I didn't call back while I got 5 missed calls from my ex

United States
March 9, 2011 3:11pm CST
Last night, I left my cell phone in the bed, and I was at the living watching television. Maybe I couldn't hear the ringing of the cell, when I ready to go to bed, I check my cell phone, there were 5 missed calls. All of them from my ex - girlfriend, and a voice message. She told me to call her back. Anyway, I thought about it, once we broke up, I just don't want to bother. So, I didn't and go to bed without call her back. Usually, when she need something, she would call me. So, I just don't get any of those hassles. Would you call back to check out what is going on?
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12 responses
• United States
9 Mar 11
If it were me no, but I suppose I should say that it depends for you on the level of caring you may have towards her. I say no for me, because I do not go backwards in life and if any of your reasons for not being with her are similar to the ones in my past exes, then I would say no again.
• United States
9 Mar 11
That is my answer. I would say no, since nothing major to her, not any emergency whatsoever. I rather keep looking forward with my life.
@Ionymc (21)
• Romania
10 Mar 11
mine to , what is done is done.But that is just me because i didn't had an ex that i could stay friends with.
• United States
11 Mar 11
Hi Ionymc and welcome to myLot, I have the same feelings I have never been friends with an ex either.
• Philippines
22 Mar 11
Why dont you try to call back or send a message to your ex may be she has a problem and she wanted you to help her because your still important to her or may be she still love you, well i think you dont really love her now but if i were you i will send a message and i will ask her what she needed.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 11
Hi, It is up to your choice whether to call your ex back or not. But from my point of view, even you guys have broke up,but still can be friend and talk to each other. If she were to call you few times, probably she really need to talk to you. Maybe you can just sent her an SMS and check what she want. Just a simple reply for her is fine.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
20 Mar 11
hi, if that would happen to me, i think i will not call back to know what is going on, why should i do to call back since that person is jut my ex...of course not,,,
@edb225112 (124)
• United States
10 Mar 11
So much depends on why the relationship ended. If she called you 5 times and left a voice mail message, sounds a bit like a demand reather than a request. To guess, you believe you didn't want to get into the same hassles which would be the reason for her call. I would delete the voice mail message and not take any of her calls. She will either move on or you will need to get a restraining order. Break-ups are always hard. The key is the ex in the ex-girlfriend.
@Uu4ria (63)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 11
There are just so much factors that will determine whether the callback should be made or not and only you kp, knew them all.Unless you are going to reveal her whole character and bare your own too lol the decision should be rightly reserve for yourself. Goodluck and cheers.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
10 Mar 11
Hi Kingparker, I actually would call my ex back because he doesn't call me often and when he does it is usually for a real reason. If I had an ex that was given to blowing up my phone with calls just to harrass, well, I would change my number and he would not have it.
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
9 Mar 11
i think you may need to try and cut the ties with your ex. make her understand she can not call you, unless it's something that was in regard to both of you. like a mutual friend is sick etc. but no i wouldn't call back.
@dreamnishu (1247)
• China
10 Mar 11
hello friend! No i don't call back him.because i do not like to turn back in my past life.who likes to go i really do not like to stop him.it is my policy.i think you are right my friend.if i was in your position i also did this same like you.so do not feel bad because you are right.best of luck. thanks a lot.
@Liliac26 (557)
• Romania
9 Mar 11
I wouldn't call, but I'd send her (him, in my case) a text message asking if there's anything wrong. If she/he called five times, it might be something serious. I wouldn't want to feel guilty afterwards.
@send2noel (140)
• Saudi Arabia
10 Mar 11
if you broke off nicely, why not. check she might need your help one way or another.
• Bulgaria
9 Mar 11
If I were you I would call her back.There is a big chance she just wanted to hear from you or she was missing you but five calls in a row sounds like something serious happened.And as we are all human beings even with the risk to bother yourself you should have checked out what is going on.She might have needed your help or she could even has been in some kind of trouble.It was probably just her wish to talk to you but there is only the chance she needed some kind of help and as you have spent some time togerther and shared some feelings I really think the propar thing to do was to call her back as she had asked you.