he loves me, he loves me much!

@jpaxxx21 (170)
Singapore
March 1, 2011 10:26am CST
my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years now and i never received even a single rose from him. but i know he loves me :) but i was wondering why some guys don't give flowers to their girlfriends. i also know a close friend of mine whose boyfriend of 6 years never gave flowers to her as well. now, when i imagine my boyfriend giving me roses, i would probably feel awkward. he would feel awkward too. he admitted that he really feels awkward giving m flowers when i once asked him.(i just can't help it,you know!)
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16 responses
• United States
1 Mar 11
Hi jpa, Welcome to the club. I was almost 7 years with my ex-bf but never had a single flower from him. But it doesn't mean that the guy didn't love us. Maybe, they have their own unique style to show their love....my ex-bf always gave me a note...any paper that he can write on. And i love it, kind of sweet. I still keep some of the notes..Not sure what to do with them since we already broke up...:)
• United States
1 Mar 11
Hi, Thank you. Yes, I didn't. I even still have the letters from my first boyfriend. Then, the second bf.Luckily, i only had 2 bf ever since. lol. then, got married. My first bf gave me flowers and chocolates and anything he can remember to give me. The second is opposite. We are more on eating..haha. and of course, my husband is the best and specially.(hehe)
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
oh.. that's so sad! flowers or letters? i still prefer given notes or letters, i can read & reread them..
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
don't throw the letters though... whether u still love him or not it's still worth-keeping.. :)
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
hi there :) my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 7 years now, and in that 7 years i have only received a bouquet of flowers once heheh but it's okay, i don't really mind. but i think it would be a nice gesture for a guy to do that to his girlfriend right? :) but he has given me so much gifts already, from my phone, laptop, trips hehehe yeah he is like that :) but that is why he shows me so much love and give me so much gifts because i never asked him for anything, i never asked him to get me this or that, and that is what he loves about me, being content for what i have and just being very loving sweet and caring for him :) and also what is very special about us is that we are each others' first love, he is my first boyfriend and i am his first girlfriend. i just hope and pray we last forever :) and i hope on our seventh anniversary he gives me again some flowers LOL :D just kidding :)
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
haha u're right! i still prefer a bf who does the household chores,too! like the one i have now :) tc too! God bless!
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
yeah! i remember u, tha's why this username looks familiar:) u & ur bf are each other's first love:) i'm sure ur bf is as sweet as u are :) congratulations on ur 7th :)
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
1 Mar 11
awwwww hi there. yeah he is just so sweet, but sometimes grumpy too hehehe :) awww thank you :) let us just not mind them not giving us some flowers, i still prefer my boyfriend getting me some lunch rather than some flowers heheh :) take care and stay happy :)
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
1 Mar 11
aww that must be so nicee to be with someone for that long. actually i had a boyfriend couple years ago but we broke up. He never game me flowers too but he'd give me chocolates coz he knew i loved chocolates. actually i'm not a flower person and i don't care much about flowers. Because once i recieve flowers, i wouldn't know what to do with them.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
1 Mar 11
it's really nice but it's also a struggle trying to keep the relationship afloat.. so far, we're good :) about flowers, when i receive them i insert them in a book. it's my way of preserving them but so far right now, i don't have problems as to where to preserve flowers because i've never received them anyway...lol.. u'll find a good guy in time :) believe me, he'll give a bunch of roses..hehe:)
• South Korea
2 Mar 11
aww thank you.. i hope i do meet him soon =) Have a good day..
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
if u do, get back to me & tell me what he gave :) lol!
@m2heart (80)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hello jpaxxx21 :) Good to know you stayed for 3 years. I wish I could have a good relationship just like you have now. You know it's not the flowers that is more important but ofcourse we envy other girls who received flowers and chocolates from their boyfriend right? hehe. I never receive a flower from a boyfriend too. hehe :) Atleast you have a good relationship together than nothing at all. God Bless you my dear.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
hi m2heart :) thanks! i sure am blessed now.. but i have been through a lot in the past too. i was usually the one left behind. the longest relationship i have had before was just 1 year & i was the one who ended up crying. u're so true about "it's not the flowers which is important" because i had a bf who gave me such things & promised me forever but in the end he gave up. i guess we couldn't ask for more if we have a good guy who'll stay :) u'll find a good guy in time :) God bless u too!
6 Mar 11
First of all you're very lucky having a long term relationship. It's normal for a guy to feel awkward giving flowers especially when he's the type of being a "macho man" :)or the masculine one. To tell you the truth me and my girl have been together for 6 years now. And as far as i know I've only given her flowers once, that is when she graduated from college and that's it. She was very surprised to see me holding a set of flowers, I admit i had to gather all my guts just to by those flowers and it took me about an hour to decide and to buy them. It was all worth it to see those smile in her face and the joy inside glowing in her. I guess I'm going to buy her again some white roses but first I'll try to gather some courage again. :)
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
6 Mar 11
that is sweet of you :) my bf would probably feel the same way. he would have to gather courage to get me flowers, but it doesn't make me feel less loved if he gives me none. as long as u know u're happy with each other & that the love is there, nothing could be more sweeter :) Good luck on your white roses, that color is a good choice-symbol of pure love :)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 11
it's like me. 5 years of dating I never gave a rose to my girlfriend (now my wife), and also never celebrate Valentine's day together. maybe people think I'm not a romantic.To me trust is more important than the flowers or Valentine.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
that's true! trust & respect are 2 most important things in a relationship...
