I Must Have STUPID Tattooed On My Forehead...

LOL. I agree with you.. I couldn't afford the classes.. And she know with 4 dogs and 15 cats in the house. there isn't another boarder willing to move in here.. so I don't think that would fly.. i guess i am going to have to be direct. grrr.. I hate stress. I'd rather have the enema.. lol

Lmao... I wonder if that will work.. hehe

sorry - I forgot the animals. Maybe you should paint big red splotches on your face and stagger to the phone muttering, "Gotta see a doctor ... I think what Tiddles has got is contagious ..." Or something.

Thanks for the Advice... Not sure yet how it's gong to unfold.. But I did "blow up" on both my roommates this morning. "She" said she was going to give me 100 bucks this week. my other roommate who is unemployed.. but helps out around the house.. was complaining about me asking him to check on the toilet "running". After the last couple of days I just went off.. He pays NO rent.. he doesn't do much around the house.. yard work and shoveling. A few odd handyman thing here and there. He gets free internet, roof, heat etc.. and he is going to complain about something he tells me is so easy I should be able to do it.. ugh. A half hour of work and doesn't want to do it. LOL. after I "blew up" he didn't come downstairs for the rest of the day. when it was time to let the dogs out.. he just sent his dog down and didn't bother coming down himself... I doubt that means he's scared of me though.. lol. I think it means he's ticked off because I was screaming and the neighbors could hear. OH WELL, I told both of them I was NOT their Mother and I don't OWE them anything! Now I wait and see what happens... that isn't quite how I wanted it to go down. but I think they got the message that I was pissed. :-)

Gee, I didn't even know there were two of them. Well I guess that should do fine and they probably got the message. Knowing that your place isn't a refuge center or an orphanage. Lol. If they don't get the message well there is no hope for those two. Cheers!

Wow,.... I'd know there were two either, and though the jobless one does some work, it isn't enough for the free room and board. The jobless one needs more work to do around the house or get a job, (But still do some chores) and the other one, I really hope she gets you the money, because it just might be a ploy for extra time until she can try to come up with another sob story.. I'm sorry Minx, you have a big heart and if I was in your situation, I also would have trouble kicking someone out, but reading about it, I would to just kick both your roommates out and find a couple other people who will appreciate finding a place to stay..

I think you WILL be able to because it has got you feeling the way you are feeling right now so better a firm talk that a shouting match when you finally lose it with her completely eh! Good luck.

Thank you I am going to need it. :)

And That is EXACTLY what I should do.. But Will I actually be able to do it?

I wish she would pay me.. (well and not steal from me) and Then I could put up with all the other things that are ticking me off.. My problem is I KNOW she has nowhere else to go.. so what would she do? Unless she can find another friend out there that wants to be used.. I don't know how to get her to leave.

Are there no rooms for rent in your town? How about the Y, or a motel?

LOL Barbara, if she can't "afford" to pay me $50 - I doubt she'd be able to swing 3-4 times that a week... LOL

Thanks for the comment... I can see it is not uncommon for friends to think that they are owed something just for being a friend. I wish I could learn to take advantage of people this way.. I guess because I have a Conscience it is probably not going to happen. I had a blow up at her and my other roommate this morning. for more info red comment #6 on page 1. NOW I guess I have to wait and see if anything changes.. It better or they have not heard the end of my wrath. :-) thank you for the advice.

Yea, I am still annoyed. I doubt I can get the other one to do much more. I have tried the jiggling handle with the toilet. it doesn't work much. We have 4 people in the house too. but wow, $1000 that is a lot for heat. We are paying over $300 a month plus and increase in the Electric. and now with this water bill tripling last month. I am getting very frustrated.

Hiya minx, Only 100 Dollars wow that is a real well could I put that into words what I am thinking sort very annoyed I would be. Can´t you get the other one to do anything either? Actually for a Toilet that "runs" I usually lift up the "knob" itself and give it three gentle tugs and it usually goes away. Considering what we pay which is something like a thousand Dollars with the Heating for the four of us a Month I would think that I was in some sort of Holiday thing. I did read the response yes.

Thank you.. I know What I SHOULD do.. it's making me sick trying to get up the courage for the actual DOING it part.

Hmm. A large bottle of house red, methinks ... Worked for me. Mind you, I ended up redundant. Guess telling the boss where to stuff his data return forms wasn't the best career move ...

Thanks Gabs.. I ended up blowing up at my other roommate adn while I was on a roll -so to speak I started yelling at her too. she then promised she would pay some money this week. I guess I will see what happens.

Hi sid, thanks for the comment. there was a blow up of sorts this morning. started with my other "non-working" roommate. I guess I will have to see what happens next. for more on what happened -check out the response on comment #6 on the first page. thanks for the advice.

I truly, think, Marti has said it all..and I fully concur, that was just "verbal appeasement"..and you will be back in the same rut, next week, unless you follow this good advice. I have been in your shoes (a friend since 1968)that kept popping back into my life whenever she needed a port in the storm. When she needed rehab., etc., last time I told her never again...she's moved on..NEVER speaks to me again..but that is life! So glad you vented steam!

