People who mumble and expect you to understand them.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
February 23, 2011 9:14am CST
Or don't speak up. I think that while i try to listen, you should at least make yourself understandable. If you speak rather quietly or start talking to me as you leave the room, that is really showing disrespect to you and how much you actually value me listening to you. So speak up a little bit if you want to be listened to and don't leave the room if you want me to listen to what you're saying.
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9 responses
@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
23 Feb 11
You sure it's not your hearing? lol Honestly though, usually when I'm accused of mumbling it's by someone who really needs their hearing checked. For instance, my Mom can't always understand what I'm saying but my sister hears me just fine. Both are in the same room and are the same distance from me. I tell Mom that I'm not mumbling, she's just losing her hearing. She's a little miffed by that, but honestly I mean no disrespect. I just don't like being accused of not speaking clearly when I am trying very hard to get my message across as clearly as possible.
@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
24 Feb 11
ROFL... There might not be something wrong with your 'fearing' but there may be a slight problem with your typing.
Well if they left the room then I expect they didn't actually want you to know what they were saying. lol Maybe they "did" want you to hear it but they didn't really want it enough. People who want to communicate with you should be looking at you and speaking clearly or if they're not looking at you they should at least be not that far away.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Maybe its a problem with my sheering, you can never tell with these things. Seriously, yeah I think its down to them not wanting to hear it long enough. Or perhaps it is some snide comment. Granted it might not be, but you just have to wonder about these things. If you don't hear them once they have left, who knows what they say since they have long cleared the room.
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@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
WHAT? I CAN'T HEAR YOU? WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY FEARING! No seriously, it does go without saying that some people do in fact have better hearing then others. Still while there might be some issues with my hearing, if I'm not the only person who is complaining about some of these people in question, then there might be a problem. Plus, then start talking to me and start trailing off as they leave the room. Kind of seems that they side tracked a bit but that is just me. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Feb 11
Hello megamatt,
No question about it. Communication is reciprocal. Unless you speak I would not be able to elongate our discourse. If you have something important to speak you have speak loudly enough so that I get the picture clearly.
And if you want me to listen to you you too listen to me. This is not a one way traffic.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
23 Feb 11
The irony is now people have no time to listen to you. Too occupied they are and I wonder what would happen to them or us when we grow older.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
That is a sad fact indeed. If you listen to people, you might actually learn something. If you speak up, you might actually teach someone something. Yet there tends to be a lot of things that are going to fly by unnoticed. Thank your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Communication is one of those things that require a team effort. If one person or another doesn't do their job, then it fails. One must speak clearly. The other must listen minus biases or distractions. If it does not happen, then there is a huge failure. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I think we should clear things up first. I can tolerate people are naturally soft spoken to some extent but I can't tolerate people who mumbles and eat their words but I can see how people who are soft spoken can sometimes be annoying. I have a cousin who literally mumbles not because he can't speak in a straight manner but because he just wants the attention. He seem to like it when you keep on asking him over and over again what the heck he is talking about. So for me if it's natural I can be OK with it but if it's something that they are doing to annoy then it's something else.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Soft spoken people I don't have a problem with, providing they understand that they are soft spoken and might have to move in a little closer, so some people can hear them. There are some people who speak softly in the most deliberate manner possible. That can get on my nerves just a little bit. We all need to communicate and communication is a two way street. Thanks for responding. It is appreciated. Have a nice day.
