my wedding anniversary
By indahfth
@indahfth (11161)
Indonesia
March 1, 2011 8:18pm CST
Today, on 2 March 2011, is my wedding anniversary is the 8th. Not something special that I and my husband did. I do not know, my husband was remembering our wedding anniversary or not. I also did not mention this issue in front of my husband. Actually I wanted something special, even though our marriage did not go well. But I would not be possible to get something special. I just saw my wedding photos, some of which have been damaged, when a disaster the mountain erupted. Would be an exaggeration, if I want to get something special, in my wedding anniversary, even though our marriage is in trouble?
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Hang in there. Say a prayer, and things should get better.
Perhaps, had you said to your husband, "Good morning, dear. Happy anniversary!" It might have jogged his memory.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi indahfth,
First of all conratulations for marriage aniversery. This is your 8th aniversery so i guess proverbial 7 year marriage hitch is coming to your marriage. I am sure you have kids so it is always best for them to try to recoincile and have a happy home. Yes i think you should do something romantic tonight like make a nice dinner for your husband and be ready and have a romantic evening and night. I hope this might also help your marriage.
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@sunny5u (2069)
• India
2 Mar 11
Hi indahfth,
WISH YOU A HAPPY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY and WISH YOU MANY MANY HAPPY RETURNS OF THE DAY
as you said you cannot directly remind your husband so just try to cook what all he likes and if he asks or the reason then tell him directly or indirectly, hope you'll have the dare to share in front of your husband all your likes and dislikes
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
2 Mar 11
Wish you and your hubby a Happy Wedding Anniversary. Do anything special to celebrate even if its in a simple way...this will make you both feel happy. Enjoy your day!
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@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 11
Hi,
Happy Anniversary to you and your husband.
Sad to know about mountain eruption incident happened to your place.
I do think it is every woman dream if they get something
special from their husband on their wedding anniversary day.
For me and my husband, we never celebrate that day and both of
us are forgetting about that special day.
We only remember well each other birthday and have simple celebration at
home.
Since we got married, we never celebrate our wedding anniversary,no special
dining or any present for each other. It is just like another normal day to go.
I just hope that my husband will love and care of me forever, we will hold hand
and walk together to run our life forever.That is my dream.
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 11
I pray for you, your family life may always be happiness. Actually I do not care about my wedding anniversary, because my household was in a state that is not good. But at least, to remember the wedding anniversary, I can remember, that 8 years ago, I was very happy, married with my husband.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Many blessings to you on you wedding anniversary. I would hope that at least a nice greeting and discussion of how much love one shared for the other is merely expected.
I am sorry your marriage has not been to your expectations and do hope that at least you know you did all you could do.
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@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Mar 11
Congratulations on your anniversary! I guess if there is trouble in your marriage I wouldn't be real positive about getting any 'something special' from the day. I think you have to make your own reality so perhaps you can do something alittle special for yourself and enjoy your day. Okay?
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Mar 11
Very true! And you are the only one that can change the hurt that brings with it.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
2 Mar 11
hi indahfth,
Wish you many many happy returns of the day,convey the message to your husband also, mine is on 23 February 1978,but i have forgotten the anniversary my wife is Hyderabad,i am at Kadapa,i could not say even wishes to her,after long time i am giving reply to your discussion,becuse i am busy with writing and other works,i does not have enough time to participate briskly in mylot and other sites,have a nice day
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
A big NO for me my friend and a small yes. It is NO in the since that you have the right to celebrate it. But (YES) for what for? You said you had no good relation with your husband or something which maybe one of the main reason from your being lonely, sad etc. etc. as what I've read from your post.
If you would do celebrating it must be you and your husband because you are the subject of celebration. Where can you see a wife celebrating alone on her anniversary where in fact, her husband is still alive.
If you would do I would respect it, but you would be just adding your loneliness instead of happiness in your wedding anniversary.
I would say, forget that it's your wedding anniversary go somewhere enjoy with your family, your children and be happy. Life is short we will enjoy it..
Good day ahead my friend..
Mobhomeir here..
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
okay..i respect your choice..but think it over if you keep yourself isolated.
Think it over..
Mobhomeir here..
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
2 Mar 11
Dear Lady, We are men and tend to forget things we did, however pleasant even in the best of times. That is the man "thing" about us. The situation your marriage is in does not help. Please get practical about this and try not to be emotionally dependent on your husband. I am from India, and know how difficult it is to get out of a bad marriage in the far east Asia. So make most of what you have, under the circumstances.
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@rameshchow (4426)
• India
2 Mar 11
I am happy to be here to say "wishing you a happy returns of the day". Don't worry the problems are not permanent you will be live very happy with your husband.
God bless your family.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Mar 11
Three years ago on my 50th birthday, I was hoping my husband would do something special, and he didn't. Our marriage was in trouble then, and it's pretty much over now. I don't want anything from him for our anniversary or valentine's day or anything.
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 11
Wedding anniversary celebration did not have the basis for the justification of the laws. God never ordained festival. As we already know, a couple staying home and every day meet. They both eat a meal together with the same. But no longer required dress and remind each other of the marriage. But it is not required to make candy every year. But they make such a groove at any time desired.
@alwayzzcitra (1861)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 11
Congratulation for both of you and your husband, Mrs. Indah. I am sorry because your marriage doesn't turn out to be good, but I do hope that both of you can work things out and finally find happiness.
I don't it's crossing the line for you wanting something special today. It IS a special day, isn't it? Why not try to tell your husband about how you feel and buy a nice gift for him. Who knows it will cheer him up, even just a little.
Good luck :)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
2 Mar 11
You got a nice wedding photo there though. Anyway, whatever happen to your marriage, I am happy for your wedding anniversary there. I hope that your husband would remember it, and he would bring something special for you right at this moment. Cheer up, he should remember it.
@daiweian06 (1405)
•
17 Mar 11
May be on the first place better to talk about the things that you both irritated to. Fix your relationship before its too late. If your husband feels nothing on you better to decide as early as now.
Try to do your best to follow what he really like. What he wants to happen. And what he wants you to do.
Anniversaries one of the best day of our life. May be 1st or second on our birthdays. Celebrating a anniversary appears on how you both love each other. Its how you take good care of your relationship. Its a sign of love, concern, a big day of your life.
Always ask God. And ask some tips and signs what is best for you.
Good luck!
Good day!
God bless!