Are you okay?

Maybe because they really dont know how to react to the situation. They are just being careful not to say things that might hurt you more. Of course when I am the one who's being asked and I am in an awful situation, I just pretend that I am okay, just to end any further excruciating discussion.

In life tears heal! Who does not cry, does not live! Crying is often a palliative in our lives. A shake and also a sweetened, it's a release, the confused going through. Each drop is the essence of who we later reap happiness and peace of mind!

Yeah I think it is just one of those reactions to something that is really just hardwired into our brains to ask. It seems like a stupid question to ask and when not faced with such a situation, it is very easy to see that. However, we tend to get tongue tied a lot when we are faced with a situation that is borderline uncomfortable and that is just naturally the first reaction that comes to mind. I'll be honest, its been a long time since I have asked that question. However, I'd imagine that I would straighten up with a straight face and say that I'm fine. And that does seem to satisfy most parties. The thing is about this question is nine times out of ten, the person is not willing to dig too deep. Therefore, if there is some answer to the question, they'll go back to their day. Not all of the time but most of the time.

That question reminds me of when I worked in the surgery department and during the cutting a patient at times would ouch and the anesthesia lady would ask, oh does it hurt. Okay my thinking is that perhaps they do not know what to say as they are some how not emotionally attached to the direct pain, emotions. If I have ever been asked if I am okay I always have said yes as a matter a fact I am, and both of us laughed. So it is more of an quick affection response moreso.

its natural i think its gust like your friend call you at home phone and asks you where you are ?? or some body find you in Restaurant having your meal and ask you are you eating or what you are doing ? its Normal i think

It seems unpleasant for me if some stranger, the person I would not like to have a talk with pays attention when I do not feel alright, when I burst into tears. I would rather prefer they go away because how could they help the person they do not know. Of course, I have some problem at that moment and I am definitely not ok. I try to avoid being emotional in public places if possible not to attract unnecessary attention. There is nothing for it, I try to answer them as politely as possible that I am alright although maybe my heart inside is breaking.

I think that people ask, because sometimes they just want to help this person. Sometimes, that's our first instinct. We see someone crying, we figure that something might be wrong, so we want to help, and do something.

Well, that's a natural line to throw to somebody crying. because you don't know the reason why she's crying . At least when you ask that , she may answer you why or if she says no, then you offer help. For me, it's not offensive but i do take it as caring.