People can say some hateful, hurtful things.

i learnt this quite sometime back ago only. i have shouted but only to the mean people without whom i am better off i don't really lose my cool with people who are close to me, touch wood have you said words that you later regreted?

I wish my husband would read this, he always does this to me. He knows everything about my past,and he'll take the most hurtfull of it and use it to hurt me. Then he cant figure out why i stay mad all the time. The things of the past are ment to stay in the past. He grew up in a awesome environment, so he cant use that as an excuse. It is just him being him.

Hi. megamatt. I know what you mean. Some people will say any and everything that comes out of their mouth. They don't think before they speak. They never seem to care or be aware of what they say to the other person. This is very sad, so sad. I know that I try to watch what I say to a person. If I don't have anything good to say to them, I will keep it to myself. And if I felt like I have offended this person, I will explain myself. I try not to leave a person feeling hurt. People that tend to hurt others feelings, they should be more mindful about what they do and say to another person. It is only fair and respectful.

Hi mehamatt, There are all kind of people in this world. A person develop in a family and family values do show in behaviour of a person. Also people when they feel they have lost to other or are not right but want to show they are right so they would try to hurt you, or make you feel small and this is easiest way. And yes words hurt much more than arrows ever can.

People can often be cruel to each other. something so small can turn into something huge and out of control. It seems the abgrier we become at someone for something, the more the cruelty will come out. Once harsh words are spoken, they can not be taken back. Care should be taken before these words come out. You might not mean what you say.

That is so true. I think when we get upset our emotions take over and any ole thing will just come out. Sometimes, though the things we say are things we truly feel. But we know that saying certain things will hurt the other person. Being completely open can sometime be really hurtful. However, holding things back and just prolong what you really want and need to say, and it tends to come out in the wrong way. Like when we lose our temper. Other great point you made is about growing up in a environment were saying harmful things are common. This is so true. Making it okay to hurt other people whether it be words or physical is abuse. Living in a environment like this is very bad for anyone let alone a child. They only one that can stop this cycle is ourselves, making it a better situation for our lives and our children. Great post...

People don't realize that hurtful words and swear words are sharper than a sharpened sword and can be very damaging to any good relationship. Words spoken out cannot be retracted but remain a scar on someone else heart. It doesn't cost anything to be polite and to practice diplomacy for the sake of peaceful existence. But politeness is really in short supply these days, so we see much troubles in this world. Unfortunately!

Sometimes, it happens that we might say things like that, when we're really agree. But they are just things that we don't mean at all. Sometimes, we just don't mean to say anything like that.

Hello megamatt, Yes, you are right, it's best to keep it in yourself and try to avoid opening your mouth when you know you tend to get foul mouthed. It's not a healthy thing at all, even to get that angry when you can say whatever you like to hurt the other person. You are only going to regret saying those things later, and it feels so terrible. I have been in that situation and i have been really really mean to by girlfriend. I apologized later on, but that makes me feel so weak. It just isn't right ! The best way is to keep our mouth shut and avoid saying anything that is going to hurt the other.

Hello, Matt. The tongue is like a double edged sword when it used by someone who has full of anger and pain. It cuts so deep that it can tear your spirit apart. Didn't we witness instances when someone got himself killed because he was too hurt by what a friend told him? Or someone killed somebody because of the words the latter had ill spoken unto him? I'd say, a word or words can either make you or break you. It is the best weapon the human race has ever invented.

This is so hard to do like for me I always flare up when I get mad and realize my mistake after everything has messed up. I hope, I can do cooling down first before confronting the person.

Some people just have this ability,keep you caln mood suddenly become very hot,what is his reason or your reason?It is a funny thing!