I don't what to do
By hibeth
@hibeth (28)
China
March 3, 2011 8:46am CST
I want to give him a call,but I can't do that.I am sure he turned his phone off.he always do this.
my boyfriend and I live in the different cities,we have been long distance lovers for two years.he is two years older than me.we have knew each other for more than five years.we have a promise when I leave,he would pay all attention to study,and we call twice or three times a week on the weekend.but now I find out something wrong happened. I saw his text messages that makes feel uncomfortable and sad. I trusted him so much,I never doubted him.he explained everything,and I forgave him.
but everytime I think about that I realize I can not forgive him.we have so many good times,I don't want break up.so now I am confused,one part of me tell me forgive him and trust him again,but the other one tell to let it go,what can I do ????
5 responses
@hemlockspruce25 (501)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
I'm afraid to break this up to you but 90 percent of long-distance relationships don't really work out. That happened to me before and all I had is tears and sorrow. I think it is best for you to move on. Like me, I am now happy and found the man who will never break my heart. Think about yourself. Don't let life revolve around someone who is not worthy of being loved and trusted.
@crystal11 (157)
• Malaysia
4 Mar 11
Long distance relationships are not for everyone. There is a huge amount of trust involved. Both of you will have your own circle of friends, and temptation is always there. It all depends on how long you are willing to wait. As far as I am concerned, once a trust is betrayed, that is it! Even if you forgave him, that nagging distrust will always be there. Are you prepared for it?
@hibeth (28)
• China
4 Mar 11
I am totally agree with you.trust is the most important thing in long distance relatingships. we can not see each other everyday, and we don't know what he/she have done and where he/she have gone. the only thing we can do is to believe that he tell you.
if I want to our relationships keep going,the only thing I can do is trust him again. I have to do that.
Believe me!!
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
3 Mar 11
HI, I used to have Long distance relationship before and it works out just fine for us. Now, we are married and have two children together. well, if you two are serious about this relationship then you have to forget and forgive... you have to do it in somehow to make it works. However, if he keeps on repeating the same old story then you have to do something. Sometimes. relationship is hard to deal with some bad thing seek in... but you have to deal with it cuz it is just part of life. I hope and wish you two good luck
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
3 Mar 11
Well you have to listen to your heart.No one should help you make this decision because its a major one about your relationship.This is your future and therefore you should sit with him and tell him how you feel.It may have been something done out of loneliness but the best way is to confront our problems head-on.You have already given him a second chance so just go ahead and deal with this as soon as possible.
@Skrejka7802 (96)
• Bulgaria
3 Mar 11
I'm not so sure but your position is difficulty. You have to draw. Trust him and make a big surprise for him. Make him to trust you and the opposite. This cant be telled from other person - decision is your.
