Are you who you want to be?

@staria (2780)
Philippines
February 26, 2011 12:35am CST
I really love Switchfoot's song - This is your life. The lyrics said: This is your life, are you who you wanna be? The song really hit me hard, am I who I really wanna be. I have a lot of plans for my life before, did I really reached my goals? Am I really living the life that I wanted or the life that I've longed for? I have no regrets now but somehow there are things that hold you back. What's your thoughts?
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@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
i am a happy husband and a happy father of a 5 year old boy. before this is not the life i wanted to be. but now that i have it i can say this is the life that is worth living. when i was younger since my parents are separated i am not thinking too much on entering in such relations. i wanted to be good in the playing bass guitar for that is what i am. i am a bassist in a band. though i am still a bassist, i work hard in able to give shelter and food for my family. i am happy and this is now the life i wanted to have.
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• Pamplona, Spain
26 Feb 11
Hiya se7, Playing in a Group I would have liked something like that too. It´s great that you are playing in a Group that you like being in. Music is what we all need no barriers with Music it reaches all of us no need for translators or anything like that. I love Guitars too I can´t play them at all I have tried so I enjoy listening to it. More than anything I would have liked to have sung in a Group but there has never been any outlets for me in this sense. Maybe your five year old has the same love of Music too.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Hi se7enthbird, yes that true. Sometimes who we really want to be does not matter now. What matters now is that you are happy w/ what you have and who you have become now. As long as you are contented, you can truly say that you are still happy even though you did not become the person that you wished to become. Hi lovinangelsinstead21, not all of us can become a good instrumentalist, etc. But we still have a common thing that we enjoy and in your case, that is music.
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
hello there lovina, my son loves music too for i am a musician and my wife is a professional singer. but she decided to leave singing and became a 24/7 mom for my son and wife for me. though i know she misses singing so much but i know her choice makes her more happy and fulfilled. staria, yes being contented on what i have right now is what makes life happy. of course i still have some dreams like having a business, but that would be a dream come true if i work hard specially now that i am inspired to work.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
I am getting there, but it was delayed for a time. I have not reach my goal yet, but I will. There is one thing that I never hd, or rather two things, and am hoping for a miracle, but I need a husband to do that as I am a widow and not young yet even though my mind is. AS for the financial stuff, I have to work for it. So it is just the money or lack of it that holding me back and of course, not having a husband.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
28 Feb 11
I hope so too. Right now I have to find where so much money went. Last night it was because the bank had not written it off yet. Today there is another short fall. So I have to find where that has gone. Then there is will I get money back from income tax and will that be enough to insulate the basement. I cannot do that piece by piece or one wall one year and the others the next. It has to be done all at once.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I hope that you'll get the help that you need from those people who loves you. Hope things work out for the better for you.
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@lhenpaule (495)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
I'm already 43 and i could say i have already reached half of what suppose to be my life-span here on earth, but mind you, i am still dream and wish for things that i want to be and have in this life. It is not because i have failed with a lot of things, it is just because while you are still alive, HOPE is there. we could plan things, we can have what we want, we can create, we can be what we want to be, whatever goals we may achieved, yet i believe that our ultimate satisfaction is not here on earth, it is something divine.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I agree that while we still breath, there is always hope and there's always a chance to reach our dreams/goals if we wont give up.
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@zhouxi (1752)
• China
27 Feb 11
Every body has dream.when we are young,we are idealist.in fact we live in a real society.we have to do something we don't want.so some times we are not what we want to be.I try to and endeavour to.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 11
I loved all Switchfoot's songs since their first album release. It really touches once heart and i can totally relate to those warm lyrics. most of their lyrics reflect their Christianity that's why their songs are very inspirational and meaningful. they totally rock!
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Yes,I love their songs too. Very inspirational and full of sense. Most of their songs reflects their belief in God (though some may not be able to sense it because they use upbeat &modern type of music).
