I can't let go of the past.
By EstiiBabii
@EstiiBabii (685)
United States
February 26, 2011 6:07pm CST
For some time now I've been looking in the past and I remember an old flame. How much I liked this old flame, every time he would smile I'd just die in giggles. One time he guessed that I liked him but I shrugged and said no. I wonder what would've happened if I would've said yes. I remember when he added me on facebook and the conversations we would have. I missed my chance to tell him how I felt. He deactivated his account. Now, I'm feeling regret for being shy. I'm confused on whether or not should I find him. What do you think? Do you think that I should find him and tell him how I feel?
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10 responses
@Oldsix691418 (3872)
• China
27 Feb 11
You really missed a great chance.You should have told him what you felt then,so he could judged how you loved him,but you didn't.A man who loves you truely always expects the girl to tell him the truth so that he can make a decision whether he needs to keep in touch with you or not.Now you are missing him but he's left you,that's all your fault.
If you love that guy,just try your best to find him.If you are not able to make it,just stop thinking of him and find another to begin a new life.Maybe that guy never loves you!
@med889 (5941)
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27 Feb 11
I think you should give a try to find him and see if he comes back in your life again, never be shy to say what you have to especially when it concerns about your feelings and your life. It is always better to express oneself to the utmost instead of keeping all the feelings inside.
@SunnyBuddy (443)
• India
27 Feb 11
Yes... i think you should have told him how you felt atleast even after enquiring how he felt about you... There shouldnt be things like ego/shyness when it comes to expressing love.
Its also completely understandable about why you might have felt shy though.. You wanted him to be the first. And maybe he too wanted the same... Rejection is a huge disappointment. It crushes your confidence to approach your beloved...
I wish you good luck that you find him and build a good relation with him.
@sterra1995 (74)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Hi EstiiBabii, Go for it girl. Make sure he is not seeing someone first. I was shy like that but not anymore. I liked a guy it was love at first sight. I finely broke down and kissed him. He was as shy as I was. Someone has to make the first move. I should be you. Just go for it. All he can say is no. Then you can move on with your life and not keep wondering why. Good luck girl.
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@rebelde834 (43)
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27 Feb 11
Well if you're meant for each other love will find its way. But
trust me on this, you should make your move too. Don't rely on love alone.
But based on your story, It depends on how long you two have broken up.
If it has been years then i suggest you just have to know if he's with
someone else and when he is, I think its time to move on.
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@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Well, it depends how much it's bugging you. Sometimes, it's better to leave it as a sweet memory... but sometimes, it would be fun and nice to see how far it could have really gone. What if he changed completely? But you'll never know until you find out.
@Pinkie2011 (64)
• United States
27 Feb 11
I believe you should follow your heart.Listen to what your heart tells you.It may seem like just a fantasy that im telling you but I listen to my heart a lot.It has worked out for me so far.It can work for you if you let it.
@jhaidro (877)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
I think that you should not be so attached to this. He might be good looking and all but in the long run, you may be surprised and think that he is not really the man you wanted to be with. The way to talked about him seems that you really know him that much and so I think that it is time to move on. Who knows that you might bump into someone better.
@EstiiBabii (685)
• United States
27 Feb 11
I have bumped into better guys but I just began reminiscing in the past and suddenly felt nostalgia and missed him. I just started regretting every minute we talked but I never told him how I felt.
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@redandwhitescarf08 (128)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
that is why it is called the past because it has happened already. Life continues to move on, and in your case you should to.
Maybe you should just trust in fate, if you are meant together, love will find its way.
