Love someone else

Well Ithink that had happened to a lot of us and i dont think it could be said that it is cool for a person in that situation.I had been on both sides-been a person having a steady relationship with someone and being in love with someone else,and had been with a steady relationship with somebody while he had been in love with another woman.In the first story I felt very miserable both because I cared for that person and it was harmful to see him suffering because of me -because there is almost no way your partner wouldnt see if you are inlove with someone else.I felt bad also because I was somehow cheating to myself while being in a relationhship not with the one I truly wanted.And in the other case-there are very few worse things than loving someone and noticing you are not enough for him because he wishes to be in someone else's arms.So there is nothing cool about the cituation really.And it never ends well.

Hi shady and welcome to you to myLot. Your question if it is cool, no I do not think it is cool to love someone else while you are with someone else. It may be okay but not cool. My reason is that why would the person just not end a relationship first before they love someone else. It is probably best to break free to not hurt the person they are with. Maybe it is not love, but infatuation, not sure I guess I would have to know more about the person before I can respond to what I think, lol

Yes, but it's different. The person you know you are with is like a brother-or-sister to you. And the other person is 'just a friend ("with benefits")' Of course, this is BEFORE you're married to the person you know you're with. (maybe after-too, but it's a secret)

I think that it is possible to love someone else, but if you are already with somebody, I think a decision needs to be made as to whom you want to be with more. You can only make one true committment to one person, otherwise it's not really a committment.