Why do we always seem to have bigger problems than everybody else?

No, it's the other way around. Whenever I think of my problems, I find other people who have worse problems.

Hello bounce. Well this happens because our problems DIRECTLY affect us when we encounter them. Our biggest concerns should be for example for saving the Rainforest. Now that sounds important doesn't it ? But we are not directly affected by it and thus we don't worry enough for it - but we should. Nature should be one of our main concerns and i do hope we realise this before it is too late.

hahahahah. we feel exactly the same. I also feel like my problems are far more hard to resolve than others problems. I always manage to put myself in the lowest point of my life whenever I have a problem. I always make a big deal out of my simple problems. that was before. Now i just push my problems aside and I always think that I can fix it if I just relax and not make it so much of a pain. I want to enjoy my life and not worry about my problems so much. Because a friend told me once, "life is short, so might as well enjoy it and make the most out of it". I never forgot that line ever since. So whenever I have a problem. I remember what she said and I find a way to just sit back and relax and think or ways to solve my problem. not to panic and not to pitty myself so much. many people have problems. not just me. :)

Hi Yes you are right, we are all so much selfish and self-centered that all we can think of and whine about, are only our own problems. Our own problems, even if petty assume demonic proportions. We can never understand the gravity of the problems others are facing.And I am not an exception.

Our own problems are always more important to us. Obviously we each realize that there are others out there in worse situations than us, but when we're faced with a major problem it's hard to remember that. Often it's not the problem or the solution that is troubling us, it's the general worrying and stress, and knowing that we may be feeling this way for quite a long time. We cannot feel someone else's emotions, so that is why your own troubles are harder on you, as you're feeling every emotion that comes along with the problem. You don't worry, stress, or get scared about anyone else's problems, you know.

Long ago there was a TV program called Ally McBeal, about a law firm and the same question was brought up. Her answer was so sweet and simple: "Because they are mine!!!" that the problems are hers, and that's why they are the biggest deal. Simple truth but beautifully said.

I think everyone feels their own troubles are bigger than everyone elses, probably even bigger than they really are...that is because we are the ones going through these problems at that time and I guess we concentrate on them too much and they get magnified...as far as the soapies problems, well they have so many problems and they get solved so quickly and forgotten by the next week... reality is so different.

if you will compare you problems with the tv sitcom then you will really feel that your problem is bigger than theirs. all of us have problems and some have surpassed the bigger waves and now resting ashore... but soon another problem will come their way again. i too have problems i though i can not bare. specially when our city was hit buy a big flash flood and my mother is half paralyzed and i dont know what happened with them for all the phone signals was cut and things like that. our house was flooded at the first floor and all of our things was wet and damaged. it was hard to start all over again... but after a month i saw s clear path... a path to recovery. i guess it is how we face our problems, and how people around us can help morally and cheer us up. good day

Yes Bounce58, I´ve noticed these perception too. We are all self centered. Since we are kids we are tought to be the center of ourselves, and then the world moves around US. But, when we open to other people, we notice that we are not the center. Don´t you think so? Blessings!... Dainy

Probably because we only think I. we only about ourselves. We at times think we are the only ones with this problem and that the world is mad at us. lol but we realize later on that there are people with worse problems than us.

Because we tend to focus on what we don't have rather than what we have. If we learn to be contented then we would think that we are more blessed than other people. It is a matter of perspective. Are you seeing a half empty cup of water or a half-full cup of water?

I think it's just a misnomer and more likely as a perception because when crisis struck us, we tend to be so focus with it that we feel that the burden is so much heavier. But the truth is, other people have major problems that we are.

I used to feel the same my friend.. but when I actually realized how painful others trouble can be, I thanked god for giving me such small trouble and I can also find a solution to it.. its just that we fail to compare ourselves with people who are worst than us.. today i feel that i am not paid great compared to others in ma office but if I have to think the other way round, I see people with no job, no money and can't even fulfill their daily needs... I was surprised when my own relative came to me and asked hey have you ever had a black forest cake !! that was quite surprising so whenever I feel low or feel that I have some huge problem I try to compare my current situation with others who are having problems worst than mine.. But one thing my friend and this is true.. no problem is permanent you will definitely find a solution if you think in a right way and action it right.. Good luck

Well,everyone has his problem and what really matters is how we look at it. Just mind your p's and q's and deal with it calmly and reasonably.

I believe that when I am facing issues because they affect me personally that at the moment I am feeling that mine are far more then the other persons. However, when we relax a bit and or are a bit at comfort then we can clearly see that our own issues are not quite as big as theirs.