What should I do?

If you try to please everyone, you will please noone, including yourself. Only change your behavior if YOU think you are acting incorrectly. To be an individual, sometimes you have to stand up for what you believe in. I am in a similar situation. I have been called selfish for doing what I believe is right. I can't let that stop me, because it has to be done. I can't help or change how others feel, I can only do what is right by myself. Other people are not you, and in time, they will respect what you have to say. If they do not, that is not your fault, or your problem, it is theirs. Good Luck

Stand for what you think is right. The number of people believing in an idea doesn't prove that they are saying the truth. But then again yo have another option which is: "If you cannot beat them, join them."

Hi sql_cell, I am sorry that people around you are putting you down. WHat i feel is you are too eager to please people around you and in order to please them you let them play around with you. So long you would be meek and do as you are told , no one is going to respect you as they think oh him,, we can say anything to him or her. So try to learn to say no firmly and though they would resent it in start , soon they would realise your value.

What people? Have you tried to understand them?

Ar certain moments we are misunderstood.Maybe we have given that impression inadvertently or done some action which is construed in such a manner.We could be misunderstood.If we sit and talk maybe we can clear the misunderstanding.

you know sql_cell we can never please everybody. what is best is to be yourself. because if you portray another you, which is not you, then you will be putting always a mask for yourself in order those people around would understand you. and that is not good. so be yourself and let them know you and not you to know them.

do you understand them too? do you understand why they disagree with you? if you do, then try to present your position and make them understand too. in understanding both position and where they stand, then it will be a bit easier to come up with a win-win solution or compromise. talk and talk. open up discussion with the people around you. that is the only way for understanding them. with you the best.

Just be who you are. People mis-read you because they dont know you. Best thing is get to know them so they can know you too. Disspell the lie.

Well, you have the right to choose what to follow, my friend. I agree with you. Don't follow them if you know what they did is wrong

You don't need to follow every words that they say. but you need to think of each comments too,consider the good sides and throw away the bad comments. No one will tell our wrong doings,or will care to say what we need to change in our attitude but our loved ones. So we must listen to them. Changes is not bad ,as long as it is for our own good. have a great day

I can understand your feeling as I am just like you. When I said white then it should be white and I will stand with my decision.They can say whatever they want I will not follows theirs if I know the good and bad about it.I will speak up my opinion and if they have some they may say it too.It is important to make them understand what is your opinion and why you feel so.

I think I would rather have those kind of people who are very honest about what they think of me rather than people who will approach you being nice. And if these people got extra nice to me then I have to figure out what is their ulterior motives. It is hard to know the reason why they do that to me so I would rather have friends who are honest in telling me what is wrong with me. If you are having a hard time mingling with them then just enjoy the company of your own self. I would rather be alone than be with the people that I don't like.

I think that it is not right to do things that you are against with however you have to understand and accept their thoughts even if you think of it otherwise. I also believe that to resolve this issue, try to assess your self more. The way you stated it, its like they are all against you. Maybe there was something about how you delivered the idea of not agreeing with them. It is alright to disagree given the right delivery. Sometimes they would see it as being rude if you ignore their ideas for the sake of your personal opinion. I guess talking it over with them will help.

I think you should have that sense of what is right and wrong. If what you are doing is for the betterment of the people, and if these deeds are not unlawful, and most of all, is right in the eyes of GOD, then you do not have to worry about what others will say about you.

Time to get new friends. If you feel one way in your heart and they Can't or won't understand, then it is time to either sit them down an agree to disagree or for you to part. Life is hard enough when you Get the Support you deserve and Impossible whe you don't. As long as your path doesn't hurt you or anyone else , you should follow it. And Know that there are many who are Just like you. Follow your Bliss. When you do , you will meet others who are on the same path! I want to wish all the luck in the world. Take Care.

Sql, we can't rely on them to understood us. if you are trying to say what you really want and what you really feel, i guess they can understand you somehow. but if you just quit, they can only push to you what they want

Sql, we can't rely on them to understood us. if you are trying to say what you really want and what you really feel, i guess they can understand you somehow. but if you just quit, they can only push to you what they want

if they expect you to do as they want then they are the selfish ones.

Your unique character is what makes you stand apart from others. Do you have to follow, even if you disagree? By all means no.You have your uniqueness of mind, for without our uniqueness, we have neither precision nor nobility nor sweetness of expression.It is the finest tool we have for expressing our tender sentiments, high hopes, humble prayers. When we debase it, we debase our character of though. It is you who enriches your thoughts and your character or originality.

that is really annoying. but try to understand them also. forcing to them what you like on a wrong time will result to nothing. so try to think another way to insist what you like in a nice way. dont give up.