Why am Iike this?

@sais06 (1284)
Philippines
February 28, 2011 7:23am CST
Have you also asked yourself this question? I have observed that many of us thought that we already knew ourselves but there will always come a time that we have actions or decisions that we do not understand anymore as to why we acted or decided that way. I often ask this question myself and I believe it helps at times because it gave us the chance to ponder about ourself and come to know more about us. I know there are still many things I need to discover about myself. I want to become better and better but without knowing myself much I guess I won't be able to do it. So do you find it helpful as well to ask ourselves these kinds of questions? How important is it for you to know more about yourself?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
28 Feb 11
I think it is important to know ourselves, but I don't evaluate myself as often as I should. My personal reason for doing this is to make sure my life lines up as best as it can be with G♥d's word. I am always amazed how I get out of line so bad when I get distracted by life and I think, what happen? Why did I do that? What was I thinking?
• United States
28 Feb 11
I think everyone gets confused sais, and why we feel that way sometimes. As long as you don't stay in that state of confusion, then I think you're okay..
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I don't usually stay in this state of confusion but after some time it would come back again. Maybe I'll just have to let it pass every time it comes back. That just actually made me realize right now that doing so makes me own myself because I don't let that confusion consume me. What do you think?
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I am not usually distracted but rather confused. It's important to know oneself but every time I think about it I got confused. Sometimes I do not understand myself why I feel things that I know I shouldn't be feeling. I hope I didn't get you confused also. I want to make sure as well that my life is in His rightful will but I believe that for me to be able to do that I have to overcome my own self. Yes I have to own myself and not that myself owns me.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
assessing one's self is a good thing, reevaluating the decisions and actions we've made as this would should surely reflect who we are... but on the other hand, it is important to seek opinion from other especially when you are in doubt of your thoughts and ideas and then trying to compare with your own... guidance is probably best obtained from "someone up there" who would never fail to give answers to your problems..god bless..
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Thank you for that wonderful response obe. Yes I always try to assess myself but at times I end up being confused as to why or what. So it's true that guidance must be obtained and it's best to come from "someone up there" because there are times I asked opinions from others and their answers usually got me even more confused. Their thoughts and my thoughts contradict and that is the reason why I seldom ask from other people anymore.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I mean to say in my last statement, "...the reason why I seldom ask from other people anymore about myself." God bless you too.
@joygracia (1325)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Maybe its because of what life has made us. The environment around us does make most of what is happening in us and make us what we are now in the process.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Environment is one big factor that could determine what we will most probably become. We can hear others say that they are not who they wanted to be and the reason mostly is because of where they came from. So knowing and understanding more of ourselves helps us accept our true being thus discovering our potentials which can help us achieve what we wanted to be in life. Good day joygracia!
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 11
Some people said that I am a complicated one, but really I think I am just easy. What I want is for others to be true to what they say and think, than they would know what I am really like. Still, sometimes I also asked myself, "Why do I like this?" Why can't I just like most people who often do not care much of what they do or say or even feel sometimes.
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 11
You are right, sometimes I also don't know how someone behave in a certain way when the other option is much simpler.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
I guess there are people who are really complicated. Their personality is complicated and they make complicated decision and options too. Well what I said is just an opinion based on observation. Others are also trying to be cool that's why they choose to go the hard way or they want to prove something. I always try to simplify but still other people found me being complicated for simplifying those things.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Well I don't want to be that kind of person if you will ask me which do not care about what they say or do. I found myself at times wanting to change something but doesn't actually know what I really need to change. In your case, we sometimes find something easy while it's complicated for others. Maybe it also depends on what level of thinking we are.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Yes, I have when I was sixteen-twenty years old. When I was still immature and easy go lucky.. Now, I'm not stating that you are immature, it's just me, myself and I way back I still don't have direction in life. Right now, I know who I am now, I've know enough that I don't ask myself why instead I ask myself "WHY I DID THAT!" lol!
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Hello again sais, I really don't know. I've just came to the point that I didn't ask that question anymore. Sometimes I can remember when me and my hubby use to fight he'll throw me that question "WHY ARE YOU LIKE THAT?!" Well, I used to answer... "Because I am! You just have to accept that" Maybe it's the same answer I would like to give you. Maybe you should learn to accept what you are, you're decisions(whether wrong or right) as Asianjabba said it's ok to make wrong decisions, I agree that it will move on and grow little from it. and in time you'll learn to accept who you are for that matter. after, nobody can understand yourself as much as you do, right?
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
It's good that you don't ask that to yourself anymore niairen. I guess you already know your direction in life. One reason I ask this myself is to help me make decisions which I won't regret later on. It's like wanting to know where I'm headed because our decisions takes us to what we will more likely become. Well can you tell how you come to know and understand yourself more? Does it just come or we have to seek for it?
