Stepmother

Hi toni Yes, there are many horrifying stories around when it comes to stepmother's and the step-kids... but this doesnt necessarily mean that all are that way. As you point out - the chances of wrong relationships arise when the step-mother has her own child... but that is quite natural as we are protective about what we create I told you on another discussion that you are a great mom and I believe that your If I were to become s stepmother, the first thing that I would do is to win my step-children's affection is just a proof of that statement from me

Hi. toniganzon. Although I may not really communicate with my stepmother on a daily basis, I would feel this way if I had a step child. I could not be nasty to them just because they were conceived by another woman. If I really love their father, I will accept any child that he has created, even if it was not with me. I could not be hateful to my step child. It is not their fault at all.

HI, Being a stepmother is not easy and this status has a big responsibility and to most people, they won't have a good impression on stepmother. Even I myself,...if I were to have a stepmother, I don't think I can accept her truly in my heart.For me, my mother is the best and in the first place in my heart,no one can ever replace her. But your last sentence does make sense. if you really become a stepmother, the first thing need to do is to win the heart of your husband's children ,treat his children as your own's children. Have a good interaction with them and if you were given cool shoulder, bear with it and show them your sincerity. I believe one day,they will accept you too.

I'm sure all of your stepchildren will really love you until the end. Im very proud for those people that takes care of children even they are not their own. Love for every people is really important.

I think for child,nobody can takes place of his own parents.But when such a circumstances arrives when someone need to develop steprelationships he or she should be very careful,loving and understanding the emotions of child.What happened in such relationships that stepparents treats the child generally while child is expecting some special treatment.I really appreciate your thoughts about step relationships.Have a nice day.

My stepmother is never cruel to us. She treated us as if her own children. In times that we have arguments, we can easily patched up because she is willing to listen to our opinions as we make discussions. Her birthday will be on March 15. I love my stepmother and i love my step brothers and sisters.

I don't quiet understand why stepparents have a bad reputation, maybe its just from the movies. It would be hard to come into a family and replace the parent. I suppose it depends on the circumstances surrounding the family and how the children feel towards the person. What about mother in laws, they seem to cause more problems than a stepmother would. But that's a generalization too.. A stepmother has a choice to be involved with a family.

hello toni, That's sweet of you. I can prove that not all step-moms are bad. I was raised by my step-grandmother (who is my mom's step-mom) Yes,i was just a baby when my grandparents (biological grandpa and step-grandma) took me and adopted me as their very own child. I never known that my grandma is just a step-mom of my mom,because my grandma loves me that much. Have a great day

attract the attention of a child, in general, very difficult because you are required to be patient and always continue to give your attention to the child that's. This thing, sometimes can not be done by a stepmother. In generaly, a stepmother can't be patient when she faced the actions her stepchild. Because can't be patient, she easy to angry. In other side, if stepmother wanna make a rule to her stepchild, sometime, the stepchild not wanna follow it with reasoning, before there stepmother, he can free wanna do which became he want. Remember, attract attention so that a child can bring himself close to people who previously he did not know, can not be done quickly. It took a long time process. This meant, you must have more patient ... so, you can do that ? I hope you can. If you can love his father, so, you must can love his child, too

I have this friends who was adopted. His stepparents loves him as much as they love his step brother. It's so amazing coz i used to think step parents were cruel and mean and everything else, but my friend's family proved my thinking to be wrong. Step parents can be the awesome-st parents (not in all cases though). And you have a good thinking and a good heart too. People should love their children, be it own or step.

I don't think that a stepmother could never love a stepdaugher like her own.Beacuse in my next door ,it have a stepmother very love her daughter that is not her own.And they live very happy too.So I think pelple get along with the important thing is that we shoule communicate with each other.

I think depending on the stepmother, they can actually be very loving and wonderful stepmothers, who really care about the child. There can also be not so good stepmothers, it all depends on the individual and their level of caring. I have seen both incidences. Either way, there is some adjustment involved. There has to be several elements in place for this to work. The usual suspects being trust, caring respect, good communication, nuturing and honesty, to name a few. It all boils down to making how much both parties put into the making of it into a quality relationship!