Why Don't Christian Churches 'Match-Make' for Their Single Members?
@mythociate (21432)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
March 1, 2011 3:55pm CST
I know you could say something-like 'Christianity is about getting married or having a spouse or anything like that, but it's about the Good News of Jesus Christ and His Brethren who follow Him!'
Oh really? About Lord Jesus Christ, who came to fulfill the conditions set on us by The Fall of Man?
Do you recall what God said BEFORE The Fall of Man? "IT IS NOT GOOD FOR THE MAN TO BE ALONE;" And what's more; if getting married is such an "unnecessary" thing, why are the leaders of the last few churches I've been in themselves married?
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
1 Mar 11
I find your question very odd. Are you suggesting that churches should provide a dating service? Because churches routinely encourage marriage.
In fact, I find that the pressure to be married, to be repulsive. I'm 33 and single, and the last thing I want is a women in my life.
Going to church has been rather bothersome because people treat me like I'm inferior or to be pitied because I'm single. I don't go to church any more, and that is one of the reasons. I'm sure married people have no idea how put-offing it is to show up at a church event, and have everyone try and suggest girls to meet with, like that's all the matters in life.
If I wanted to sign up for E-Harmony, I wouldn't go to a church event to do it.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Mar 11
From a little bit of study, I've concluded that the most-important thing in life that's not imaginary is 'continuance' ("truth"--what the Holy Spirit leads us to--is rooted in 'tree-like' ... i.e. long-standing like the mighty oak, standing tall through the worst storms etc.)
And the mighty oak continues strongest when its roots are thick, deep and tightly-knit (like wholesome family ties).
All the rest of the things of this world are subject to the worlds forces (moth & rot, gravity & decay of age). Those forces take hold when the ones guarding the treasure sleep (and they MUST sleep); but--when your family ties are tied tight and thick--you can afford a little rest.
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
I know, it's insulting 
I have one tight-thick family tie, my mom. And I could never break it.
I don't want to break it either! but that tie connects me to a whole family of family-tie-makers, which makes me feel inferior at all her family's get-togethers (because the others' show-off their van-fuls of children; what do I have to show-off? my collection of keyboard-calluses?) 
I have one tight-thick family tie, my mom. And I could never break it.
I don't want to break it either! but that tie connects me to a whole family of family-tie-makers, which makes me feel inferior at all her family's get-togethers (because the others' show-off their van-fuls of children; what do I have to show-off? my collection of keyboard-calluses?) 1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
1 Mar 11
I suppose the Christian churches want no involvement in pre-marital probable implications, after all is it not a sin to the Christian Churches to partake in pre-marital anything?
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Mar 11
When I was a teen I believed in the whole wait deal, however I have grown up quite a bit since, 
and would not have waited back then. 
and would not have waited back then. 1 person likes this
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Mar 11
You COULD say the churches don't even believe 'pre'-anything exists---I think of "Fiddler on the Roof"-marriages, where people didn't even MEET until their wedding-day.
No, the meaning of "eternity" that I was taught 'has no beginning or end'---the way stuff continues-to-be is the way it always was/is/will-be.
(btw, "god" is closer in meaning to 'roll of the dice'; which is one reason people rename God several times in the beginning of a prayer, to narrow it down to the One who has ULTIMATE control over the next 'roll' 
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As for "the whole wait deal," I thought the MAIN understanding of The Good News was that we didn't HAVE to actually-do 'the whole wait deal' until we had children because of NOT doing 'the whole wait deal' 
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As for "the whole wait deal," I thought the MAIN understanding of The Good News was that we didn't HAVE to actually-do 'the whole wait deal' until we had children because of NOT doing 'the whole wait deal' 1 person likes this
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
1 Mar 11
There is a lot of things I don't understand about the church, yes why do members of the church live without a partner and one thing I have never understood is why do cgurches close their doors, if they are working in the name of God I feel their doors should always be open, why do the people have to go to charity prganiszations when desperate when the Churches sit on so much money....I don't think they really work in the way I think God would want his house to work.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Mar 11
That's why I'm a Buddhist (maybe not ceremonially, which is how I'm a Catholic Christian 
; but the 'way I live'--my philosophy--is Buddhist ... Nichiren Buddhist, to be more-nearly exact; chanting "Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo"). Because a Buddha knows where God is.
; but the 'way I live'--my philosophy--is Buddhist ... Nichiren Buddhist, to be more-nearly exact; chanting "Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo"). Because a Buddha knows where God is.1 person likes this
@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Because behind every good man there's a good woman, obviously. LOL :)I don't think anyone should "match-make" for anyone. If you'll recall, there were no other human beings on the planet when God said that...obviously, things changed because Paul was all for remaining single in the new testament. I think that was Paul that wrote that letter anyway. I don't want the church in my relationships; thank you very much!--I don't need anyone to tell me who to date, marry or dump. It takes time to build a relationship, one has to work at it; and that's hard enough to do without the pastor, the deacons, the elders and the whole dang choir in the middle. Good luck in your search if you're searching.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Mar 11
Actually, 'Christ' is said to be the most important part of a marriage ('The Anointed & His Anointing' if you want to think of that as Baby Jesus in a Manger, the Empty Tomb, or the Old Wooden Cross ... whatever works)
Think of marriage as a tent-canopy: Would you rather have a giant tent-pole holding it up (Christ), or would you rather take turns holding it up yourself with your lover?
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Think of marriage as a tent-canopy: Would you rather have a giant tent-pole holding it up (Christ), or would you rather take turns holding it up yourself with your lover?
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Hello Mythociate
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I doubt they can be that much, since they are more focus on the preaching and helping the poor communities. besides, how can they help if the Priest and nuns are sworn into singlehood
and virginity thing.not to mention, they have issues with people in terms of premarital stuff, am sure it will not be successful compare to the popular which is done by couples.
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I doubt they can be that much, since they are more focus on the preaching and helping the poor communities. besides, how can they help if the Priest and nuns are sworn into singlehood and virginity thing.not to mention, they have issues with people in terms of premarital stuff, am sure it will not be successful compare to the popular which is done by couples.1 person likes this
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
3 Mar 11
I'm thinking more of the Protestant Christian churches, most of whom are led by marrieds and married couples.
But even in the Catholic church, couldn't you just submit your name to a list the head-priest has and -let him make the matches?
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