• United States
1 Mar 11
Sometimes, it's okay to make a wrong decision. As long as the consequences aren't too dire(you will have to decide that yourself) you should maybe make the wrong consequence and see where that takes you. This can then go two ways. It can go bad and if the consequences aren't so severe, you will move on and grow a little and learn a lot from that experience. That will end up being a much more rewarding experience then not doing anything at all. Or something miraculous can happen and making the wrong decision actually puts you in a better position than you were in before. If that's the case then you got everything going for yourself. Both is a win-win situation. Just go with what your heart says and you'll be fine.
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• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Knowing yourself will help put direction in your life. You can start off by listing down your strengths and weaknesses on a piece of paper. In this way you don't miss out anything as much as possible. For the weaknesses part, try to put action plans. Once that is done, think of the things that you would want do in the future.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
That is a good idea sinawaliboy, thanks for responding. But the problem is, how can I assure that it's really my strength and weaknesses because I'm confused at times about myself? Other people say it's my strength but I find it as a weakness and vice versa. How much consideration should I put in their words about me?
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
I'm also trying to figure out about myself. There are occasions when I do something spontaneously and regret it later.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Hello daveisdavid! I don't want to have lots of regrets in life so I wanted so much to figure out about myself. We need to take time to think sometimes about ourself and assess our actions for I do believe that this will be of help to us in time. Have a good day!
• Mexico
28 Feb 11
Hi sais: I have made myself this question a lot of time and I think it's very important to know who we are. In fact we will never have the right answer but it's a good guide to ask what are our needs and what we really want to know what to do, specially because we usually live in a society where we have to think about making our financial, professional and economical goals and we don't have to ask to ourselves if what we do is what we really want. I like this question. Thanks for starting this discussion. ALVARO
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
I'm glad that you can relate to this situation starsailover and that you have given your personal view on this. I don't usually get the right answer but is it just ok not to have that answer always? How are we gonna be able to understand ourselves if we do not get the right answer? Yes we don't ask what we do is what we really want but I guess we rather ask if it's what we need. Thank you for sharing as well. Good day!
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hello sais06! You are on the right track. To know yourself more and better, it would help you to ask yourself such questions, to assess yourself and evaluate what needs to be done and what needs to be eliminated in your attitude, to avoid future similar situations which you don't really want to happen. It is important to know one's self in order for you to interact appropriately with other people and with certain situations and events. Asking the right questions, and being able to answer it appropriately is indeed a great help towards helping you discover who you truly are, and what you are capable of. You can find and get to know yourself better through asking heavenly guidance from above. Or you can do meditation, to be able to focus on evaluating yourself. It would also help you if you interact with other people and assess your own reaction to their own assessment of your personality. You don't have to believe them, you only have to understand the gist of their evaluation. For example, if many of them evaluated you as someone aloof and distant, then that's a start for you to examine if what they're saying is indeed true or they have just misinterpreted your actions. You cannot know yourself on your own. You have to have interaction with other people, so you will know how will you fare with others and when you're alone. I hope i have been able to share some insightful ideas with you.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
You have described a lot here derielle and I'm grateful for that. I guess you have pointed out as to why I have been confused. Most of the time when people try to evaluate me I got so concerned about what they say and that makes me start to think so much and that my judgment is blurred towards myself. I just have to examine their opinions about me and make it as a stepping stone to know more about myself and interact with other people. Thanks a lot!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
It's not unusual to be in this situation. In fact, I find it beneficial. When you know your self, you can't be swayed by the influence of other people. Sadly, some people are swayed by other people to the point that they don't recognize themselves anymore.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Oh I think I'm that kind of person sometimes being swayed by other people. Then every time that happens I got confused with myself. I guess this is why I always ask myself because I want to know more about myself and not swayed easily; and as I have said that I want to be consistent. Have a nice day gloryacam.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
5 May 11
hello, Yes, I asked this question to myself? And its really helpful for me to know myself because as what you have said in every actions we made mistakes or actions that sometimes we cant understand it anymore. right? Even now I keep knowing who I am because I want to help myself.
• United States
28 Feb 11
It is absolutely essential to know more about yourself because if you do not understand and know yourself, you will have an even harder time to know or understand other people. That will result in a failure to communicate with other people correctly. Always learn more about yourself, find what makes you 'tick', know all about your interests and ideas. You will be able to build a foundation based on these things and that will make you grow much faster.
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@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
Hello asianjabba! I guess at least I know my interests and ideas but they usually don't lasts long. There are moments I have so much idea and then there are times I don't have even a single idea to come up with. This is one of the things that I don't understand about myself. I want to be consistent as things are getting inconsistent with me. You are right that it often results to failure to communicate. Thank you for this wonderful response. Have a nice day!