What do you do after a major break up?

Hi,my friend, I cried a lot after broke up.I ate much at that night and then cried in my bed... I came out to sing with my sister.And how about u?

Hi hemlockspruce25!!! Well this thing has happened to me twice already. When it happened for the first time in life, yes I admit I cried a lot doesn't matter I am a guy. Guys cry too :(. That time I was at my teenage and I was not very much experienced. Those days were very much difficult to me. But the thought of taking my own life never came to me, thought It made me pessimistic about the life. Time healed everything. People come in life for a reason. After the role of that person is over, then we have to let go in life. I have learnt this thing in life. I again got a breakup again after 3 years in another relation. But this time I didn't really cry. Like you mentioned I just tried to ease my pain. I always tried to remain positive. The negative thoughts would arise again and again and make me frustrated but soon I get a reason to comfort myself again. I get optimistic but again soon I get pessimistic. When I feel optimistic, the desperate feelings made me more desperate soon I get optimistic with positive thought and I become comfortable again. This cycle repeated again and again. Time passed slowly optimistism won over pessimistism. And now I am happy and normal again... The major thing I did is try to make myself positive. I read some spiritual books, some encouraging books. I learnt that every relation gives us a new lesson and make us one more step matured. Thank everything for what has happened and accept that its time to move on. I have never been negative for those people even after break up. And because of that, even we thought we couldn't meet in the way I dreamed of, we are still good friends and we can talk to each other. Its just the matter of time and the art of letting go.... Happy mylotting...

After a major breakup, i give myself some time. Think of the situation. What went wrong? What could have been done. Look at it objectively. Do not blame yourself or anyone. Find a diversion. If eating is your guilty pleasure, find a way to dine out. Just make sure you have financial plans to back you up. Give yourself some time, and do what you love to do most when alone or single. That's how I cope with major breakups. It's okay to feel hurt, feel pain, feel angry., sad or anything... just go with the flow and move on.

I wanted to break down and scream at him.. Instead, I took some time to focus on myself through meditation, art, craftwork, and exercise. Then, when I found out his new online girlfriend was actually a dude pretending to be a woman? MWAHAHAHAHA That made everything ALL better.

We can all choose different paths to take for comfort from a break up. Some have to shut down and console themselves with their favorite foods, music and activities to find a way back to themselves. some need to rush into a new relationship to forget the one they have just left. I usually need the time to myself for heaaling of a heartbreak to begin.

What i do is talk myself out of the pains. The words i use are " i wasn't born together with her and i will still live on without her... one door shuts for others to open". Then i hang out with some friends ,do some crazy things that i wouldn't do when i was dating her and make sure i have a lot of fun. Crying, screaming or lamenting. only makes the pain worse