Depression and Love

Well, first of all, being online won't do you any harm, but I wouldn't count on getting into a relationship by meeting people online, is your life and I am NOT telling you what to do, just want you to be careful because 99.9% of the time people online are being fake and bad liars. You should go out more often, I am shy too and I used to be depressed all the time. But one of the most important things I learned was to love myself and be myself or else nobody will ever want to be with me. I am still shy, but I try to come out of the shell is not easy but being shy sometimes is such a turn off, especially for the guys, we live in a society where people think that guys should go after women, but there's nothing wrong with women going after the men. Go out, before you know it some out going girl will like for who you are and even ask you out. You will never know until you try.

Well, there can be many times when someone who is suffering from Depression of any sort has a hard time being around others, and wanting something more like a Relationship and such, but afraid of being hurt or hurting someone in return they tend to stray away. For me, I have been there and it was not easy. I took medications that sometimes caused some horrible other issues as well. For me it was Prayer, Healing and a desire for more that seemed to work. I know that mindset over what you want, and where you want to be, and making a move towards getting there, is one of the Best things anyone can ever do for sure.

I don't know how old you are, but I do know you will run into the right person one day. Just don't settle for some 'no account' because you aren't experienced. If I guy starts telling you he loves you in a day or so, that is a warning that he just wants to be with 'somebody'. I have made that mistake. If you date someone and he doesn't keep your car checked out or offer to repair things that are issues around the house, dump him. I am serious. This is important. If you have pets and they get on his nerves, you don't need him. I don't care for people who don't like pets and children. Just hang in there and be yourself and he will come along. You could meet him in a grocery store, walmart, just anywhere. I wish you the best.

It sounds as though you may be suffering from agoraphobia, which makes your quest a little more difficult. Firstly, some dating sites are not legitimate and are only likely to add to your plight. Of course, most have a cost associated with them and - without getting what you paid for - you may be left feeling a little bitter. So perhaps you could try Googling 'free penfriend sites'. There are quite a few out there; and it may be a good - and more reliable and personal - alternative to dating sites. Furthermore, if you're on Facebook, you may be inclined to find a group that is focused on penfriends. Or on depression, for that matter; where you can find people who may be going through the same sort of thing that you are. The key is to contininue; to never give up. Although you may currently feel that love is eluding you, I'm sure that it's only a short-lived dilemma. I wish you all the best.

hi there..remember, while we're alive there's always hope..trust yourself to find a girl...being shy can be felt only at first instances. Be confident!!!no one else does but you--- yourself.Help your own. Stop thinking "I CAN'T" instead be positive!!then, I assure you, you'll find what you are looking for...

It is hard to think right when your depressed. That makes it harder for you.

I think the best way to meet people is to get involved in something you are passionate about or some sort of club, maybe a community club, work with volunteers or help people in some way, you meet nice people this way, even animal societies...there are a lot of people the same as you, if you join them you can help each other.

It will be a bit problem for you though. The main point to get a girl interest you just by talking to them, and relax yourself a bit when you encounter the girl you like. Don't make yourself too tense, or nervous, they can sense it right away. Be yourself, and nature. If you fail this one, try another one. As you gain your experience, you won't afraid anymore.

i believe in the old saying that you can never search for true love at all. the more you search for it, the more it avoids you. let love search for you, it comes eventually especially when you least expected it. your shy personality might be another factor why you cannot find a real partner.try socializing and exploring more until you get to know more people and eventually fall for the right one. good luck to you.