Can you really be friends with benefits?

Hello, dear. Well, I can only speak based on my own experience. If it is just platonic friendship that you had since from the very beginning, I'd say that an extra benefit will harm that friendship. Somehow, no matter how hard you will both deny it, there could be something in between and not just friendship. There could be something special , only, you, two are both trying to deny or ignore it. I have heard a lot of people having such relationship. There reason was they were not in a relationship and things could be really serious if the other did not leave. Etc. etc. Others are ok with it because they used to do it with each other when they were still lovers. So, what's the difference now that they are only friends? As for me, I can only do this with my husband. Need I explain further?

Hi, freymind. I think that it is possible that friends can be lovers. I think that for this to happen, they must have been friends for a very long time. The mutual friendship must be there. If this does not happen or work out, then choosing friendship over love is the best choice.

I dont think I could be a friends with benefits someone. That is something personal and special between me and my boyfriend, so when I dont have a relationship I dont think I could just allow anyone to have that part of me. I think its how you said it, it would cross the boundaries of friendships

just make a friend with you heart ,I think you will be benefit from it.

I don't think friendship could continue in this set up. Rather you broke the friendship and start a new relationship. I think it is a kind of betrayal on the purpose of friendship and I just can't get into it.

I definitely agree with you freymind. In friendship, love takes a different form and when you cross that certain boundary, it is a different kind of love. It now escalates to a certain level of maturity and greater responsibility. Somehow, others engage in relationship like this, I simply hope they would manage to find someone whose kind of love is really that encompasses what already is defined.

I know that a lot of my friends think that it is possible to have friends with benefits. However, I don't personally think that this kind of relationship would be a healthy relationship at all. That said, I had a friend of mine when I was in college offer to be a friend with benefits to me, but I never took him up on the offer because of the fact that he was my friend and I valued our friendship far too much to ruin it in that way.

The friendship is something that can always exist even if the romance fails. Some people can easily make the transition from friendship to lovers. Some are not able to cross that line. It all depends on what you want from a relationship together.

I've seen the movie too, so I can see how many people think that this is not possible. The reason is, this kind of relationship is popular with young people only. But for friends to really remain as friends, and still get all the 'benifits', they need a little bit of maturity. Of knowing that they've already experienced life, and they already know what they want. So, I think it is possible for the more mature couples.

Being friends with benefits is a difficult situation. defenitely friendship will be affected. Up to you to choose.

hello friend! yes i am really be friend with benefits.i always like to do something for my friends.i like the word friend.it is a big part of my life.i believe that friend are very important part of out life.i do not like to make love relation with my friends. thanks a lot.

hello friend! i like the word friend.it is a big part of my life.i believe that friend are very important part of out life.i do not like to make love relation with my friends. thanks a lot.

as for me, i would rather do the same thing. the thing itself is crazy so why would i bother to try such, right? it will give you nothing good in return, just to make things complicated for you and the people around you will also get affected. i don't think it will actually work in the first place. we must just focus as a friend or as a lover, it's a separate thing in order to work.

I think that being in this kind of thing is not that bad as long as you know your boundaries. It may not be acceptable for some but we have needs. Besides, it is only a deed. The emotions you have for someone is way more important than the actions you do with others, you just need to be understood.