how do you undo the past?

Hello asainmooner. I think we can't undo the past but we can start anew and that way we'll be able to move on. We can't open another door if we haven't closed the other yet. So maybe what we can do is go back and close what hasn't been closed so that we won't be trapped in between and be able to open anther door where we can start again. Just like a wound which takes it's time to heal so are our feelings too.

Learn from them. Everything happens for a reason so find out.Take time to somehow pick out the things that make it so memorable and take it the way it is. If you caused pain, try to amend if possible, if not, learn to forgive yourself.

I know exactly how you feel dear, I think that when we understand the good things that came from that, for real, then we can move on.

Hi asiamooner, Yeah you are right it is difficult of 2 words .But that is life and we have to face it even how it hurts so if we try to moving on we can letting go that pain 1st co'z we cannot look forward if we always hold on ..

It is quiet usual in human life. The fact is we have to face each and every situation in life. We cant run away from it. The only thing you could do is to think of the future and live the life with all its sorrowfulness and happiness. It is you who decides what you want in your life. Forget those memories. It is the only thing you can do.

Let us think it scientifically. It is a game of brain rather than heart. We feel it in heart as a pressure comes from brain on heart in different way. And such obstruction is due to some chemical reaction took place in brain followed by in heart and other parts of our body being pursued by message generated in brain conveyed through nervous system. So wiping out those chemicals will be helpful to become in normal life easily. But thinking of such activity in HEART is rather romantic, so keep it up for next activity. Soon you get result.

What if I caused the pain? I am no perfect human being walking around earth-- we will hurt people whether we wanted to or not, intensional or non intensional. There was this guy who had a big crush on me, he would follow me around, asked me out on dates, but I didn't like him. How do you think that made him feel? Sad, not good looking enough. The thing is-- to be honest is better. I was sure I didn't like him, so I let him know, and he finally left me alone. I couldn't help but feel bad for him. That's your conscious. Even though I didn't want hurt him, it haunted me for sometime. But in your case is different, you can't undo the past, you have to live with it, if you caused the pain- repair the mistake, find a way to make things work, if the damage was too severe, make sure you don't do it again to another human being, overall, just let go. Sometimes we can't fix what we can break.

You are right that those two are the hardest things to do but I guess that it should be done. At least one of them. I think that it is not so bad to still hold on to the feeling and keep on hoping for a happy ending but life is life. We should move on. Most of the things we do not want to happen just happens getting us off guard. This is a tough world to live in but we should keep on going forward. We can stop and still look at what is behind us but at the end of the day, we should get back up and move along.