My parents and my marriage
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
February 28, 2011 1:43am CST
When I said that I want to get married with my boyfriend, my parents opposed. Because they don't like his family, because he's younger than me etc...
But yesterday night, my mother called me. She said that my father want us getting married because my grandmother is sick. She can't leave this life anytime. And I won't be got married after 03 years from this.
How can I think about this suggestion? Is my father's reason truth? I really want him feel comfortable with my boyfriend. I don't want my parents must accept him because me.
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2 responses
@donski (132)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
Do what your heart's desire. Do not let you family decide because it's your life. With your grandmother's request i guess you have to talk to your parents that once you get married with that guy, they have to also admit and accept him in the family not because of the request but because they want him also. just tell them what and how you feel, be true to yourself. Soon they would realize that you have a point.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
21 Mar 11
I know this. However, I sometimes feel unsafe because I'm young. I don't know what will happen in the future. But my parents are different. They have had much experience about life. And their advices are maybe right.
How do you think ?
@donski (132)
• Philippines
21 Mar 11
I know that your parents have very good intentions. and all parents only wants the best for their children and you have to understand that. your lifetime is not be based on your parents experiences. Each of us is unique. What happen to your parents may not happen to you. Remember that the road has many streets. you just have to choose which way to go. why do you feel unsafe if you love the guy. That means you are yet so sure about how you really feel about him. It's actually a decision you yourself has to make. the question now is not whether your family likes him and will accept him, it is now how ready you are to marry this guy. It's your choice, it's your life anyway. Your parents will always be there only to be your guide but not to fully decide on your future. your future is in your hands. You are the driver of your life, you make your own judgment and whatever you decide on, it's all up to you. at least you will not put the blame on anyone, anybody. think it over and over, a million times before you decide. give yourself enough time to think.
@marguicha (223874)
• Chile
28 Feb 11
If you love him, by all means marry him, specially if your parents are giving their consent. Marriages can work or go wrong but if you both work at it with love, patience and understanding, you will succeed. Why doesn´t your father like his family? How old are you two?
Take care!
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
1 Mar 11
Thank you for your response.
This is a long story I may not share all with you here.
My father don't like his family because two families are different about many things, special is human. And I'm elder than him 03 years old.
Do you think that this is a big problem?
@marguicha (223874)
• Chile
1 Mar 11
I don´t think it is importan, but every country and culture has its own ways of doing things.
