getting Married

My fiance and I are also planning on getting married next year, we planned it to be simple and memorable. I think there are some ways that you can make your wedding memorable like doing something out of the ordinary, or not usual in your culture. We are planning on a breakfast wedding, which noone in the family has done.. and per our computation it will be much simpler than doing it during dinner. Also planning on having ditching bridesmaids and just having a maid of honor and my secondary sponsors, it saves on the dresses plus they don't really do anything during the ceremony so it's really fine. (Plus I don't have to pick from my long list of girlfriends, and it's a great way of staying away from hard feelings because one did not get picked and the other one did)

Married life is not helish.Marriage is what two people make.It can be beautiful as well.I would suggest to discuss finances before you get married.How you are going to run home ,who is going to spend how much on what.Overall decide how you are going to live day by day.Deciding these things before marriage can avoid lot of conflict.

Hello Elvs16, married life is never hellish provided both respect and trust each other. You must marry him next year and make his life happier. Though it should be a personal decision as to how much to be spent, however, I personally think that a simple marriage is always ideal and people start following you in similar manner. Extravagent expenditure is simly waste of money whoch could be used for other constructive purposes. My wife also joins me in wishing you a happy married life.

hello there elvs! I am happy for your decision of settling down. My boyfriend and i are planning already to get married too. For me, it would be wise not to spend too much, I mean if you want to make your wedding special and memorable, you can still have it at lower cost. As to what part of the wedding preparation you would want to cut down or minimize your expenses, should be up to your bride. Because it's very important that all the spices of her ideal wedding will still be there and yours as well.

I think both of you needs to set your priorities and lay out all of your cards. If you have the means, then why not and go on with an extravagant wedding. AFter all, yes as they say it only come once in a lifetime. And if you feel like giving your gf the grand wedding of her dreams then go on w/ that. Though IMO, nowadays it is better to be practical. My husband and I opt for a simple wedding. The rest of our savings went for the house that we bought. So things/budget is balanced out. It is really up to the both of you. Do not think about what other people will say. Go w/ what you think suits you. Married life can be either heaven or hell, it depends on how you live it. Congrats and good luck!

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Best wishes to you and your future partner. I guess my answer to your question would have to be making your wedding something you can never forget. Make it memorable, expensive or not. Family presence is important. As long as the bride gets a beautiful dress and the groom looks gorgeous on their wedding day, that's enough for me.

Hi elvs i suggest to make your marriage a simple one so that it 'll be helpful for you people to raise the family , and when you are starting a new life you need much more money after your marriage so think over it again, and when you decided to start a new life then don't look back everything will be alright, hope you a bright future ahead.

A wedding is only one day the marriage will be for the rest of your life. You don't have to spend a lot of money to have a good time. You can spend a lot of money but look at what you can do without spending a lot. Why start off life in debt? Would you rather spend a lot of money on a one day event or would you rather use that money to save for a house or your potential children's college education or even your retirement.

I would keep it simple. My wife and I had a similar discussion but we both agreed it's not the wedding that makes it memorable, it's the "I DO's" that is the most important. Most people spend so much money on the wedding...that's for a day..use the money on the marriage, that lasts forever....use the money to buy a home..put money towards the house payment if you already own one, invest in the future, etc. While it's nice to have a spectacular wedding...it's much more though, to have a spectacular marriage. Make the marriage memorable. If you choose the right one, marriage is not hellish. There will always be disagreements, but work through them...nothing is more important than your spouse.

It all depends to both of you. If the decision meet halfway, then, why not. As long as you're not going to regret afterward. Well for me, married is already memorable whether it is simple or not because it only happens once and that's the day you'll take both the vow of the sacrament of marriage and that's already an overwhelmed happiness. I don't think married is a kinda hellish. Married life is the most interesting part of our lives since the level of challenge here is really really high and everything from us are being tested. If we can't dance or go with the rhythm, we'll be fooling out like hell. And for me, as married for 3 years, what's important in this part of our lives are the consistent communication, understanding, patience and be realistic and practical and unwind. I admit that my experience is not that enough though, but I set it in mind to be as always like that. So it's not hell..

Hi elvs and welcome to myLot. Congrats on your upcoming wedding! Weddings especially being the only one should be memorable and that does not need to translated to expensive at all. The simpler and most quality time you spend with your guest the more memorable it can be. It is wise not to invest so much for a day as opposed to saving for your future family. Married life is something two people need to adapt to but by no means should be helish. Keep reminding each other why you married to begin with and continue to spice it up with great quality time for the both of you. Communication and understanding are two keys to live by. Best of luck and congrats again.

When my husband and i got married, we make it a point that we will have a simple yet memorable wedding . Yet, we also make it a point that we will still have the money to buy our much needed appliances for our apartment, after the wedding. That being in our mind, we made our wedding a simple one. We allot a budget in which we based our expenses for the wedding. We only invited the closest friends and relatives. We choose a menu that fitted our budget but gave our invited ones a delicious treat. So, after the wedding, after determining from the gifts given which are yet to be bought for the apartment, we were still able to buy a refrigerator, TV and a sala set.

It is up to you. Do what you can afford. Why be in debt. You can have nice wedding cheap.

Even though I am not yet married myself I think that marraige is what you both make out of it. There are lots of people with happy marriages and there are lots of people with bad marriage. I have been in this relationship for 2 years and 4 days and we are getting married soon.Of course he get on my last nerve some ties, but overall we are good. Communication has alot to do with rather your relatinship is bad or good. It's a must that you love each other and that you both trust each other because if you dont it's gone to be miserable. If you wanna a bif wedding then go for it, but me and mine settling for the court house wedding because we know we love each other and we want to spend our money on other things. Like the bible say's What God put togather no one can separate.

You don't have to spend a lot of money and have a lavish wedding for it to be memorable. What makes a wedding memorable are the special, personal touches that you do. I realize that it depends on your customs and traditions, of course, but when I got married, I did a lot of things myself -- I designed my own invitations and then purchased the appropriate stationery from an office supply store that had a fantastic selection. You just need to have access to a very good quality printer. Instead of spending a fortune on flowers (I had a winter wedding), I handcrafted what each of the females carried instead of bouquets (and they were able to keep those). I planned a candlelight service and made all the decorations for the church (pew bows, candles decorated with silk flowers, lace, etc.). Making your own personalized favors for your guests is easy -- there are SO many ideas online -- and they come from you :) Also, my parents had a book from their wedding and it included the wording of their vows. So, without them knowing, I incorporated the same vows into my service. When the minister told everyone where the vows came from, my mother cried because she was so touched. In place of vows, you could also use the same first dance song, etc. These are just a few examples. I understand when you say you will only marry once... but saving your money to get your new life as a married couple off to a good start (and not one filled with debt because of the wedding) is good for your relationship too :) What you will remember from your wedding are the things that touch your heart - not the things that drain your bank account. Congratulations to you and your sweetheart... I wish you every happiness

I t all depends on what you want and if you feel you wish you done it differently once its done as you must not have regrets i personally think that a wedding day is special reguardless of how much you spend its your commitment to each other that matters most just because you spend thousands on a wedding doesnt mean it will make a great marraige,because if you are left to struggle financially because you spent so much then that is not a good start to marraige.