The joy of being single.

@Lore2009 (7378)
United States
February 22, 2011 1:18pm CST
For all the single people out there, how do you enjoy being single? I actually enjoy it for all the freedom I can get. No more of the burden and anxiety about worrying for the significant other. I do miss the companionship of course, once in a while, but there are a lot of good points on being single too. Even if you are not single, how did you used to enjoy this lifestyle then?
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16 responses
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
22 Feb 11
If I were still single, I think I would miss the freedom a lot that I could go anywhere or do anything with my sister and friends.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Yes, you can take advantage of that all you want when you're single.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
22 Feb 11
i think being single is good because you have no one to answer too or do you have to do anything you dont want to. my dad passed away a couple of years ago and now my mom loves her single life. she can eat when she wants and do what she wants.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Interesting! Your mom seems strong and knows to cherish life to the fullest.
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 11
I enjoy the freedom too. I enjoy not having to answer to anyone but myself. And being able to stop and get something at a fast food drive in and not have to feel guilty or argue with my ex about it. Not feeling pressured into doing things I don't really want to do because my ex wants me to or go with him. So much more I could fill a reem or two!
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Feb 11
Ya, I am just too old and stuck in my ways.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I agree!
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• United States
23 Feb 11
Although I live with my boyfriend now for five years I still consider myself single but with a commitment. I was single for a while and pretty much did what and when I wanted. Although I must admit it is the same now with my boyfriend as he is such a wonderful person. When I was completely alone it has it's moments, as there were some days I so appreciated coming home from work and not speaking and or seeing anyone from Friday night to Monday. Then there were the too many Friday to Monday moments that I wanted to be out and see people. It was at those times that a companion would have been nice. So how I dealt with the too many of them is that I went out quit a bit with girl friends, had laughs and then came back home.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
True, both has it's goods and bads. Just need to balance it all out.
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• Philippines
23 Feb 11
I think being single is simple just being free. Free from anyone controlling you, in terms of money, time, etc. Being single is much fun than being with someone. There is no one controlling you on what you need to do or someone dictating you what you need to spend your time with and where, but of course, being single also has a downside. Like having no one to comfort you when you needed it, or someone waiting for you to come home. But never the less, being single is being yourself, you are the only one controlling you!
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Exactly! Well said.
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Being single means not having to worry about the kids and the husband. Attend parties without any hassle of wanting to go home early to cook for the family. Being single means spending more money on clothes, shoes, accessories and not worrying whether the baby still has milk left. It means you are free to join any events without a husband telling you your kids are sick. It means you can go straight to your room and sleep without worrying about tucking the kids to sleep...or raising to the convenience store to buy diapers... Ah, the glory of being single!
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Ohhh.. I don't know how it's like with kids, but seems like I should enjoy this moment before they come along!
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
27 Feb 11
Being single has many advantages, you do what you want, when you want, alone or with some friends - if you want. We can have many friends and they have different interests, so we can choose the one that has time at the moment and shares a particular interest. The alternative would be a marriage with real love so that both give each other enough space to be alone sometimes and enjoy each otherĀ“s company when both want to do so. Communicating with each other would be an ideal way to find out how to respect and never stress each other. Maybe, just maybe that sort of relationship would be possible. Being single is easier, but after over 30 years of living alone, I am not sure that it is the best way to live.
• Canada
22 Feb 11
The nice thing about my husband and I is that we are both extremely independent, so very little has changed since our single days, except for the companionship, of course.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
That sounds like the most idealistic relationship for me and very healthy too. Good job!
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
25 Feb 11
Living single is enjoyable up to without facing any lonely feelings. Living single is happy up to we will not get any financial problems. Being single is suitable to achieve a goal. In this young age i too wanna get something with my dedication and determination.
@Atoti2 (1)
• Switzerland
23 Feb 11
I`ve been single 3 years and counting and most of the time i wish i had been single for years.I can do or leave what i like or dislike,just to mention but 1.I dont feel im missing out at all and to be honest, i dont see myself tagged to someone in the near future.Relationships are hard to mentain and i dont feel ready anyway.Maybe because i felt cheated in my last relationship
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Before it was all fun. You are right. Being single means less worries and all that but at times it gets lonely. I think that things will be more fun if you do it with someone you care so much about. Things will be tough at times of course but when things are doing well, good things, even the best things happen. Nothing compares to being near the person who owns your heart.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I disagree, nobody should 'own' anyone's heart.. it should be shared and respected.
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@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
What I meant about owning is not that your partner has total control over you. I think that when I really love a person, she will own my heart because I will give it all to her. She does not have to really own it. She is like on the receiving end.
@myloots (37)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
For me, enjoy what GOD gave to me, if I'm single only now, if I'm will be single forever. Thats not important, the important is everyday in your life, do your best, do the best, not the best bad, but the best good. Because we don't really know when we gonna die, when we became rich or poor, but only GOD knows because he just created us. Were just all creature, so follow what the creator say onto you now literally, but psychologically. Enjoy life, whether your a single or married or widowed or young or old, just enjoy it because after our life here on earth, the creator conclude all what we did here on earth whether its good or bad. The basis of our life in the next body and mind of ours.
@naani533 (70)
• India
23 Feb 11
hi friend... its a nice discussion. actually being single is sometimes good for life. but not always. because it gives us strength of able to think our own thoughts. and there is no burdens too. we only can enjoy our victories and defects. but sometimes it is not good for us. because after sometime we should need someone's help. then nobody is ready to help us. so it is better to maintain relationships with others gently.
@Vazman (7)
22 Feb 11
Being single is great. Like you have said we get to what we want when we want. As long as you have great friends at your side what more do you need.
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@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Being single is nice because you don't have big responsibility... but you losses the fun of motherhood.
23 Feb 11
oh i really enjoy being single. as in "no worries" I can go wherever I want, I can go home late or even stay late outside with somebody or with friends without thinking that my boy will check on me. No one will also stop me to work outside the country or work on the ship. I can also save more money because I don't need to buy him gifts or anything. I enjoy being single.