Love but Don't get married

My boyfriend is 4 years younger than me, too. I would want to marry him someday. He tells me he feels the same way. So, for me marriage is the next step after this relationship. Could I ask first how old they are now? Maybe when they are a little older, they will see things differently. Do I understand right that the only reason why her parents don't want her to marry him is because of the age difference? That is weird! Why so? Another question, why does your friend need advice? Does she find their situation a problem? I thought she doesn't want to get married either. If none of them want to get married, then it's a mutual agreement then. Everyone's ok with it. I personally think that this being okay with their "situation" will get old one day. At some point, one of them would want to get married. Who knows how long that would be. They will have to make tough decisions then.

Maybe because they have the concrete reason why they dont like to do this thing. Now for me they are the one who will bring their family but if they have children they need to make their love be legally as the children need their legal names of documents. And as for their goodness they need to get married. But sometimes marriages don't be able to success in the future and at the end they end up to separation too. So it is better for me to get them think it all over before they decide to one sensitive decision. Thanks and have a nice day!

My bf is 5 years younger than me and it's not a big deal. If they don't want to get married they don't have to. But no to get married just because of a little age difference doesn't make sense to me.

Seems that she does not want to marry because her family does not want her to because of age. The only thing you can do is tell her to give it a little time and maybe she and her family will see it differently. Age should not matter and it is not by a whole lot. I do hope for the sake of their love they can hang on and in time maybe see it differently. You continue to be her friend and be there for her. I do wish her the best.

My husband is older than me by 13years but its okay for me and my Family. I think age doesn't matter anymore as long as you love each other. But in your friend's situation we can do nothing about that. But you can advice your friend to Figure out to her Family first what is the big reason. I know this is not only because of the age, but many things I'm sure they have an explanation for this. If love is really true and they are meant to each other. And they realized they are wrong,time will come that her family will allow them to get married sooner or later. Just show Her Family that they really love each other very much.

I think get married is not important ! If they fall in love , this love will be the best bound ! And the most important is your friend have happy . This is the life of her , you should advice her that : Let wise to be happy :)

Hi, hmmmm age difference is not a big issue, if she really dont want to marry him then ok but to live together or to marry him then its really not a problem try to convince her stating few examples to her.

it's up to them really. if they don't want to get married, they can still have a long and happy life together filled with love. it's sad that her family disapprove though. four years is hardly an age gap at all.

i think you should stay out of it frist of all she is going to do what she what and sometimes when you get married it spoil's thing that is why alot of people that dont get married and alot of people think they can get the whole cow and not comit and that is just how life has gone

I really don't get how family gets in the way of a family member's happiness sometime. If I was her I would go for it anyway if I was sure.

It's good that you are caring about your friend because in the end that is all that matters. Just tell her in a caring way that maybe it is something to consider because eventually if you love someone so much, it might be a good idea to put it on paper. Because in the future, if it's not on paper, there might be some loses that will be even more hurtful. Just being that person to be there for her is important enough.

If she loves him very much and he loves her also then they must realize that they have a future together and the only real family they will have is she and he. So they must step up over the parents and make what they want to do and become a real family they always been wanting (if they really love each other).

I honestly think if your friend was in love with her boyfriend as much as she claimed, then she would want to marry him, regardless of age or circumstance. I also think that you should respect her decision and tell her to follow her heart

Getting married is not like having boyfriend. People usually make the mistake of believing that once they get married everything will just be tha same and that's a lie. It's a completly different thing. Is not like share the house with your mother, father or brother, is someone with just as much oppinion and right as you, Is knowing when to give in and when to stand. Is knowing when to talk and when to shush, honestly, if she goes now, they will be over in few months

Well, you cannot really do anything about it. It's up to them to decide if they're going to get married or not. Further, I don't think it's even called love if she is certain that she'd never want to marry him. I mean, even if a couple doesn't really believe in marriage, they wouldn't say it out openly that they will NEVER marry the person they're with. It's like saying "I don't ever want to marry this person because he/she isn't worth going through those things".

Well, age doesn't matter though. If she don't want to get married then respect her decision. In time she will realize that having a partner until the end of time is good. Boyfriend, girlfriend won't last long because in this genre guys will never be contented. So who knows

to be honest, i don't agree with your friend's deed. love has its own guarantee period. when time goes by, everything would change. don't be too confident of yourself and your boyfriend. we need a legal protect for our love. not every one will take their responsablities. i think marriage will be good for both of your friends.

When your inlove you dont have to think of what will other person will say such as why they will not get married,why is she/he is older... There are people who might wonder, but what important is as long as they are happy and they are inlove just let it be:)

I really can't see the point why, age should not be the major factor. Though it still contributes to the relationship, but I think as long as they are both matured to face the happiness and trials of a relationship, nothing should really stop them from getting married.

ya ... that two lovers can love but the love is start for married only so for love cant juge the age both are in good understanding no problem go and married u tell to ur friend just go and married that girl life became happy thank you