Do you put on make up at home?

@mermaidivy (15394)
United States
February 24, 2011 10:10am CST
Recently, my husband asked me how come I don't put on make up and dress nice anymore. Then I told him it is not I don't want to do that but we are not going out anymore with our newborn baby and it is more comfortable to wear loose clothes at home. I won't give up on dressing nice and stuff but not for now anyway, I would do that when I could put our baby at my mom's when he gets older and go out. What do you think about this topic?
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• United States
24 Feb 11
I can feel you on not dressing nice at home and putting on kae up when your at home. I like this topic and its a really good one to talk about. When i come home from work and i dont have anywhere to go after work or just going to my boyfriend or his warehouse where he owns a business i change and put on jocking pants and a t shirt and will take a shower and take all my make up off that i had on during the day i was at work and go like that and i dont really care. He seems me dressed up and he knows i can look good if i need to, but when im at home im not going to waste clothes and have more laundry to do or even waste money but doing the clothes or waste money by using my make up when i dont have to. Let him know your saving you all money by doing what you are doing LOL. Have a good day.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I'm glad I'm not the only one. When I come from home going out, I like to change to more comfy clothes and home slippers, wash my face, it makes me feel better. I don't think it is so fun to do make up when I'm home with my baby boy. The other thing is he thinks I dress up for other guys when I go out. If I dress up at home, it's for him. what would you say about this?
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Hi Mermaidivy, Well, when I was married, I did try to dress nice for my husband. I didn't wear a lot of make-up anyway but before he came home, I would usually make sure my hair was good and that I was dressed decent and I always wore a little makeup. Why? Because I did all these things before we had kids. Of course there were times that he saw me at my worst but for the most part I put an effort in. IF my husband asked me why I didn't dress nicer or put on make-up, I would take that as a hint that I'm letting myself go a bit too much and put in a little effort. I think that couples go all out to be attractive to each other while they are dating and all but once they are together and especially once kids enter the picture, they get too comfortable and take their love for granted.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
25 Feb 11
It's hard to find time or energy for much of anything when they are really small like that, I know. I think it's important to get a little break from the baby once in a while. My daughter just had a baby on Jan.1st and she is kind of going through the same thing. I'm going to take the baby over-nite next week so she and the dad can have a little time together.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
I don't their anything for granted... I just feel tired all the time for my little demanding baby, I think my husband understood but he misses the old days when we went out together and I dressed up nice for it.
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
And my mom is not around so we don't get help...:-(
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@youless (112562)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Feb 11
I can understand you very well. I am also a mom. I can understand how busy you will be when you take care of your newborn baby. So you won't have more spare time for yourself. In fact right now I already lost my interest to buy clothes and makeup:) I focus on my family much more. Am I mature?:) I love China
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
I haven't lost interests in doing it or buying new clothes and stuff though. I think making myself look pretty makes everybody happy but I don't really have time for that yet.
@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 11
I can really understand what you mean as it's so much more convenient with loose t-shirts & all when it comes to taking care of your son. My wife will totally agree to that too, haha~!But I never asked her to put any make-up as I always told her I like her natural look, period. To make-up at home to both of us is just plain impractical but I do not speak for anyone else as it's a personal preference kind of thing
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I thought it would be nicer for him to see me dress up occasionally instead of seeing this everyday. So it would be a treat but not a everyday thing.
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@zweeb82 (5653)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 11
Yeah, I can totally understand what you mean & it's also every girl's nature to look nice
• Hong Kong
25 Feb 11
I dont think it is necessary to put on make up or dresse nice at home. It is much more comfy to have the loose clothes on. But I think when you have a baby you have to take care of it wholeheartedly. It is a great idea that you put your baby at your moms and you can put on make up n stuff again:):):)
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Yea... I can't wait to put him at my mom's so that I can go out and fever haha
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
28 Feb 11
I bet!
• Hong Kong
28 Feb 11
I think your mom cant wait to hold your baby too!!
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Regarding your question, I don't wear make up at home. I also love loose shirts depending on my mood. I seldom put make up on. My usual everyday vanity is to apply baby powder on my face, eye liner and lip gloss. I love being simple. I would dress up and go to the salon for make up only during special occasions. At home I wear tshirts and shorts. Anyway I'm not yet married. But when I am I think I'd also dress up to please him.. :)
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Hi. mermaidivy. When I am home and relaxing, I don't put on any make up at all. I only wear lipstick when I go out somewhere in public. I feel that it is suitable for you to look and feel comfortable in what you are wearing when you are around the house just lounging and doing whatever... I plan to buy me some lounging clothing for the spring and for the summer. I want to feel beautiful, but not all dressed up though. It is all about what makes you feel good. Your husband just misses seeing you dressed up looking so beautiful. That is okay though. I think that you should dress how you feel that you can make it. You are so busy at home. I know the last thing that I would want to do is to dress up when I have a baby at home with me.
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I'm sure he does... It's been 5 months now that we haven't gone out as a date.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Hopefully that will prod him into going out now and then on the town. I can see getting all dressed up just to be spit upon by the baby. Or worse yet leakage from the diaper.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
24 Feb 11
correction; i can not see
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Right and he likes to touch my face, definitely don't wnat him to touch those chemicals
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Why would you want those chemicals on your face anyways? They can ruin your skin. Just dressing nice with some nice jewerly should be good enough.
@onlydia (2808)
• United States
25 Feb 11
I don't wear makeup that often to even think about it. But there is one thing you should do. And that is dress nice for him at least twice a week or once for sure. even with the baby at home. As you will find out that he will take you out sooner and you both will be happy. I know I hate dressing up and all that crap. But it will keep him smiling and you will like that as well. Make a nice dinner and dress for it and put the baby to bed and sit and watch a movie or just talk and hold each other.
