What can I do to get her back?

Nigeria
February 23, 2011 11:06am CST
I just got off an 18 months old relationship. During the course of the relationship, i wasn't really attentive to her and it was really frustrating to her. I still love her so much and i know she loves me too but she is just too scared to try it again. what do i do to get her back?
6 responses
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Maybe a little time off is a good thing to clear the air. And then after both of your really realize how much each was worth, you can be genuine about your true feelings and it should reach her. Good luck.
@geonelynn (369)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
you gotta work for it and earn her trust and love once again. women/girls tend to guard their hearts when they get hurt. and if you are really sincere in getting her back you've got to put some effort to it not just by saying it. make it up to her. i hope you get her back..
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
23 Feb 11
I'm going through the same thing with my husband. He loves me, and I love him, but he doesn't put any effort into our relationship anymore. My suggestion would be to romance her all over again. Apologize to her and ask her to give you a chance to prove yourself to her. Show her you can be a friend in addition to a boyfriend. The most important thing is to stay attentive. Dating or married, you always have to work at your relationship. Knowing my husband loves me isn't enough. I need him to show me every once in awhile. It doesn't mean he has to buy me things, sometimes just a little I love you post it note on my desk in the morning can absolutely make my day.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
23 Feb 11
If you are in love you tend to give attention to that person naturally.Why you were not able be attentive to her?Were you not thaat much in to her or she just needed to much attention? I think you can apologize and request her to give you one more chance.
• United States
23 Feb 11
I would try sending her a letter in the mail and see how that goes or writing her a message through email. I dont know what else to do, maybe send her flowers or even puting rose pedals on her car would help as well. Leaving anote on the car with a flower would be really cute and she would smile about it and think twice to giving you another chance in life. Buying her something she likes, maybe like her favorite lotion or perfume would be good too. Also maybe a gift card to her favorite store would be good too. Just a few suggestions that might help you out. I am a girl and i kinda know what would get me back. Goodluck
@kh_rabbe (195)
• Bangladesh
23 Feb 11
Its really so simple to me. If you really love her and she love you too that much than just say sorry about your guilty. Tell her you not gonna do that again. I don't know what happened between you two but hope everything will be fine. But it's true you must give her time otherwise strong relation an break within few moments......