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi jpaxxx, i remember once i gave my gal(its just a one side love) a bunch of flowers, next moment she asked me ' where should i keep these' and along with that i gave chocolates, she immediately ate those he he:-D, from then i stopped giving flowers to any gal i ever met, he he don't know what 'll they say again , that's why......
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
i prefer food too :) oh, one side love? is that still true now?
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
You are not the only one! hahaha i have been with my hubby for like 7 years now, him as my husband and as a bf/gf more then 6 years so thats like i know him for more than 10 years and all these years he have not given me any flowers at all! hahaha he is so practical that he does not give me because he said whta will i do with it? stare at it? hahaha or smell it? he said he would rather give me chocolates which he does give me often... but then i would love to have one..once in awhile huh!
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
hi is ur name jazel? i guess we have the same name :) hehe.. sometimes, when our guy is not the romantic type, we would be more surprised if one day he'll carry a bouquet :) so i would rather be surprised than get used to:)
@hcp_nj (108)
• India
1 Mar 11
It is the best relationship which anyone can feel.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
what is the best relationship? the one with flowers or not? hehe :)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
For me yes it is good because without love the world is useless like Libyan president don't have love to each in everyone they re love to him self alone.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
love is more appreciated when expressed in actions :) let's pray for Libya :(
@huruxiao (39)
• China
2 Mar 11
Oh,I never send my girlfriend a single flower and married with her now.If I buy those things I would spend to much and don't do any good to her except make her feeling a little romantic.There are too many romantic things benefitting to her I can do. When she was my girlfriend I bought her some gifts and ask her to take herself.If she didn't willing to take I would had bought the girft for her.A girl who are your girlfriend is maybe your wife in the future,for your happy future,don't do anythin that she can do herself.I am happy husband with a diligent wife.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
u're one lucky husband :) take care of ur wife :)
2 Mar 11
hey im no longer in a relationship. i was with my ex girlfriend for 3 years. im 22. i bought flowers twice for her, and shes the only girl i have ever. It was a long distance relationship, and one time she was very ill with tonsilitus. So i drove down to surprise her and cheer her up. The other time, it was part of her anniversary gift. Some flowers along side some other gifts. I think she appreciated the driving to see her, more than the flowers, and id probably agree. they are nice for a while, and then they die lol Also, fairly expensive if you get a nice gift wrapped bundle. Roses especially, and they even put the prices UP around valentines. To say he feels awkward giving you flowers isnt true, maybe he just doesnt see the point? i dont think i do anymore. I mean, for the price of a nice bunch, you can rent a film and buy some chips and have a lovely night together. I think after my relationship went sour, and we broke up, i realised how much spending time together mattered. We shouldnt get hung up on what gifts to buy etc. If you know he loves you, he must be doing the otherr 99.9% of the relationship right :)
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
sorry to hear that u broke up with ur gf..and u're right sometimes, we think on the "WHAT" things to buy because we just want to give for the heck of v-day, for b-day for any special day... we would find it compulsory on our part & the sense of giving from the heart is no longer there. i give my bf notes or anything if i feel like giving :) i don't compel myself to buy anything because it's our anniversary or monthsary. i used to do that with my first bf. each month i give him something. at first it would mean a lot, but in the long run after doing the same thing, it becomes a routine.and the meaning of why i am giving him that, lost its sense :) u're right about "spending time together mattered" :) time is the most essential gift u can give to ur partner :)
@thereza (314)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
My husband never gave me a flower only once, we've been together 6 years but He only gave me last Feb. 14 2008 and I was shocked. I asked him why but He just kissed me and smiled.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
that gesture is the sweetest thing :) sometimes, words are not enough to describe a love so true!
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
well, each person have their different ways of showing affection to someone... maybe for some guys they find it impractical to give flowers though they might be sweet and romantic for the opposite gender's point of view but still they just wither and die. Some would prefer giving something that would last for quite some time or for a lifetime. As for me, receiving flowers from someone do give me butterflies in my stomach but compared to receiving letters specially the hand written ones...i tend to give them more value coz i know that the person giving that to me shared a part of him through the thoughts that he wrote in the letters, and i could see that person is sincere and the effort to please you is there. Plus! I could read it over and over again reliving the moments hehehe =) Flowers could just be bought anywhere and can be arranged by just anyone, that for me degrades it's value.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
that's true! i prefer to receive letters that things :) but my bf now doesn't even write to me.. :) but i write to him when i feel like writing. i remember the time he had to leave for home, i stuck a note secretly into his Pringles burying the note along with the chips.then we went our separate ways. he texted me. he was so surprised to see a note inside buried with the chips. he cried when he read my letter.
@sizzle3000 (3036)
• United States
1 Mar 11
My husband is one to bring me flowers every now and then when we have the money for them. My daughter's husband on the other hand isn't. Somehow though she knows he loves her. She says that she can just tell on some days by how he looks at her. On others its how he takes care of her when she's sick. They've been together almost two years now and they're still learning how to make things work. At least they admit it.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
knowing ur daughter is in good hands is enough :) as long as he loves her that's what matters :)
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
1 Mar 11
Hi. jpaxxx21. I know how you are feeling. I long for my husband of nine years, to give me flowers and all. He once gave me a flower for Mother's Day. This was in 2009. I have never received anymore flowers after that. It made me feel left out after that. I did not get any Valentines Day present from him last month either. It made me feel kind of bad. But, I know in my heart that he loves me and only me. That, is the best gift that I could ever desire! Don't feel so bad about your boyfriend not giving you any flowers, I am sure that he thinks of you as a beautiful flower itself.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
17 Mar 11
thank you! u're right why would we feel bad about our guys not giving us flowers. u have been with him for 9 years :) wow, that is one strong relationship :) God bless u both!