@Ahmedrz3 (3)
• Egypt
24 Feb 11
i am agree with you here we have to let each other a space for freeing him or her self to bet the devil inside and encouraging to no be selfish with other people
@juniorstringbean08 (455)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
yes, i totally agree to every little thing you said. i hate people talking to me that way either. when it comes in encountering things like this, it's like my head will easily blow up. especially if you try to talk to them and complain, yet they will not do anything to change their problem, there are times when i encounter this kind of problem, i just try to avoid them and just agree to whatever they try to tell me though i never understood a single word from them.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
26 Feb 11
My rule of thumb is this. I will ask them nicely once, maybe twice. If they don't decide to modify their behavior, then I do figure that what they are going to communicate to me is not important. Or they don't think its important enough to speak up at the very least. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@didi13 (2926)
• Romania
23 Feb 11
From my experience people who speak slowly are generally those who did not were allowed to say their point of view, or whose views did not matter (especially family), are generally people who were told what do,were not allowed to be independent and low voice with timbre is a symptom of this dictatorial medium.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
That is a point that I can see happening. There are a lot of times where there are people who are afraid of the consequences of speaking up. Yet there are many people who don't really take the extra effort to listen to people when they do not speak up all that much. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@iliveinahole (2)
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28 Oct 11
Sometimes i dont understand why some people reason in a such stupid and dumb way and then they immediately expect you to understand them especially what they just said,
and if u dont understand they get all very angry offended and start fighting,i heard the sentence, but there is no Sense in the sentence, is like if they were mixing the words making no SENSE... causing a BIG STUPID ARGUMENT THINKING THEY ARE STILL RIGHT IN THE BRAIN.
BECAUSE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR ARGUMENTS AND FIGHTS AND SOMEONE TO ARGUE FOR RELIEVE WREAK VENT, to give them something to do cause they cant resist the miserable life they have! so they come to BREAK YOURS TOO... the resolution is to keep silent and nod all the times like a wreckless idiot animal dog AND HOPE they dont say "did you understand?"
@iliveinahole (2)
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28 Oct 11
Sometimes i dont understand why some people reason in a such stupid and dumb way and then they immediately expect you to understand them especially what they just said,
and if u dont understand they get all very angry offended and start fighting,i heard the sentence, but there is no Sense in the sentence, is like if they were mixing the words making no SENSE... causing a BIG STUPID ARGUMENT THINKING THEY ARE STILL RIGHT IN THE BRAIN.
BECAUSE THEY ARE LOOKING FOR ARGUMENTS AND FIGHTS AND SOMEONE TO ARGUE FOR RELIEVE WREAK VENT, to give them something to do cause they cant resist the miserable life they have! so they come to BREAK YOURS TOO... the resolution is to keep silent and nod all the times like a wreckless idiot animal dog AND HOPE they dont say "did you understand?"
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I do tend to have that problem since my voice is so low, and a lot of people have a problem to not understand me. So when they say 'what?" I make sure to be more clear and louder. The people who bug me though, are the ones when I ask "what?" and the don't change anything. I remember a girl would do that all the time and she wouldn't even face me when I ask her what she said.. and she expected me to understand when she didn't change anything at all.. after that I stop trying and what ever doesn't come into my ear, is really not my problem.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Yeah if for whatever reason you're not understanding me, I hope that you will clue me. But I expect the same courtesy from you. Otherwise, we are going to have quite the breakdown in communication to say the very least. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
23 Feb 11
maybe some people just want to mutter about and not really be heard. IF they really want to be heard they will learn to speak up! They just want to see if you'll play the game "how serious are you about listening to me?"
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Yeah some people do tend to play that game to say the least. Yet, I must also invoke the, "how much do you want me to hear you" thing. If I have to play a guessing game and after I ask them, they must not really think that what they are saying is important. So why should I? Thank you for your response, it is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@adibahafiz (17)
• United States
23 Feb 11
i have a slow voice (may be) because people keep asking me what am I saying. To tell the truth I already feel like I already speak loud enough for the people to hear me. I afraid if I scream, it will become rude or too loud for them. Sometimes I don;t know, should I scream? some people do not like to hear people scream at them..I really want to be listened to but do I really have to scream every time I speak? I rather repeat my sentences than scream at people. Frankly speaking, it bother me everytime people frown at me when I speak.But you know,sometimes we can't change what God give us, just accept it with hope there's something good behind it which you'll discover sooner or later
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Understood that people really do have issues that might keep them from being very clear. Then there are people that are capable of speaking up but just won't. It does vary quite a bit to be certain. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.