my friend
By jpaxxx21
@jpaxxx21 (170)
Singapore
March 4, 2011 12:08am CST
i have a friend who is a mistress. I know i should not tolerate her but I don't know how i can maker her understand. She knows in the first place that the guy has a wife. I have been her friend for so many years now & so far, I noticed that she has been into relationships where she gets her heart crushed. I just hope she will find herself a guy worthy of her love. The guy loves her. There's no doubt about it. But she will soon hurt not only herself but the family :(
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5 responses
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
4 Mar 11
The best thing a good friend like you to do is to support her. If you're her true friend you'll be at her side in her good and in her bad moments. May you two should talk about her relationships and about the possibility she might get hurt again and that she also can hurt his family. Given her state of relationship not tolerating it is a good thing, but it must be expressed with conversations, not by bad attitude. True friends talk and understand each other. And when one needs a hand the other one must reach.
I think you're a good friend standing by her side.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
7 Apr 11
thanks a lot! my friend has been through tough relationships. the last serious relationship she had was really painful. her boyfriend broke up with her only to realize that he had a 3-year steady relationship with another & married a month after the break-up. my friend now feels she is a jinx in terms of relationships & she is at it now. sigh! i could only pray for her...
The effect that she leaves behind will be life shattering, but a great turmoil will last for a lifetime with the people that she has deceived.
@jpaxxx21 (170)
• Singapore
7 Apr 11
that is so true! i just wish i can do something without really doing anything.if u get what i mean. i don't want to meddle with her life. she might think i am against her happiness. i can see the guy loves her but u see, my friend has access to the guy's emails & my friend shared it to me. there was one time, the wife sent a valentine's day message. i felt hurt reading the mail. i could feel for the wife. she was trying to reach out to the guy & she really loves him & their child. she is away from the guy now & the guy has every chance to visit my friend. i don't know what to say, it's unfair for both of the wife & my friend. :(
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
4 Mar 11
you are a good friend to still be there, as a good friend would, all you can do is maybe say once in a nice way say she could be heading for a hurt and that she deserves better but then back off and just be there for her...everyone has their own road to travel.
@iamhanifah (242)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
you are a good friend who care so much about her. On my part, I will give her an advice in the best manner as I could. It's up to her if she listen or not as long as I will send her my advice. If it will happen that she will listen to it, then thanks god, but if she will not, well there's nothing I can do about it.
@biach17 (196)
• Philippines
4 Mar 11
Maybe your friend is happy for now because both of them are in love but the lifetime consequences of her having an affair with someone who's married is not an ideal life to have. Our friends tell us their problems but their only obvious purpose is for us to listen. We do give advices but still it is up to them. You will see them happy and hurt and all you can do is to lend an ear and a shoulder to cry on.
You can shout how bad she is doing...or you can slap her face but then again when you are in love....you dont know what to do.
In most cases, the so called mistresses around know what they are doing but they are in love .....and what happen when you are in love?
All you can do is to pray for her. Prayers work!
