Today i have this instinct that he's trying to avoid me because we were suppose to do something together to improve our relationship. He didn't even bother to send a message that he won't be able to make it. He just said he's unavailable.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
23 Feb 11
That's the problem with guys. As the relationship progress, we are often being taken for granted and often forgotten. COmpared to courtship days whereby we are their priority, we are pushed down the ranks to become secondary in their life. It's normal for us to feel that way due to the way they are treating us. However, no worries though because man are always forgetful. They need some gentel reminder from us to keep the spark moving.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Couldn't agree with you more and in fact that was what we were arguing last week and he told me he's got too many problems to deal with such crap. Well he admitted he was such a ahole in saying that to me yesterday but now he's doing it again. I'm just confused and still paranoid now.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
22 Feb 11
Hi toni...
I can understand your mental status at this moment. Just need to show him that you love him too much and show that your life is nothing unless him. IF there is no misunderstanding and ready to welcome whatever the mistakes have raised ... then i hope it will work better for both of you. Take care.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I told him i couldn't live without him. And he knows it well coz he told me that i must love him so much to be that way.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
Hello toni,
You said that you rarely say those three words unless you meant and felt in love with him. What if he's imitating you with out you noticing it? I mean, even if you wanted him to say it, what if he's doing the same thing you're doing. i think you should try saying that to him often times some day, or he may end up saying it too when he feels he's in love with you as well. It's very important for a woman to say those three words often.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Yeah you maybe right. I talked to him yesterday and he said that to me and i don't know why i didn't seem to believe that he was sincere but he told me i can trust and believe him. But today we're suppose to be doing special and then for some reason he's busy again and can't meet me. Hmmm something's a little odd and i hate being like this now.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
22 Feb 11
Oh dear...
I have a remedy that works fine on most occasions - take a break, a vacation with your hubby and kid and rejuvenate the love between you and family. I think it is more out of the daily stress and chores that we start feeling lost and insecure. So give yourself and family some more time and the spark would be back for sure.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
22 Feb 11
If time permits Sid, i would. But as of the moment we are just both busy! Thanks for this advice my good friend.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 Feb 11
I know... we are busy all the time unless we plan out things... dont they say - "It is the busy people who have time".
But thanks for appreciating the response. I sincerely wish that you two did spend some quality time together and the spark returned
@mairn2008 (76)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
hi there! maybe the best thing to do is that both of you sits down and talk..talk thing out. there's nothing wrong with that i guess..ask him if there's any problem going on. it can't be fixed if you would keep on guessing things..it can stress you out. stay beautiful and think positive! ;)
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@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
23 Feb 11
Well...
There are much philosphy about change your thinking in such condition towards your partner. You should give your best to save your relation and if you will feel insecure and paronia in a condition like it when your partner is not even uttering that three words which is the base of all intimate relationship then you will take some decision which will make your relation more worst...
So I will tell you to take a overview of your relation and condition and take a decision how you have to cope with him in coming days..as you know both of you better than any body else here..and then ask us for giving more advice regarding your decision...
Thanks...
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@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
22 Feb 11
hello friend!
if your mind is young then you do not become old.do not feel like that friend.love do not think about age only want love.if you love him so much them he will never go far from you remember that.so do not feel bad recover your relation with lots of love.
thanks a lot.
@amerergs (2)
• United States
22 Feb 11
Hi Toni, i think what you also need is trust. Trust your loved one, when you have a good trust you will never think that he does not love you anymore or he loves you less. Maybe he only have a problem or stressed from work just give him a little break sometimes =) Now you must also trust yourself, dont feel like oh maybe im getting old, or say anything negative about you, trust yourself that he chose you for a reason, and that you have an amazing qualities that he will never found with someone else.