My son has a crush in the school

Hi Sorry, Actually my earlier post should have been in response to your reply. I posted it as a new post

I got it, at first I am wondering if this is a new post or just a reply but its ok. I simply understand it. I will respond to this post so that we would not get lost in discussing my issue. I am right that you like mature women, I got that perception when you told me that you like or you have crush on your teacher. I remember that movie you told me, my boss even told me about that movie. But its very interesting movie, its just that I dont have a copy on it and never see it really.

Yes I have not watched the reader yet. If you imagine yourself in the boy, isn't the boy is too much in love with kate winslet? So are you also saying that you are too much in love with your english teacher at that time?

yeah at least he's open to you about admiring someone. Anyway, I think even though you are a single mom there are many people whom you can ask about men issues such as your dad.. It's going to be fun and realistic because on the other way around you will be having a bonding time with your father wile asking some "men matters". And I'm sure you have some guy friends you may ask them what do they usually do or what are their fears that you might use as well to your son.. Learning and application...weeee...

weeee.. what a learning and application process I'll have. But I am too shy to ask my father about it. He might just gonna shout at me and I dont like it that way.

Yes friend its really difficult to handle such things, especially I am single parent. I dont know how to handle such "men issues" because of course I am not man. So I am really taking it step by step with him. Just that I am thankful he is open with me about this issues at least to that I am confident he would not be lost because I am always right here to guide him in every step of the way.

Having crushes at age of 9 yrs old is just normal for his age. But having a relationship I dont think he will go further on that. He even dont know such things yet, but his aware that he likes this girl and that's it. Monitoring in his school is no longer needed but he himself aware that he dont know what is a relationship or what.

Of course you've help me a lot. I appreciate all the things you shared here and rest assured this will be treasured. I know its just normal and natural for their age. What I am worried about its that I am insecure and got jealous because he has an interest with someone else.

That would be another good idea to talk to our kids. They will surely aware that its ok and no problem at all of what they are feeling right now. But in my case, I guess its me who is still denying and not admitting that my son is no longer a baby. Because to me he is still a baby and I am treating him like a baby as well. Because I am not yet satisfied with the 9 yrs that I've been caring of him and to me. He will always be like that no matter he will grow up as 35 yrs old or even get married. But really I want that his attention is just to his mom and no one else. Am I selfish?

Hi QeeGood, this made me so annoyed but happening.

For Ada8ma21 I have five children, two daughters age 11 and 30 and three sons, age 25,22 and 20. They are always my babies in my heart all my life. As they have become grown ups, I approach them as adults. It is a process let your child/chidren grow to develop their qualities, abilities and skills to make a good life as responsible adults. It is better to let your child explore the world asking and letting you know what he/she is in a process of growing. You,as a parent can be the one he/she turns to for a further good growth becoming a good happy adult. It is like extending the naval cord inch by inch. Parent and child is getting time to get used to the new growth in him/her as child. There is not a certain age for this and that to happen. We are individuals and it can all happen in a age rage of 9 - 12 getting the cruch of a girl/boy feeling true feelings. A happy, safe and secure child has a parent letting the child explore and discover the world out from its own desire and ability which brings healthy growth in the furher process of development into being a happy, healthy resonsible adult.

I am really showing it to him that I am ok with that and I wanted him to be open with me about all things in life I dont want him to keep secrets and he is ok with that. He always tells me what is going on with his life. But this one really makes me shocked and surprise but of course I did not show it to him like that but instead I show it to him the other way around. I just keep it to myself and think it over and over again.

Yes, I am really putting my best effort to show him that I am in his side and I still support him no matter what. But I still did not discussed to him about the limitations. Thank you for reminding me.

Just support him but show him still that there should be limitations especially that he is still very young. Cheers!

Yeahh keeping an eye is what I've been doing since I've given birth to him and today I just cant accept that his attention is no longer to me, he got someone else. That is my worry I am just jealous and not accepting that he is growing and getting bigger already but to me he is still my baby and will always be.

Yeahh they are about to start developing their sexuality. But I am just jealous being his mom. I guess a problem on that, not on him but to myself that I still did not accept that he is growing and starts to have crushes.

Of course I dont prohibit him of having such things. Because I know its normal for him to feel that. But I am just worried that I have this insecurity feelings that I dont know how to handle. Its keeps on bothering me and worry me so much.

Well I am just thankful that he still open up with me and that's what I really care and I am making sure that I would not show any disagreement with him so that the next time he feels that at least he comfortable in sharing it with me.