Is just right to have only only child?

I work, go to school and I have one baby. I am some day wanting to have one more. I cannot see my baby with a sister or brother because I feel I will not be here for ever and this will leave my daughter by herself in life. Sometimes people make decisions to hold off because it is very expensive to care for children, but I am working towards a better future to make sure I do the best for my daughter and hopefully someday, one more.

Well, I have one son, he is three years old now. We want to have another baby but theres so much things to think about. Is not the money, is not the career. Rise a kid these days is a big responsability. I see my son playing alone and makes me so sad!But, every day are more and more danger for them out there, is very hard to rise a kid trying to keep them safe. I also see so many parents having so many children and don't take a good care of them. I have two sisters and I really want to have another baby because I want to give my son the opportunity to share and enjoy his life as I did, plus as you say, If something happen to us I want they can count on each other. But I don't blame those parents who decide to have just one kid because there are a million reasons and different circunstances to analyze before make the huge decision to bring another life to this world.

first ask your self are you able to raise more than one kid? i know that not only career and money in this world, but we need to plan the money to raise the kids. we want them to live in comfort and have a great study. and we can't deny that money has the big role for that

i think that as long as one knows what he or she is doing then it is better than going with the flow and what others are saying without really having a full knowledge of what he or she can do. my husband and i chose to have only a child. yes, he does seem easily bored when he has no school and enjoys nothing more than playing wii with his uncles but based from my experience, we are five children in the family, i realized that loneliness has a way of creeping up on you when you are physically alone - like in the middle of the night. though we have friends and family members who can share the pain it is still us who would bear it. there are many regrets i had being the eldest and feeling that my potential wasn't at all that nourished because my mother has to divide her attention five times. not that i can't do anything about that now. i think that as long as a strong foundation with other family members is set there is no need to add one more kid to a family unless one's means of income grows. it's plain simple math. peace.

yes.i wish i could have a daughter,but i cann't.we have the only child policy in our country.my son have no siblings.he feels lonely.

I was accompanied by multiple siblings when growing up. I think that having more than one child is a good thing. Some may disagree if they have grown up with many siblings, but I feel that it is good to have more than one child. I have spoken with many only children and they have all said that they wanted a sibling growing up. It gives children a sense of teamwork or partnership to learn from and to apply to their lives when they are older. Also, like you said, it gives them a chance to mourn, laugh, and love with somebody if something happens to the parent.

Hi shalini, in my view its good to give birth to at least two kids, though it is tough to grow up them , but still if anything happens to one kid or if kid moves to foreign country even then we will be left with the other, and if only one kid then he/she will get bored, and they don't get habituated to few habits like sharing and moving up with friends and all.

You're right to a point. Yes a child should have the privalege of having relations. On the other hand if you can't afford another kid then you shouldn't have another. Then you're depriving that one of what you're first child had or has. Plus many mothers may not like the giving birth part. Labour and contractions are a hard thing to go through. Not to mention many women anymore are very vain and don't like that they gain weight and it doesn't come right off. And then there are the women that can't have more than one child. That would be me. I had two miscarriages before I had my daughter. Then she tried to kill me and they said I couldn't have another child without endangering my health.

it's a bit extreme to accuse parents of a single child of killing certain relatives. when you are an only child, you have a lot more attention, and more money can be spent on you. that sounds really shallow, but I have a really deep bond with my mum because she gave me her full time and love, and was always there to support me in any way she could. sometimes I wished I had a brother or sister to play with, but I'd never have swapped that for the undivided love and attention from my lovely mum.

We have one child and four that didn't survive to birth. But I don't think that the number that you have matters if they are loved and taught respect, if people wait until they can afford children then they never will have them! LOL

I do not blame couples who only want to have one kid. It is their right and i agree with their reasons. There are couples who has few kids and can not provide better education,not even healthy foods. So,it is better to have one kid and was given all the necessities in life rather than having few kids but are not well nourished. I respect each others opinion,this is my opinion as well. Have a great day Welcome to mylot

Welcome to myLot shaini I have two children, a girl and a boy. I am so glad I did because they have each other. I planned them at the right age in between themselves and feel as they got older that they are for one another. This was my intent to make sure that they were really close so that one day they can look out for one another. I think if I only had one of them, they would somehow feel like they were missing something because I have been a really busy person and they look out for one another.

I have one child right now. And I have been wanting more to have one or two. He is 4 years old now. And I might say, he is quite self-centered at this point. Another baby in the family would think make him more giving. I really want my son to have another sibling. I feel that if we would be gone in this world. It is nice to know that they have each other to look after one another. Besides, I really look forward to a rowdy house. Makes the place more happier with children's laughters.

I dont know anything about it . Dont have any children yet as i'm not married yet . But i have a dream of having 2 children. 1 boy and 1 girl. No problem if any deference in girl or boy. I want 2 babies.

I don't think so. A kid himself needs someone of his age to bond with. People could just say that for maybe because of scarcity we have experiencing. And no parents want to see his child suffering and they could do nothing out of it. But if can afford and besides, I still believe that if it meant to be, it will be. Come to think of it..there are some couples who wants and capable to raise a family, but they were not that lucky to have children, while there are some couple as well that despite of taking much and very dedicated in following instructions to control having a baby, still they could not avoid but to accept the coming of the baby, the worst is the baby suffers from some abnormalities brought about by the effects of what they have done or taken just to avoid the baby. So I think, children are gifts. But we also have to be concern with their future. The best thing to do is perhaps, one is not ideal for the child will soon feel the loneliness of having someone of his age. So two is the least ideal for me, if ever I can afford it.

For me only one child it is better for today's life.

I agree with you, parents must consider cost of education and all expenses associated with raising children. I think it is just practical for a couple to have one kid, but they can have as many as they can as long as they have time to spend with their kids, see them grow with proper orientation in life, and they should also be able to answer all their expenses. Time for the kids is very important i guess, because you can send your child in school but it does not have proper guidance, it's lacking.

Although having more children will cost more burden to a family, I strongly disagree to have only one child. I do have two sons and one daughter. In my point of view, one child in a family will be easily pampered and spoiled. Moreover, if there is something bad happened to the only child, the family will lost everything in their hope.

This i would speak thru my experience, having only one child, a daughter. I guess, during the first four years after i have given birth to our daughter, we planned not to have another one for the time being. But after that, we planned to have another child, unfortunately though we keep on waiting for it but none came until my Total Abdominal Histerectomy which removed my ovaries and uterus. Now, i am regretting i have only one child. I should have after 2 years bear a child again.

Hehe.i have a very very happy family.guess what ,my parents have 3 kids and i am the oldest one.And the most importantly,i am a chineses.According to the one-child policy,you can guess how much my parents r fined.But my parents never regret,they love kids,and i am very thankful fof my parents cause they give me a sister and brother as a most beautiful gift.For me i want to have 2 babise,thus they won't be lonely.