Do you sometimes have to bite your tongue with your family?
By Carl Halling
@CarlHalling (3617)
United Kingdom
February 27, 2011 6:31pm CST
Our family knows us so well. Do you sometimes feel they know us too well, and that they ask things, and say things that you wouldn't allow a non-family member to say or do? But: you let them do it because you love them and can't stand the thought of hurting them and falling out? Or are you as open and honest about your personal boundaries with family as you are with everyone else?
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5 responses
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
28 Feb 11
It is easy for family to get around those boundaries, sometimes before we even notice.
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@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 11
Yes...:o) When we love people, our defences are down!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Mushy Alert: I am going to get sentimental. Before you helped me , I would just take whatever treatment from family , friends or foe. But now, with your help so long ago, I Know I have the right to be treated with respect so I call it out when anyone says something that hurts my feelings. With family and friends I am cordial, but with foes , I am not .
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 11
Hi Sarah, thanks for saying that. Yes, everyone has the right to be treated with respect.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
28 Feb 11
You will always be my hero. Ok, Enough of the mushy stuff. back to this. Your family may still see you know who but he isn't there. All you can do is just be you and hope they see the real you Eventually! If you Ever need me, Write.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
28 Feb 11
Hi. CarlHarling. Yes. I sometimes do feel like I have to bite my tongue so many times. I don't like doing this, but I do so. I don't like to be nasty to my family members. I really don't. But they must understand that if they don't want anyone to come at them with disrespect, then they should show me respect as well. I am not open and honest like that. But soon, I am about to be though.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 11
Hi. Thanks for responding. I hope things work out with you and your family.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
28 Feb 11
There are certain family members that I prefer to bite my tongue with as I know their tempers as well and well things can escalate and be so not worth it. However, I do have a look and they know I am not pleased with their words and sometimes that look can get them to zip, before they are finished saying what they were about to say.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 11
Well, it's a good thing you can convey your feelings with a look, rather than get involved with an argument. Thanks for responding.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
for me i never do this,inside and outside of the house is the real me,i don't need to hide or keep something,but in my parents there are things that they never know about me but i think they can feel it with me especially in my personal things in life.
