Im a grandmother and DONT want to be called THAT!

hmm .. you are saying right that it's not right age to be grandmother.. but you can't help on this... i think you should not worry about this thing.. you just enjoy the newborn baby and you should not worry about this thing that what he/she will call u? or what people think that you have become grandmother . they know the truth that you are just 41 year old.. it's not mean that if anyone become it does not mean he/she become old or so mature... if she/he was born recently it means you should not worry till 1 year when he/she will be able to call you nana hehehe... till than just enjoy the relationship... BUT if you still worry about this.. i think he/she call you elder mummy... or if you does not like this than any nick name should be given to u.. from which she will call you.. like a have seen a one movie named "paa" in which a grandson calls his grandmother "bumm" that sounds so cute.. :)

I did not think I would like it either. I was 39 when my grandson was born. By the time he started talking, it did not bother me at all. I cannot think of anything different.

My grandchildren call me "Meemo" and my 3 great-grandchildren call me "GiGi" for great-grandmother. I am pretty cool with these names.

Hi. doveli. I can understand where you are coming from. I call my grandmother grandma, she is over 70 years old today. Today is her Birthday! I don't know how old she is today, but she is over 70 years old.I have an cousin that is over 41 and she does not want to be called a grandma just yet either.

Congratulations! But I think calling your Grandma is to respect you, you don't wnt him to call you your name, do you? How about Big mama? or mamamama(mama's mama) I have my son early as well, I think I will be happy to hear they my grandchild call me Grammy in the future

Wow! Congratulations on the birth of your first grandchild! I just read that he was born at 24 1/2 weeks. That is incredible and very scary to have a child born that early! I have a friend who had a daughter at around that age. She was in hospital for a month or so I think. She is around six now and still small for her age, but is very switched on mentally. I hope your grandson does as well. I am only 3 years younger than you and I can not imagine myself being a grandparent for a long time yet. If you are anything like me, I still feel like I am 20 sometimes! A friend of mine became a grandfather a few years ago at 38 when his daughter gave birth at the age of 15! That is a scary thought for me when my daughter will be that age in 4 years time. We will be doing everything in our power to educate her to avoid this happening though! My grandparents were called nana and pop on my mothers side and nanny and poppy on my fathers side by us as children. My kids call my mum and dad grandma and grandpa. Maybe they could just call you by your name?

Well Dloveli, I understand EXACTLY how you feel. When my daughter told me she was pregnant (she was 19) I threw a glass of water in her face!...ICE WATER! I was 38 and believe me I was NOT ready to be a grandmother! I STILL had kids (3) in school! For now, it will be a LONG time before he starts calling you anything so you will have some time to get use to this. I always 'glared' at my daughter everytime she called me grandma to the baby!..Well, that baby will turn 17 next month and now there are 10 of them! All I can say is you will get use to it...I forgot how many I had before I got use to it!

not sure guess ya stuck with grandma I have grnad daughter that lives with me call me grandmawmaw and she calls the other one grandmaKK.

Why not just be called by your first name or your nick name? Surly you and your family can agree on something simple like this.

i have known people who also do not like to be called as grandma or nana.. they usually want to be called as "mommy" instead

First of all I think that congratulations are in order for the birth of your first grandson. I hope that you are able to enjoy as much time as possible with him as he grows up. My mother was 46 when her first grandchild was born and my mother-in-law was 45 when Kathryn was born. My mother became Nana and my mother-in-law is Grandma by their choices. However, I don't know that I will ever be comfortable with either of those. I think that I will look at what my grandchildren call their mother and then decide from there. For example, my parent's mothers were both MawMaw to me. I would refer to them as MawMaw Hankey and MawMaw Lynch when I was growing up.

Congratulations to you and your daughter! Like a previous responder, I, too, am from the Philippines so I call my grandmother "Lola". But times have changed. The terms of endearment given to grandparents are so many now. And it really depends on what YOU want to be called. So you can be called "Mama (your name)" or "Mommy G". Make it something special between you and Alijah Aden. It will be like Alijah's special nickname only for you. The love and the respect will always be there.

if i were at your age too i also don't want to be called as grandma. when my two grandmother were alive i call them lola. do you like to be called as mamu, mama or mommy dloveli.

hi dloveli...well for me its normal for you to feel that way..even i if i'm at your situation i'd feel the same way to but you don't have to feel down just because of that your grandchild is not an hindrance for you to beautify yourself come to think of this isn't it great that you will hear compliment like "oh!dloveli has a grand child and 41 already but she look younger than her age"..know what i used to call my grandmother "mama" same way i called my mother which is her daughter.

There's lots of nicknames for grandma.. the best one I've heard is Deedee.. I don't know what it's from, the lady who uses it, her name is Kathy.. One of my grandmother's was french, so it was Memere, pronounced Memay.. My mom has always insisted on Nana.. I can't think of any others.. I go by gramma! But I have a wierd sense of humor.. My hubby will refer to me once in a while, as a joke, as Gram-maw" ("ask gram-maw").. haha, I even like that one and it is afer all an affectionate joke. We've been together since 18 and 17, and it's only been the blink of an eye after all! I cousin in law when she first became a 'gramma' who likes to kid around a lot but I don't see her much, at a big family gathering I said "how are you grandma?". She paused for just a second and said "I've been called worse.." I liked that! Every one else laughed too.. I'm 55 and still feel like "who me? grandmother?"

I called my grandparents what they were supposed to be called in our community - ammumma and appuppan. But they've also been 'old' since the time I remember seeing them. I'm one of the older kids in my generation. My mom was 46 when I had my first child. But two of my cousins had kids of their own but their mother was older than my mom. My mom was fine with being called 'grandma' but I have an aunt who is just a couple of years older than I am. She hated being called 'grandma'. Her son who is 10 months older than my son is his UNCLE! and his younger sister is 3 years younger than my older son and his AUNT! My husband was raised by his grandma and aunts. He is the first grandson but according to my calculation, grandma would have been close to 50 when he was born. Anyway, he calls her 'mother' (amma) and he has given special nicknames (which has no meaning but are cute and respectful at the same time) to his aunts. He still refers to them the same way. The rest of the family call them by those names now. You could do that with your grandson...get a special name just for yourself :)

Well, you know I felt the same for a period of time but now I have stepped up a rung and feel even better about it. I am a GREAT grandmother and am so happy to be called that. I always called my grandparents just that and they were very glad to be. I have heard of some being called 'Nan', and such but that is about the only other thing I have heard. I hope you change your feeling as I did and that you don't mind after a while being a grandmother.

Hello Dloveli, that's alright, it's a phase that you need to get over with. to be honest, it's not something that you can really avoid. even to those pretty people with children didn't mind being called grandma despite of their beautiful body figure. . unfortunately, i wasn't around when you were mentioning these discussion. i hope some day you would get used to it, i think you got insecure for some reason.

Hahaha! I'm happy for you, you have your first grandchild while your life's just starting, that is, because they say that life begins at forty and you're just a year passed from that age, guess, that's the price you have to pay for getting pregnant early in your life. I am turning golden next year and I haven't any children-in-laws yet much more grandchildren, meaning, all my four children are still single and at the peak of their careers. If and when I will have grandchildren in the future I want them to call me Mamita or Mammu, that will do. Oh, by the way, I envy you because you can take care of your grand children while you are still healthy and young and you can spend so much time with them as the grow.

:) guess you still can't accept the fact that you've grown old..don't be offended please. For me, being a grandma is a great achievement. Here in the Philippines we call our grandmothers "Lola" that is grandmother in Filipino. You may also try Mamita...that is if you like.. :)