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• Philippines
27 Feb 11
me? a priest...didn't happen; a pastor, still praying for God's leading; a missionary? i am, while teaching ESL... then a music maker, I am still writing and hoping to record these songs someday... some of the songs get played in the places i go... and though they aren't officially recorded yet, feedbacks say these songs inspire...thanks to the Holy Spirit's leading... I know God wrote my life story this way...and yes, he gave me a few pages here and there for freedom, and lots of white ink to erase mistakes...and wisdom to go on writing, finishing it up towards life's zenith - His glorification. I am becoming who i want to be...my metamorphosis has a way to go, in God's time.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I believe too that God is the author of our life. Though He gave us the free will to decide on things, but I believe that He has already designed our lives the way He wanted it to be
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
26 Feb 11
I love switchfoot, but it has been so long since I heard them, I had to them up on youtube...I haven't met my goals early in life, but I am striving for those goals now. Thanks for the reminder, I'll have to make a playlist for this group..
• United States
27 Feb 11
Cool, I hope you have a good time, I remember when I use to listen to them, they were a really good band.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Yeah, their songs are really nice. I love their song "You" and " Dare you to move". Really inspiring!
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Yeah, havent heard much about them too. Im really hoping that I can watch their concert here on April.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Feb 11
I sometimes wish I could have had more of a life for me not just my family but then I would have the close net relationships like I do now. I could what if all day but things would have been all screwy and not as comfortable as they are now. So I think I am happy with how things turned out. The song seems up lifing.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Agree, the song is really inspiring and makes you reflect on things. As long as you're happy w/ what your life has become, I think that's all that really matters in this life.
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@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Feb 11
Yes, that is all that really matters in this life.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
28 Feb 11
Right! Hello Staria, I have no regrets, as you say, but once I´d like to became a doctor. My parents got divorced, they always were at their office... and they got divorced, and my brother and I were alone so much time... so... I realized then, that I just wanted to be a really good commited mother with my children and a lovely wife with my husband. And I´m still fighting to reach this goal... =) Blessings!... Dainy
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@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
5 Mar 11
You almost made my eyes tear... Kind blessings! Good luck for both of us! ... Dainy
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Hi, sometimes our dreams/goals change, our experiences contributed so much w/ what we are today. I have set my eyes to become a good mom and wife too, I never had a good childhood. But I want my family to have a normal and happy life. Cheers!
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
26 Feb 11
I have left a lots of dreams behind!...I had 4 children to rise on my own after I had to leave my husband because of his abusive behaviour... thank goodness it's all over and done with...my children are all grown up and pursuing their own careers...my job as a parent is done! I have no regret! but some times I wish we could go back and make a better choice...but then life is like a river it only goes down the stream what ever you can hold when passing by it will be waiting for you at the end.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
26 Feb 11
Cheers to you to...staria
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Our choices really affects our future big time. But these trials too are like rivers, it may take some time for them to flow, but sooner or later you'll be able to surpass all of them. Cheers!
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 11
I don't think I am what I want to be carrier and future wise, but I am what I want to be in character and personality (considering we can choose what we want in personality). There are several things that I long for that I know a fat chance for me to reach them. I tried, but I know my capability and my sources, so I tried to be happy with what I have and what I am, now. Unless there will be a miracle that would make me reach more of what I want...
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 11
Yes, we have to be contented, to let go and forgave ourselves to be happy and definitely I want to be happy. Or at least have fun in this life.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Though to be honest, sometimes it's hard to have fun these days But if we can only try to live a happy and lighter kind of life..
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
It's good that you are trying to be contented w/ what you have. It is good too that you are able to hold on to your personality, or became the person that you wish to become in terms of personality.
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@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
I am not familiar with that song, but I like Switchfoot, so I'll go search for the song later! I don't think I have settled in terms of who I wanna be, and I think I wouldn't for a long time. But, getting there has been fun, and though most of what and who I am now it not exactly what I've planned before, there are only a few minor regrets.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Go ahead and download the song! It's really inspiring!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
It's a cool song! Nice one!
