Broke people who owe you money

I totally agree. These kind of people are not trustworthy.

Thanks Lady M . I've missed you.. how are you? I am guilty... half the time I claim I do not like people, but I do, I mean I like to MEET people. It's so sad that finding someone who is a real friend is such a rare thing. Precious yes... but much rarer than it used to be when we were younger. I ticked off a good friend of mine recently by claiming that everybody except my husband acts like they are from... Jupiter or something... occasionally. I didn't mean it in a bad way, but in the last few months, it was really ringing true. The one person who was ever-constant.... was my husband. And everybody else I knew just wasn't lol. It wasn't a disaster and I wasn't shocked, it was just a realization I came to after thinking on it for awhile. I usually don't offer to let people borrow stuff unless they are someone I spend a lot of time with, and then it's not really borrowing.. it's more like - oh, you don't have cash, let me grab lunch or coffee or something for the kids this time - and then next time they do it. One other thing that bothers me is when someone claims to always keep their word and when you ask them, they don't even remember what they told you....

Hey lady!!! I'm doing GREAT. It's just that sometimes my non-internet life butts into my internet life. I'm sure you understand that one!!! "Real" friends are almost nonexistent anymore!!! That's why when somebody makes it to my heart's friends list, they become a cherished possession!!! My best friend & I have been friends for 59 years. Even though I was too young to remember most of it, I was at the hospital the day she was born!!! I guess I don't remember most of it because way back then you had to be 12 years old before you were allowed in as a visitor, but I was sitting in the lobby with my parents waiting for her to arrive!!! As much as I love her, I would NOT loan her any money because I'd never be able to forgive her if she started the lies & deceit that goes along with borrowing!!! I like to think she wouldn't do it to me, but I've NEVER loaned money that it didn't. I've lost several good friends from the same. I didn't run them off...they just quit coming around & I prefer to think it was out of their guilty conscience. There have been time, I have just handed friends money & said take care of your bills. A few have come back & returned it once they got back on their feet. Yet, I have NEVER "loaned" any money that has come back. So, if I don't have it to give, I don't loan it!!!! Last year I broke my own rule & let a good friend move into my home after she lost her job & her home. The deal was that she could live here for free IF she would help me around the house by doing some of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc. Oh she was saying "oh yes, yes,yes" as she was moving in. However, once moved in, she stayed in bed ALL day long...even going as far as to only get up to say I'm hungry. She did NOTHING toward helping me with the house. Actually all she did was expect me to wait on her!!! She had brought her dog with her as she just couldn't put it in a shelter...which I understood!!! Well, after about 3 months me waiting on her with not as much as a thank you, I told her very plainly that she better straighten up or ship out. You got it, I came home from work one day to find her gone...not even a note saying "kiss my azz". She did leave the dog behind for me to continue to care for. That's the BEST part of the story. I've lost somebody I thought was my friend. She no longer calls & she surely doesn't drop by to say hello!!! There are times I wish I had never tried to help her as I'd still have my friend!!! We had been friends for around 20 years & I miss her!!! Then again, I guess she was NEVER my friend or she wouldn't have done what she did!!!

I guess I can look at it this way, it was never borrowing, it was a 'reluctant gift'... something they asked me for that I agreed to - and I could afford it so I did it...but I had HOPED they would honor me and pay it back. I just won't be as willing to say yes in the future.

Thanks for responding, girl. I guess for the most part I feel like I'm just 'donating' to her cause because her track record with paying me back or 'later' is dismal. She is actually the daughter of a friend - she's an adult, but she was just a child when I met her. She is a sweet girl but she has struggled to find jobs and keep them and the way this economy is dragging in the toilet, I can't expect more. I think all I can do is only feel free to help someone if I know they have helped me back in the past, or I know WITHOUT A DOUBT that they WOULD.

If I owe a friend something I remember... but I would never ask a friend nor would they offer if it was all going to add up to nothing. Some of these people must lack integrity or they have multiple personalities... all I can say lol.