Why Do People Fall In and Out of LOVE?

People fall in love with the idea of falling in love. But that is not really what is happening in reality. When we are in love, we try not to be rational and just let our feelings take over us. When reality sinks in, we sometimes couldn't find anymore the person we have fallen in love with in the beginning. It seems to be another person we hardly know. There really are no happy ever afters if both parties are not willing to work on their relationships. We are not perfect individuals to start on, and it will take a lot of compromises and understanding to make a relationship work.

I think it could be because of boredom within the relationship. Sometimes couples are so excited with each other's company at the beginning of the relationship, but when things and situation change, they also affect the status of the relationship. Usually, time is one aspect that affects relationships and the feeling of falling out of love with someone. Or maybe ti could also be because of some painful reasons that the other person might have experienced while in the relationship.

Well, i think, that's not love. I'm sorry to say but it could fall into the category of infatuation or something. I believe love is a feeling that can last a lifetime...love is patient. People, when they feel good about something, they usually say it is love but when not, then it isn't. That's not how it is for me. Love can survive through the most difficult situations and guide you to where you should go. Once you love, it is always there in your heart and like one person said, there's no turning back from it.

Hi xien2xien, I really do not think people/couples actually fall out of love in a day or moment. What I think happens is that people finally realize it is over and perhaps did not want to think in that direction before. It could be that one day they finally realize it.

I actually have never been in love. I take the word "love" really seriously so I don't consider anything less from what I think what love is and call it love. I'm already 20 so I don't know. It may happen soon I hope. I have been infatuated a lot of times though. I know exactly what you are talking about in the infatuated and not love way. I know this guy who I thought was the one but as I come to know him more, the more that I realized that we are not on the same page. The more that I also recognize the bad things about him that I was so blinded before to see. If you no longer like or even love someone I think it's your responsibility to be sure that you are really falling out of love from them. It can be just that you're around them so much that things becomes do routine and boring. Try to put some excitement in the relationship to spark things up a bit.

its a human nature...but i truly believe that falling in love is something that you can learn...im talking base on my experience

That is something, isn't it? Human nature just too complicated to understand, and I can't explain that feeling or emotion myself too. I wish I understand what is love. And you can't explain that in word. Oh well, I feel the same. I was madly in love with this girl once, and after 2 years, I totally change my perspective toward her.

hmm i felt and still feeling its that i loove one sand i cant be happy without him:)he is my life.i always think about him,and wana have happy conjugal life with him.everyone falls in love becasue they want have someone special who love him,who care him,and whom do he/she can share everything of life,so this way man falling in love,and when he found that his/her beloved not trusted,dishonest with him,then that love became in hate:P so i think

love at first sight is something that one can't explain. it is a heart pumping experience, can't be explain, it's like you want to share the day with him and wish that there will be no tomorrow. the problem is that emotions may change. today you might feel love but tomorrow it may be lost. what is important is that you have loved than never had love before.

Yes!Like a person,you can feel everything that has a relationship with him.You would rather change yourself.But the loss of a person that you love ,it is so uncomfortable,that discomfort may continue for a long period of time.

yes.. but take note its just a temporary feeling when you say its one moment.. things are good that way if you knew each other deeply .. so that no mistakes would be tolerated Ü