When children grow up and become mature ,parents become immature...

Hi Kiran! You are very right that when children grow up they make their parents feel immature. My son is a growing and he has started telling me what is wrong and what is right for me. I start wondering whether am more experienced than him or he is. Sometimes, we tend to agree with their suggestion, as they belong to 'new and young generation'.

Yes, that is true. I've been telling my friends to bear their parents attitude towards them, as they older they get the become childish in a way. I would tell my children hat too one day, so they can be prepared when I act like a 5-years old children.

Hi KIRAN! When parents are young, they are forced to act extra mature because they feel responsible .Once their children grow up, there tends to be a sort of mutual 'thus far and no further' feeling with regard to the couple. As a result, their intolerance increases and they become impatient very quickly. I guess this is the reason.

Absolutely true Kiran, I am observing my mother these days who's in her late 70s or maybe early 80s...the way she behaves with her daughter-in-law and few days back she was very harsh with me also...I cared for her so much and was taken back last fortnight when she spoke to me so rudely. Till now I am not able to come out of this extreme behaviour of mother, don't know how to cope up withit. Thanks Kiran,you've touched my pulse!

I totally agree with that statement. xD Well, I'm not saying it's true to all, but for mine, it kind of is. I'm an only child, so I mostly am involved in decision making, and discussions. But since I've become a teen, and more mature in understanding situations, I must say, my parents are becoming kids. They argue about simple matters. Voices start rising, and tension builds up. I find it really stupid since they've been together for more than 20 years, it means they know each other well. And right now, they fight like new parents bickering on who is to feed the baby, and I turn out to be the peace maker every time this happens.

no, i dont think so.. they have a lot of experience..the thing is we fail to understand them..when we stand firm on our dicissions and are not ready to change it, at this age... then they are at the double age than us,how can we expect them to change..there is a communication gap i agree..but parents dont become immature.

I totally agree with you. As we grow old day by day, we started behaving like child. And at the elder age we are totally kids back to our normal days. Its a cycle and everyone have to face it.

hi friends, Even i'm having same feeling but one thing for sure is that not all parents are like that. Sum parents try to grow up with their children and some don't want to change themselves and they still can't accept the truth. I'm experiencing that with my dad, my dad 'll not try to imbibe new things he just wanna be as he is before, but that wont work out all times, so sumtimes i agree with him but i'm not that problem with my mom since she try to understand what is what and try to learn new things and ya i even see this among my friends. But what to do this is quite common in every house. What do u say friends?

Yes kiran, in practical life also when parents become old they quarrel each other for silly matters. We the siblings also enjoyed our father-mother's bickering. My father used to go for daily marketing. If my mother questioned about something he bought then my father reacted and they began to quarrel. We stopped them. Yes when humans grow old they become children. May be this fate is waiting for us too.

I have done this peace broker role many times in my life.

Hello kiran, After all that they have been through bringing us up can anyone imagine the parents get a little immature later on ? I can hardly believe that. All i can think of is that, with the changing trend kids act differently when compared to how their parents were when they were as young as their kids. Sometimes it takes a little more time for the parents to understand what is really up with the constantly changing trend and how their kids are changing with it. They need time to figure out the rights and wrongs and yeah parents should never be blamed because the times were different at their time and they also need time and space to adopt at these modern times. Sometimes it's the kids who fail to realize what their parents want for them, they do all the good for them and they think they are keeping them bounded to their rules. In some cases yes, parents might act too imposingly, and that is just because they fear their children might get spoiled, and we should not blame them. Don't ever lose the trust of your parents, and i am sure they will give you the space you need. It's so sad that kids these days have learned how to rebel against their parents just because they didn't get the spanking they needed. Spanking isn't bad, when you only do it because you love your child.

Isn't it funny how parents and children seem to take on role reversals in life? I see this happening more and more all of the time. Children become the parent while the parent is slowly becoming the child.

We have have two children in my family one is my son and other is my mother. Yes it is very true that a person lives life of a child twice in his lifetime one before 16 and other after 60. After sixties, a people start behaving in childish ways. Their taste buds start craving for different different tastes, their temperament becomes very labile, and their behavior becomes childish. When children becomes mature they have to handle their parents like their children. They have to console them, they have to take care of them, they have remind them of their medications, and they have to assist them in their activities of daily living. This is a truth of life and yes this is life.

Hi Kiran, That's true.. I see my mother off late behaving like small kids as if they need someone to take care of them.. Whenever she falls sick she expects me to look after her and take her to the doctor, cook food for her and the list goes on and on... this is because they feel that they have done enough to their kids and when the kids start talking smart and bright they feel very happy and admire the amount of knowledge and the responsibility they carry... they also try to push their responsibility on us and makes us feel that when you were a kid (when you had no idea about how the world is) I took care of you and when I see that you think more smarter than what I do I would live you to take care of me... This is not their immaturity they want their kids to do do well so they keep correcting them and as when they become better they hand over their responsibilities and behave like kids..

Children certainly bring in the balance in life! Since they do not develop biases to the extent of adults, they are impartial. Since their minds are not as uncluttered as an adults they are logical to a great extent. Adults secretively jealous of this, but still sometimes emulate the "child behavior". While children always in awe of their parents, become "Mature". This balances the family. Thank God for that!