Kids and cleaning their rooms.....

My almost 4 year old daughter is bad a claning her room giving excuses like "my ears are too big" & "I'm too tired" I had this argument with her yesterday....what did make her help me a little was when I told her that if she didn't help clean it up then when she goes to school today, I was going to bring the wheelie bin into her room & put everything that is on the floor into the bin!

Oh my goodness I have a teenager. I still have this problem. Good Luck. Of course im a softy though.

i wouldnt pay my kids to clean their rooms or to keep them clean. that is their responsibility. you as a mother dont get paid for everything, why should they? i have, however helped my kids clean their rooms. we usually go through it a couple of times a year and really clean it good, then they only need to spot clean and maintain it.

It is a hard concept for children so young to grasp. It is best at their age if you help them or at least supervise them when cleaning their room. I have also come to realize that our concept of clean is much different than a child's concept of clean. My kids always felt like if the center of the room was clean it was clean even if there were toys and stuff all against the wall. At this age they need your instruction and guidance. If you leave them to do it on their own they are going to clean to the point where they think it is acceptable.

Hi. Strawberrykisses. My son will go into his bedroom and play. He will mess up his room. He will pull out papers and stack them all up. He will make a bridge this way too. He will get on his floor and have the paper built up like he is making a building. I will tell him about this. I also make him clean it all up. I had to fuss at him about this yesterday. He finally cleaned it all up. He got a plastic bag and collected all of the paper that was on the floor. I had to really get on him in a firm voice. It is not easy for me at times. But I do get him to do it. Every now and then, I will give them a reward for being obedient but most of the time, he won't get anything. My youngest daughter will not clean up behind herself at all. She is three. My son is nine. And my daughter is five. Now, she is more quicker to cleaning up faster when told, than her brother is. You will just have to tell them the importance of being clean. I hope that everything works out for you. Take care.

Hey hey. I don't have children,not yet ;) but soon... I can tel you my childhood experiences, when I was children I need cleen my room and if I don't do this I can't go out with my friends. My parents don't pay me and I think don't, because clean room, it is not work it is obliged, becaue you need say try you, because not all life mother clean rooms... he need understad why you want that he/she slean room. Don't pay, after you need pay for all... My grandmother tell me you need clean room because after few years I can't do this and you need do this same... and if you clean you take chocolate or ice cream but not all weeks, sometimes, once in month, and give after, then it was supprise!!! Maybe try! Good luck!!! (hug)

mine are worse! they could mess things up in a flash but it would take them centuries to clean after their mess especially their rooms! i would always burst into anger when i do this but what happens is that most of the time they ignore me or laugh it off.. but they know i mean business when i raise my voice so they have not choice btu to follow me or else i would deprive them of television

No idea .I am dunno have nay kids yet.btw your boy look really good.

I remember our mom just forced us to put the toys away and clean the room and stuff without any incentive plans. Because it was just part of the routine in the day that we had to do, I think it was becaus emom taught us this when we were little so we build up this good habit. I think I'm gonna do it to my child too when he gets older.

My children have never liked ceaning their room. they often needed a little bit of motivation to get them to do the task. they would look at cleaning their rooms as some kind of a punishment instead of a chore that needed to be done.

I have a four year old son. I let him clean the toys what he have played with. It has been a practice since last year and this is a training for him in the future. I let him do it so that he knows how hard it is to clean up things.

Hi StrawberryKisses, I have 3 other sisters and 1 brother and all of us grew up cleaning our rooms on our own. I guess it's because my mom is very strict to us and we get reprimanded for not cleaning our rooms. I remember my mom doing schedules for us on a weekly basis. The later on it became a habbit for us and even till now we get to train our little niece to start putting her toys back to it cabinet. My two cents, first don't give that much reward to your kid, it's their responsibility. Second, give them timetable and if it's not being done, discipline them as necessary.

My daughter is 3 and she cleans her room when she is done playing, everyday. She is not allowed to leave her room if it is not clean. She told me one day that she was not going to clean and I told her that was fine I would come throw away any toys left on the floor, she cleaned up. I do help her with some of the big stuff that goes in the closet as it takes someone a little taller to put it back, for the most part and most days she cleans by herself. She has since she was old enough to walk put her clothes in her basket. She feeds the dogs at night. I would tell your son if he is not done when dinner is done that you will eat without him. I have a home daycare and the kids have to clean up before lunch if they do not they don't get to watch tv in the afternoon as this is a bonus for them not a requirement. They fight me sometimes and I don't back down no cleaning no TV they went TV free for a week before. And they still had to finish cleaning before coming to the table for lunch. You have to be tough and follow through.

i had a time getting my kids to clean there room. but it teaches them responsability. and when they did i gave them an allowence. but my little brother is a different storey. my parents try every thing to get him to clean his room. some times you have to climb over his stuff to get in there. all he does is play games or watch t.v. my parents did not start when he was younger and know that he is 15 he will not do it for anything. just be patcent and keep on it and they will get use to picking things up.

It is better to teach them in a friendly way. Normally the parents have so much love on their children. The only thing is, they have to show this Love in a understanding way.

My husband and I argue over how we will deal with this when our daughter is old enough. He believes in clean rooms. I believe that a child deserves their own space. Their room is that space. It doesn't hurt anyone but possibly them if their room is a mess. The rest of the house, I expect them to keep tidy because it is shared space and will inconvenience others if they don't keep it neat. I believe in natural consequences as much as possible. Thus, I would not force my child to clean up her space, but if she comes to me frantic because she cannot find something that has been lost in the mess, I will not help. This will be what teaches her to remain organized--if you don't stay tidy, you will lose things or lose time looking for them. I would be firm -- even if she had to do a whole assignment over again to hand it in because she lost the first one, I would not help her look. Or else she wouldn't learn!