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Try listening to their other songs too. I suggest Dare you to move and You.
26 Feb 11
Its pretty good some songs do say about our lives and it get to us really hard and we realize what we really doing.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
Some songs really get into the deeper side of us. There are songs that I can relate to personally. Music can really touch us in different ways.
27 Feb 11
Yes they do
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
12 Mar 11
just as the saying goes,you can not please everybody just as you wanted and trying to please yourself for the outcome of what you are right now. I DID dream a very simple life and planned for the future of my own family, but it is true that you will never know what is ahead of you. It is not bad planning but in the long run,you will realize that you need to accept the way you were lead to ending up for what you are in and who you are right now,FEELING SORRY would not be healthy in boosting your triumph to go on accepting the outcome of yourself, from one to ten just rate your acceptance average for there are still with us to be thankful for, your family. And therefor;yes,I DONT WANT MYSELF NOW BUT I SHOULD AND I MUST LIKE IT BECAUSE GOD allows it that way... trust HIM for he will never leave you.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
yup, God has our lives all planned out. Though there are decisions that affected it somehow. We should face the lives that we have even though we never dreamed about this happening.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
7 Mar 11
Personally there are some things I wish could have been different than what they have been and some things in life I know I have not achieved. Personally I do still have some Goals and dreams I am really wanting to achieve, and know it is really up to me from here to one day be able to obtain them. It sometimes is a really big piece of work but will be so worth it in the end. In reality, I am Happy with a lot of where my life has gone. Just will be truly Happy if I can one day achieve my long life dreams and goals as well.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
We tend to set our eyes on different things when we are young and failed to realize that somehow we are better off today. These dreams can still come true, if we believe and work hard to achieve it.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 Mar 11
Nothing has turned out the way I expected it to. I am not the person I thought I was. I have been lost for such a long time and still trying to work out who i am and what I'm supposed to be doing here. Reckon I lost the plot when I was about 2 years old. I'm relatively content now with where I am but still don't know myself. Life is hard and you need parents who are really good teachers. Mine weren't.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
7 Mar 11
yeah, contentment is key to life. parents can really set as an example for us but at the end of the day our lives results to our decisions and how we chose to live the life that we have.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Mar 11
Well I can certainly say that wish I knew then what I know now! As I’ve grown older I have reset my priorities and I have learned to “feel fear and do it anyway”! It’s taken years of practice but I am getting there in good time LOL! I have learnt the art of gratitude and to focus on all the wonderful things in my life instead on what may be missing.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
That's true, our priorities change when we get older and as we mature :)
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Nice topic my friend..for me if we talk of material sufficiency I never reach yet what I desired but speaking of spiritual life am already sure and contented of where I stand right now. No regrets. But life is full of trials and hardships which always the twin of each and every one while we are still alive. Am not an hypocrite I need and every one needs money but not to the point to be really rich, because I am afraid that lots of money would made me change, who knows. I wanted just enough, sufficient enough for my daily needs. More power my friend. Mobhomeir here..
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Hi there, of course all of us wants a better life. Some of us, like you is not really aiming to be really rich, we just wanted an average life that will suit our everyday needs, nothing wrong w/ that.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
2 Mar 11
I think I am not ready to answer this question. Because if I did, I think I'll get disappointed with my answer. There are still a few things in my life that are still not in order, YET. But I know (I hope), that in a few years I would be ready. Ready to say that I am who I wanted to be.
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@staria (2780)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
And if this discussion still exists, please come back and share it to us!
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I am now a father of two, to be a father is not a joke couse you have a big dutyi to guide and mold the kids to the right ways and to grow a good man. Thats the one i want to be, a good father and a simple human being and to follow the will of God.
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Great to hear that! I believe too that being a father is not a joke, as being a mom is hard as well. But the father should be the one to discipline their children and majorly he provides to the whole family. Different sets of responsibilities but all is set for the family