bf vs mom

Your mom knows life already. She knows how hard to be parents and maybe she already experience hardships in terms of money. She is just concerned and over protective because nowadays it is not easy to look for a job. She's just thinking of your future together with your boyfriend. Parents wants best for their daughter and if you become a mother you would actually say that your mom is right. I was just like you but my thoughts changed when I became a mother. Understand your mom and talk to her nicely. If you really love each other you can fight for it but ask your blessings to your parents. Your mom loves you and I'm sure she'll understand your position if you'll talk to her heart to heart.

Mother:"i have to put my daughter in a good person's hand who have well settled and rich". Boyfriend:"I have to see my girlfriend happy and i have to show heaven to her within my limits. I have to do my level best". In this they can think. We have analyse from two angles, then easily we will get the solution.

hi,this tells me that your mom is very much concern about u, so when she loves u more then she'll listen to u, then take some time explain her in the same way, i am sure she'll back to normal and will treat your boyfriend like in the past, from your side its very clear, yea it happens in job(such resign n all), its quite common tell her, and she'll understand. Have a great time.

HI Jpaxxx, Well, I understand both you and your mom as I've been on both sides of this coin. My first husband resigned from his job before we got married and my mom was so upset with him for it. I defended him. Then I married him and I got it. He did not work through most of our marriage. A responsible man would find another job prior to resigning from the job that he has. from what you say here, I will tell you that I look at it as a huge red flag too. What are his other means of supporting himself? Does he have a savings that is large enough to sustain him?

Hi japxxx, I think you and your boyfriend plan to marry or live together and that is why your mom is angry because as a man he is supposed to take care of you. I can see your mothers point of view. If he had to leave a job or resign from it then he should have first got another job before he left the last job. Remember non working males even if they are loaded are never respected.

No mom would wanna see their child suffering at any cost. What your mom has for you is nothing but pure love. Give her sometime, don't fight with her or argue at all. If he says something bad about your boyfriend please never defend your boyfriend. It's the most painful thing. You can just keep quiet and wait until your boyfriend finds a new job. If you're right that your mom changed his attitude due to that reason, then it may change again when he finds a job. I think your mom is not mad at him for not having a job but i think she's concerned or maybe she thought that your boyfriend is showing signs of irresponsibility. I am not saying that all moms are right. But if you're right and she's wrong then prove it to her by not fighting but let your boyfriend prove himself to your mom by getting a stable job. Surely everything will work out fine. God bless!

Well, let's see.... you said first that your boyfriend "lost" his job... that would imply he was fired, laid off, down-sized - in other words, the company's decision. Then you said he resigned. If he resigned without having another job to go to, I can understand why your mother would be concerned. Finding a job today is really difficult - it's not like it was years ago when people found a job quickly and stayed with it for years and years. The economy has drastically changed. He may not be jobless forever, as you said, but to give up a job with nothing else to go to is not something that people see as being responsible. I'm sure your mom is thinking that he's not making a sensible, adult decision and she is probably worried that the longer he is not working, the more likely he may start turning to you for help. Sure, he wants to find "a good job"... most people do... but that doesn't mean he should do nothing in the meantime and just wait until the ideal opportunity comes along. "Ideal" may never happen. That's probably what concerns your mom. I think she's just looking out for you and is worried that you are going to be taken advantage of, the longer he doesn't work.

Your mom sees it that you arent going to be treated well by him without him having a job. Your mom only wants you to be treated like a princess and wants your boyfriend to buy you things and trest you to nice places and what not and with him not having a job he cant do this. once he gets another job your mom will understand that he tried his hardest and is working to get his life back on track with you in his life as well. Let him get a job first to have your mom know that he is capable of doing wat he needs to do for you.

Some moms are just overprotective and they want the best for their kids. However in your situation, maybe you try to talk to your mom about how you feel and that you are just there to help your bf but not really to the extent that you're feeding him in a way that he has become so dependent of you. I'm sure your mom could understand. You're right, he won't be jobless forever.

Yes we all understand that moms just want the best for their kids and that is just but normal, anyway we have a saying in our country " when you marry a girl, it's not the parents you are marrying" so time will come that you will be independent from your mom, hope you also explained to mama the reason why your boyfriend resigned or lost his job, guess that would clear the air some how, good luck to you both

Hei hei jpaxxx21 ;) Don't worry, because mom all your life worry about you and you can't stop this. You are mommy little daughter and always will, she just wish, to you be lucky! She wants,to your man has to independent and able to provide you. She can't see because she can't understand, ever you will be a mom and then you don't understand, don't worry, live life!!!