Yeah, I think you're still going to need it. I have a feeling that they think you'll calm down eventually and that everything will go back to "normal". Her paying $100 isn't anywhere near what she owes you. It is something but I think she's just trying to calm you down with that offer. If she actually does give you $100, I'm betting you won't see another $50 next week and another $50 a week after that, and so on. I'm saying this because I went through something similar. Money wasn't involved in my situation but everyone doing their share of the work was. I blew up and things got better for a week or so, then went right back to the way they were. I ended up moving out and let them fend for themselves. Of course, it wasn't my house I moved out of. You are going to have to sit down with both of your housemates and lay down the law. Write something up that explains exactly what you expect from each person and have them sign it. It would be more legal if it was notarized but that's not always important as sometimes just a document is enough to make people start to do their part. You need to give your female roomie the ultimatum that she pays you $50/week as originally discussed and agreed upon or get out within a week of not paying. For your male roomie, something along the lines of him doing dishes, vaccuuming, dusting, taking out the garbage, any and ALL handiman chores, etc. He sounds like he's there for a free ride, too, I'm sorry to say. Yeah, it looks like they're both taking you for whatever they can get. Your male roomie sounds just like my youngest son. He lived with my oldest son for 2 years without getting a job or paying him anything. The "agreement" was that my youngest would do the housework in exchange for room and board. After awhile, he started complaining about all the work that he was expected to do and stopped doing almost all of it. My oldest son threw him out. It was the best move he could have made because it has made my youngest son realize that you just can't continue to get something for nothing. My youngest son has bounced around 3 times from friend's house to friend's house and he now realizes he actually has to pull his weight in this world. You may have to do that with your male roomie. If he's complaining now about something as "easy" (his word) as the toilet issue, it's obvious that he's expecting you to just take care of him and he has no intention of pulling his weight. Blowing up is good for the short term but you really need to "legalize" what you expect from each one or you'll always have these problems with them. REMEMBER: These people are NOT treating you like a friend would. They have proven that they are not your friends by taking advantage of you. DO NOT feel bad about giving them an ultimatum: shape up or get out. You have to tackle this problem now as any businessperson would, legally. A true friend would NEVER put you through this. I really wish I could be there to help you through this because I do have experience in it and have no problem laying down the law. I hope you can "stand tough" and do what you need to do for your own well-being and sanity.

Thanks for the comment.. sorry it took so long to respond. you have great advice. to find out what happened this morning. read my response on comment #6 on the previous page. Thanks for the luck. I think I am still going to need it.

Good for you!!

I just don't get how people you help out figure you OWE them. They should be so grateful for the help that they are volunteering their time to help you anyway they could. I know I would.. but apparently every one now a days thinks they are owed something if not from the government then from their friends.. I am not taking anymore of this. I blew up at her and my other NON working- non paying roommate.. I left a response on comment #6 on the previous page about what happened. :-)

Thanks for the comment. I did "blow up" this morning at my 2 roommates. and she promised to pay me money this week. we will see what happens. I left more details on first page comment #6 about what happened.

I actually have 3 but the 3rd one is co-owner of the house. so she at least pays her half of the mortgage. And she retired so gets only pension income so it's a struggle forth e both of us to manage the high cost of the heat and electricity in the winter. But she's no help around the house either... she is a hoarder and has basically pushed her self out of her bedroom but that is a whole other story. I can find room or kick out some bums whenever you want to move in.. lol

LOL. If you want to move to Connecticut.. I'm taking offers.. lol I had a blow up this morning.. to read more check out my response on comment #6 on previous page. :-) Thanks for your response.

I did read it! You already have two roommates? Is there any room for me?! If I decided to move? I hope everything gets better, specially now after the blow up. And that everybody knows that you mean business.

I too barely ever have cash on me I use debit cards for everything.. That's why it is very noticeable that When I have money in my purse -I KNOW exactly How much is there and I am going to notice it missing. I am still fuming. but she is going to start paying me or else. I blew up this morning more at my other roommate.. but then I went off on her too.. Read comment I left for Dawnald above. :-)

I'm starting to think not.. but a little hard to get rid of them once they established residency and neither have a place to go.

Wow, I never knew you had two room-mates either! Is it worth all the hassle I ask myself?

You are right, I should not have been so nice to begin with. I Think more along the lines of Karma, if you do something good it will come back to you. Only for me it seems to backfire. I get used instead. sorry it took so long to respond. I was waiting for something to happen at home. and it finally did this morning. to find out what.. read the response I left on comment #6 on page 1 of this discussion. thank you for your comments and advice.

LMAO.. you all make it sound so easy... haha

I thank you for your comments.. sorry it took so long to respond. It all came to a head this morning. so as not to be redundant I am going to refer you to comment #6 on the previous page to see what happened. She said she will pay this coming week. If not there will be another blow up. But hopefully it doesn't come to that.. I am a little annoyed about the missing money but you are probably right.. it will probably be a cold day in hell before I see it again.

Wow, you bent over backward to help her and I can't believe that comment from her father.. WELL, YOU ARE NOT HER PARENT and had no responsibility to her. Which is basically what I said to my roommates this morning when I blew up. For more read the response I left on comment #6 on the previous page. And she had better pay or I will tell her to get out. And I'd like to see her find someplace she can get everything for $50 a week...

Thanks for the advice.. unfortunately it didn't go down that way this morning.. see #6 response on previous page. but Hopefully I get some money and I am not letting this go on.

I think you are right. I have 2 friends that I have know for the same amount of time and They are both living with me and paying nothing. I think it is about time I stop being nice. I blew up at them both this morning. for more info about what happened. read comment #6 on the previous page. Thank you for your comment.

I don't think I would even like family to take advantage of me. Read the response I left on the previous page comment #6 for what happened this morning.. :-)