Is it budding in if you ask me my opinion?

My in-laws butted in all the time, and my parents kept out unless they were asked. I think there is a happy medium. I'm not going to get in the middle of a relationship though, not unless I think my child is in danger. Doing that runs the risk of driving them closer together, I think.

If the parents are asked for their opinion over the relationship, then they can very well do so. As they are more experienced in life, they would now know what are the most proper things to do in a relationship. That's nice of your mother not to say anything bad about your sister's boyfriend, even if she don't find him likable.

It's not butting in, if the child asks, however, there are still limits. There are my three examples. a) Like myself, the person says nothing to their parents about the relationship, good or bad. We're not perfect, but we work well together. My mother stays out of it, but someone else who wouldn't would be butting in. b) Person tells parents about problems, they offer advice, but their involvement does not stop at the advice offered. That's butting in, where the child's questioning, and opinion asking ends, but the parents still keep offering, on every little thing. c) Child tells parent EVERYTHING, parent gets involved in EVERYTHING. Not butting, because the child tells all.

i think that sometimes it can make the situation worse if a parent always puts their child's partner down. It can raise a protective feeling and make them want to be with their chosen mate all the more. I think that it is also sometimes hard for protective parents to not see the bad if they think this person is or has wronged their child. I do think that it would be better to vent to a sister versus causing pressure in a relationship with the other child. It can be a strong seperating force.

When we get worried about sth, we may ask for help from close people. I think that's normal to ask people opinions. They may enlighten us in something we don't know what to do. It's all your choice to accept the advice or not.

u are telling the right but parents relationships leads to certain end take he or she he means the mother could stay with his sons house not in daughters house why because she married a person and went to others house after marriage but son never gone out beacuse he stay with his mothers home only

I don't get into anything unless someone asks my opinion! I do think its really only that persons business.

hi I think your mom is pretty darned smart. she knows she cou ld start a miserable war over your sisters boyfriends so she does not she is just there for you sister if she is needed. thats so loving and kind.Yes i think you have a point as once a child gets back to her partner shes not going to like to hear what she said earlier. theres a point where things should be forgotten and done away with.