Will you still try to look for your father who abandoned you since birth?

Our situations are very similar. My biological father did the same thing. I am now 48 and have never talked to or met this man. I have very strong mixed feelings on both sides of the issue. I had always told myself I would not search for my biological father as long as my step Dad was alive. He raised me from the time I was 2 years old and I didn't want to do anything to hurt him. He passed away in 2004. Also in 2004 I started having serious health problems and we knew nothing about possible hereditary health conditions on his side of the family. I attempted to find him but just kept running into road blocks and I didn't have the money to pay for any information. I have been thinking about it again as my Mother-in-law who was adopted as a child along with her biological sister to the same couple found her birth Mother and several brothers and sisters. They had a wonderful reunion this past Thanksgiving and her birth Mother passed away the end of January finally at peace at knowing her girls had been well cared for. I have a lot of natural curiosity but also a lot of anger so I still am unsure what I'm going to do. I wish you all the best should you decide to pursue him.

I guess I still would look for my biological father just to have a sense of closure. But what I'm concerned about is how I'd react if I do make contact with him.

hello koolit83! Sorry for that, But it also happened to me honestly. and I don't really like to go back to that memory. But you share yours so, I share mine. LOL. I grown up without a father I learn and Love myself being with my mom I enjoy it. I never look for him anymore because he never did. That's my opinion because I also struggle in that situation so i really understand what you are talking about. good luck friend,

No because I'm not wasting my time looking for someone who isn't taking the time to look for me. He left and didn't even bother to leave a number and give your mother a hand during her pregnancy. I suggest that you don't do anything to try and find him and just pray that some miracle would come and that he'll find you and maybe he'll want to be apart of your life.

Actually i think i would go and look for my father because i would be curious about what kind of person he was, why did he do that to me and stuffs. I did have some friends who were given for adoption when they were little. They went in search of their biological parents and came to know all the truths.