what would you do if you have friends in a wrong relationship

Philippines
March 9, 2011 10:13pm CST
its bothering me last few months ago about how many are my friends involve in a wrong relationship. I somehow felt pity for them to be inlove with a man that could never be their own after-all.. I admit that before i have been into that kind of situation and its too painful to stand on what its right for i know that the Lord sees all things & that kind of relationship will not work out after all. so i bear the pain now rather than bear too much pain if i make it longer. If your in my part, would you advice your friends with that kind of relationship or not? well im preferring to a 3rd party relationship here. thanks.
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
11 Mar 11
I would definitely talk to my friend in the first chance I had. I always tell them my mind, that's why those who weren't real friends aren't near me anymore, only friends can be thankfull for sincerity and honesty.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Mar 11
Personally unfortunately there are many out there who have been involved in a 3 part relationship and the odd fact is why do so many times someone cheat on a spouse, and never tell the person they are cheating with they are married even? I was involved with a married man many yrs. ago and would never have known he was married if somehow his wife would not have gotten a hold of my Phone number and Email address. She was the one who called me is how I found out he was Married. Had other women he has been involved with Email me after that as well. I was shocked and learned a lesson for sure then, but still wonder how someone can do so willingly?
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
For me I don't take it for friends I only neglect it.
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
Oh I'll try to put some sense on her that what she is doing is still wrong even if what she feels is right for her. Now if she still stand by her choice. Then so be it. Let her handle the effects of her doing. Let her learn from her mistakes. Just assure her when the time comes, she is done with her craziness and need to pick herself up again, you will just be there for her like a real friend would do.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
If my friend were in this situation, I will try to convince her to stay away from such relationship. If you mean third party to a married couple, there is always no justification for that. Even if the man would say that he loves the mistress more than his wife, he should get a divorce first or leave his wife before starting a new one. The mistress always loses in this situation because the man in the end would always choose the wife.
• Philippines
11 Mar 11
if i have friends who's in the wrong track.. ill tell them what was their mistake for only good friends can do that thing Ü painful but true
@khalida (1126)
• India
10 Mar 11
well i think your friend is not in a relationship yet but wants to be in with the guy she likes? if thats the case, they themselves should get over it once they uderstand that they can never get what they want. if they try now, they will at least have the satisfaction that they tried right?' you are such a sweet friend to care so much. wait till your friend comes around and you can help him/her out.
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
as a friend we always do our part. advice her never be in-love to a married man. and never show to her we like what she is doing. in short we never tolerate this kind of relationship. the problem now is, she never listen, she do what she want to do. This is her choice let her realize but she in to. I do believe someday, she will choice the right path.
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
there's nothing much you can do but to be a friend- listen, guide, and protect her. for one, your friend doesnt need unsolicited advices.i dont think she will heed your plea for her to stop. what she needs is someone who will listen to her story. not everything we see or hear on tv is the same as the real feelings that your friend has now. typically, these type of relationships often get negative reactions and are against moral standards but you know, when you get yourself in the same situation, its the only time that you will realize how hard it is for your friend to fight the feeling back. dont judge her. second, if you continue to go against her, there will come a time that she wont anymore tell you whats happening. and that will be a bigger cause for concern. im not saying tolerate her, just always remind what and what not to do. third, once she realizes her mistakes, she'll get tired herself and eventually stop. until then, show your support, not for the relationship she's in, but for her as your friend. lastly, continue to be a blessing to her. once in a while try to think of ways on how to make her happy because when a woman is in this kind of relationship, it will really drain her mentally and emotionally. she's going through a lot of emotional stress and you're the last person she expects to make her feel more down. dont let her hurt herself. sometimes people have reasons why they involve themselves in this kind of relationship. i dont encourage it though but ive seen a number of them which survived a lot of rough years going through the 'wrong relationship' stage and are completely happy with each other. its how fate worked for them. everything happens for a reason.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Mar 11
If you are a true friend, you will be honest and tell her your opinion of the relationship. But of course before saying it, you should assure her that you will be saying it because you love her as your friend and that you know that in the end it will be her pain. Whatever hurt she will get will be your hurt too, because you are her friend. I guess, with that she will not take it against you but would understand your feeling.