Argue with your spouse

@sql_cell (1427)
Indonesia
February 23, 2011 8:58pm CST
Argue with your spouse does something unpleasant. But my parents say, that argument can deepen relationships, and improve the quality of the relationship. I am between agree and disagree, with my parents opinion. You agree with the opinion of my parents? If you agree, what kind of argument, which can improve the quality of the relationship?
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
hello there, you can never say that you will not have argument all through out your married life or being in a relationship or even in our day to day existence. Argument is where on expressing their opinions over something. Once the argument become a little hot then its up to you to cool it down. You should know how to handle things. Argument often times can resolve something better. Its just how you do it. It may or may not improve your relationship.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
My parents said, the argument that there should be learning. The couple may fight, but not to fight two or three times for the same problem.
• Philippines
24 Feb 11
I don't really agree with your parents. Arguing just leads to more unpleasant situation. Instead, calm yourselves first and have a nice talk to each other, understand what your partner's got to say. This way, the problem will be solved in a nicer way rather than arguing.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 11
My parents say, do not expect the relationship will always be sweet. Indeed after a bitter, sweet taste that may be more pronounced.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Apr 11
Hi. sql_cell. I really disagree with your parents, arguing is not the best solution into solving any issues with a partner. I can honestly say that being upfront and firm will let each spouse no where you stand at in a relationship. This is what a person should do instead of arguing with each other all of the time. Arguing only releases anger and it creates tension towards each other.
@raijem (335)
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
I think arguiing is not healthy in any relationship. What I think is good is a healthy discussion where you can share thoughts and ideas rather than argue about something. There's a big difference between the two because a health discussion involves facts and other constructive comments. Mostly when we just argue, we only tend to be bias with our own opinion and we never care about positive ideas from the other party.
@seemared (771)
12 Dec 11
whatever be the argument..what matters is that both of you come with a positive idea or end the whole thing in such a way that both you feel lucky for having each other.. that's what matters..not the type of argument..