How to build a new relationship with someone else?

Indonesia
February 26, 2011 10:29am CST
How do I socialize and adapt to new environment and find new friends who want to know about us, I admit I was very hard to get along and liked. I was very stiff and I realized that I have trouble opening up, I felt that I had no confidence and it was impressive I am arrogant person, but I feel many flaws, and the most severe I touchwood and grumpy, I want to learn to build a good bonding relationship with other people.
4 responses
• Indonesia
14 Mar 11
You need to be more open, more open mind about many things, start by keeping in touch with friends, family members, neighbors, try to slowly open your mind about other people, accept a friend as a friend the truth, instead of accepting the friend only to leave it just like that
• Pakistan
9 Mar 11
I would like to suggest you to use social site like Facebook and twitter etc. And mylot is also a good site for making new friends. Use yahoo voice chat to chat with the guys around the world and it will make you confident. Have a good day.
@najibdina29 (1309)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 11
if you are a new occupant in the new environment, then I suggest you to hang a show of friendly and courteous attitude
• United States
26 Feb 11
That all depends on whether you prefer internet relationships or in-person relationships. I'll try to help give you some tips for both: There are many different things that come into play in a face-to-face relationship. You can 'lure' people in by dressing your best and going into public, make casual friends at work, church, school, or any other public location. When you meet these people, try to make sure to get out there and 'accidentally' bump into them again. It sounds a little lame, yes, but your reasons for doing this all depend on where you go regularly and where you would go to meet new people. The more people you want to meet, means: A) attractive B) friendly C) outgoing D) independent For these three things, "the more the better" is always true. If you have ever seen the movie "Yes Man!" the concept is pretty much the same. As a little evidence for this, consider reasons YOU would talk to someone. Make a little list, then essentially try to 'become' that type of person. Another thing to consider, is that confidence plays a really big role in your performance of meeting new people. I'm sure you know 1 or 2 people that aren't very attractive, yet always seem to have a date or someone to hang out with. It proves you don't have to be attractive in order to be socially successful (and I'm not saying you aren't attractive, it's all just part of the example). You have probably wondered how they are doing it, while you aren't having much luck. These friends that don't seem too especially attractive have some things in common: they all display most/all of the things listed above. One way to boost confidence is to work on your independence. Do some things simply because you want to do them; the more things you go out of your way to do, the better. Be more head-strong and don't 'cave in' to other peoples' thoughts and opinions as quickly. Another thing to remember is to keep things casual. Don't overreact or make a big deal out of anything. When people ask you to spend time with them, it's cool. When they don't, it's still cool. This plays a big part in the independence aspect of your persona. Do whatever you can to augment these 4 aspects and you will definitely see an improvement in social status. How do you know you can take my word for it? I moved right after elementary school and had no friends. It certainly wasn't my choice to move, and I didn't know anyone at the new school. I was officially the "new kid," and people didn't like me because I was different. I didn't have many friends for a few years. Essentially, I had to study my classmates and it was a long and depressing experience. In retrospect, it was a good opportunity to really figure out how to improve my social skills (though I did not see it that way at the time), and now I can make friends at most of the places I go. Internet friendships are vastly different than face-to-face relationships. People are much more available, and you have access to literally millions of people at any given time. You can start playing a video game and make friends, or join a social network like Facebook or MySpace. You're likely to get friend requests over time, simply by having an account. Facebook can filter out only people who live in a location or go to a certain school/college, so that's a fast and easy way to meet people in your area. In sites like that, the more information you list, the more people it will relate to you and the greater your chances for adding new friends. Friendships that start online can also lead to offline relationships. Generally you would need to live near the person, but that is not always the case. I hope this will help you and anyone else who wants to increase their social skills.