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
I think it's a good idea
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Feb 11
When i was a teenager and just learning about wearing makeup i wore it all of the time. Now i only seem to wear makeup if I am going out somewhere. i usually don't wear it at home unless it is something new I am experimenting with.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing.
• Hong Kong
27 Feb 11
When I was a teenager, I would keep my make up until I went to bed, it means I won't clean it up when I came back home from outside, I want to keep the best looking as much as I can. HEHE.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
25 Feb 11
hello friend! congratulation friend for great news.i do not like make up so much.when i go out side of my home them i use only eye liner nothing else.i like it so much.i never use foundation or anythings on my face my face is so much sensitive so i do not use it.and for you it is also not so good.in this time you have too make yourself comfortable and easy.take care. thanks a lot.
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@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
I only do foundations when I am out to some big thing like wedding party, ball etc.
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• United States
23 Mar 11
I would say do what makes you happy, but I also entirely love makeup and can't really understand why someone would not want to put it on. I love to look pretty at all times, I don't care how messy of a job i do, If my face don't look right I don't feel right. I also like to dress nice at all times. There are times for pajamas and time for nice clothes. One you wear to bed the other you just always wear I understand you have a baby now and that must take a lot of your time and your probably extremely tired. However a little foundation and eyeliner goes a long ways and it won't take longer than 10 minutes. You should watch a few makeup tutorials on youtube maybe that will get you back in the mood to get pretty. Its hard to realize that maybe doing makeup for yourself can be just as great as the praise you get for it. I enjoy doing mine and do it at any opportunity i get
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I do like it when I go out and it is nicwe to hear compliments just from being pretty but not so much at home when nobody can see and I have to do cooking, housework and stuff, right.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
25 Feb 11
I perfectly understand what you mean. Taking care of a newborn is much more comfortable when you're not limited by tight nice clothes and make-up, not to mention that you simply do not have the time to do it. I am not saying we, moms, should not look good while at home and we must not ignore the way we look, but simply the loose comfortable clothes and at least the clean face is just enough to feel good and must be enough for the man beside you if he loves you. No need to be like the soap opera characters - I've always wondered how it's possible to stay all day at home dressed like Paris Hilton or something, on high heels and with a great haircut, as if she's going to the Oscars? Having in mind SHE'S NOT going anywhere just staying home doing nothing... In these shows they even don't take their shoes off when at home. Just think about your sunshine and don't worry about the makeups.You're already a mom - that means you are beautiful!
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
You're already a mom - that means you are beautiful!
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
25 Feb 11
I knew you'd like that last sentence. And it's simply the truth, right?
@koolit83 (41)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
having a baby sometimes really makes us a little less interested about ourselves because we focus more on our baby's being more than anyone in the world. and this is not bad, it's just our motherly instinct i think. i am a mother to a seven month old baby and i seldom fix myself as much as before but this should not be a reason for us to feel bad about ourselves. but every friday in the office because it's wash day for us (meaning no uniform in fridays) i am able to dress up comfortably like before.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
Right, taking care of my baby is the first priority now.
@tash01 (2030)
• Jamaica
20 Mar 11
I only wear make when am going out,are dress up at home.I wear like t-shirt an jeans are skirt at home and then i dress to go out.I am married an my husband hate make-up ..lol yea he does. So some tiems i just go with my natural look when am going out.Dont give up an dressing up but,But some men love to see their wife dress sexy all the time even at home.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
21 Mar 11
I prefer wearing comft clothes at home and when going to the grocery store, I only like to dress up when I'm going out for fun or dinner.
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
3 Mar 11
Even I wear loose clothes at home since they are much more comfortable and easy to carry. I am not married, but still I like to avoid makeup when I am at home. I tend to be in a very relaxed state at home which wouldn't be possible with putting on makeup and dressing in formal clothes at home. I try to stay in my comfort zone at home.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Thanks for sharing.
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
I am not used to putting on make-up when I go out of the house, just plain face powder and lipstick will do. When at home, I just take a bath everyday and comb my hair. I am not a vain person and being simple is all I want. My husband doesn't want me to put on make-up either so I think I won't have problem with that.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
25 Feb 11
That's good.
@Bellapop (1279)
7 Mar 11
I know what you mean, sometimes, we're so busy with our schedule and home is like a resting sanctuary, we shouldn't really need to worry about having to look good at home. It saves both time and money, so why not? However, nowadays, I tend to make sure that I'm 'dressed' even during weekends, as once we had an emergency and had to leave the house, and I was in loose dishevelled clothes, had no make-up on - my hair wasn't done and it was a little embarrassing. I don't have to completely dress up for the ball, but just be in something casual but appropriate in case someone comes to the door or something ;)
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
8 Mar 11
yeah, I think I will do a little bit of make up when we have visitors. Thanks for sharing.
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
Hello mermaidivy! I also don't wear any make-up at home. I only wear make-up when I'm going out or when I'm at work. I don't wear too much make-up though. I just put on concealer, foundation, lipstick, liquid eyeliner and blush on. Although it's not much, I still give my skin a breather by not putting any make-up on while at home. As for dressing nicely, I love to wear dresses too. But, I only wear them when I'm going out. I wear loose and baggy clothes while at home because I want to be as comfortable as can be 'cause that's the only time I can truly relax.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Thanks for sharing.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
hi, i dont apply make ups on my face if i am at home such as mascara, lipstick, eyeliner. just an ordinary face powder to avoid oily face, sometimes our face need rest from make ups, because sometimes this is the cause of ugliness to our face.
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Thanks for sharing.